Dating thread 210 - thwarted hearts, fresh starts

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I've just seen the guy I need to ask to come and plaster my ceiling on Bumble. I could just message him (we're friends on Facebook and know each other). He is rather fit, I've never really seen it before but I'm changing my mind now.

@Iamclearlyamug

I’m hoooome guys, it was such a lush date - shame he’s so geographically undesirable, must NOT I repeat must NOT get attached to this one 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️😂

Just enjoy! 😘

"I am a hopeless romantic and always strive to believe in the good within everyone. I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt. I am looking for equally positive partner who loves to try new experiences and is great and open communicator."

And all I can think is "but how tall are you?" What's wrong within me!

With me... not within me... I'm sounding as intense as that profile!

@WeWantTheFinestWines 🤣🤣🤣

@WeWantTheFinestWines

With me... not within me... I'm sounding as intense as that profile!

Was that a profile or a message?

I find all that character self analysis a bit intense and also - I prefer to find out for myself if you're a good communicator rather than you telling me?

4 matches on bumble.. 3 non replies to ice breaker, 1 convo which then dried up.
I’m doing well!! 😂

@WeWantTheFinestWines

"I am a hopeless romantic and always strive to believe in the good within everyone. I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt. I am looking for equally positive partner who loves to try new experiences and is great and open communicator."

And all I can think is "but how tall are you?" What's wrong within me!

All I can think is "But are you a Bot?"

@dancemom

So I've matched with a guy on Tinder and I clearly didn't look at his profile clearly before I swiped because now it's obvious he has something stuffed down his shorts in 2 photos 😆😆😆

He's messaged and being very flirty, I'm tempted to keep replying just to see how long I last before o ask him about his stuffed pants 😆

OMG yes you have to ask him. Is that a half a box of tissues down your pants or are you just pleased to see me?

It was a profile. And it just sounds red flaggy to me instead of deep. He also said he wanted to find out about each other in messaging and video call before meeting. Feels controlling. Shame as he's fit. Or bot. Who knows?!

@WeWantTheFinestWines

It was a profile. And it just sounds red flaggy to me instead of deep. He also said he wanted to find out about each other in messaging and video call before meeting. Feels controlling. Shame as he's fit. Or bot. Who knows?!

Sounds dull and over prescriptive to me!

But I'm no guru 😊

Glad to hear that it's going well with Mr. Russian, @Iamclearlyamug ❤️

I wouldn’t meet anyone I hadn’t messaged AND spoken to on the phone.

Going well with MrC. Really lovely

@Shuffleuplove

I wouldn’t meet anyone I hadn’t messaged AND spoken to on the phone.

Didn't want to give the wrong idea- I do agree with that too! Just not the over ordered profile

"I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt"

This kind of felt a bit TMI - like someone who uses "brutal honesty as a weapon"

I mean it's good if someone communicates well, but you find that out by interacting?

That line just made me think of the Harry Enfield "No Offence" Yorkshireman who "just says what he thinks"

@FireandBrimstone less tissues more this 😳

[quote dancemom]@FireandBrimstone less tissues more this 😳

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😂😂😂🙈🙈🙈

"I am a hopeless romantic and always strive believe in the good within everyone. I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt. I am looking for equally positive partner who loves to try new experiences and is great and open communicator."

That’s so funny as I never hit posts like this
They immediately irritate me

Yeah , we are all different !

And I’m iron less so yeah

@Thisisworsethananticpated

"I am a hopeless romantic and always strive believe in the good within everyone. I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt. I am looking for equally positive partner who loves to try new experiences and is great and open communicator."

That’s so funny as I never hit posts like this
They immediately irritate me

Yeah , we are all different !

And I’m iron less so yeah

When that is the best Tinder has to offer, being ironless is definitely the sane option.

@WeWantTheFinestWines

"I am a hopeless romantic and always strive to believe in the good within everyone. I am straightforward about my needs, and honest when I feel hurt. I am looking for equally positive partner who loves to try new experiences and is great and open communicator."

And all I can think is "but how tall are you?" What's wrong within me!

🤣 I think this too. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. No height = hiding something.

If they feel it's OK to omit important basic info on their profile then they are not "straightforward".

@Shayelle2009

4 matches on bumble.. 3 non replies to ice breaker, 1 convo which then dried up. I’m doing well!! 😂

@Shayelle2009 it sounds like you're having about as much luck as I am 🙄

I'm starting to think Bumble is just for lazy men who either can't be arsed or just don't actually want a relationship.

@dancemom 🤣

@Shayelle2009

I’m a bit anti app at the moment but definitely had similar experiences on Bumble - lots of very nice looking matches - initial thought is “this is like heaven compared to tinder!”

but no replies or the only guys who reply are desperate or creepy or want a hookup or have something off-putting that comes up in chat but wasn’t in their profile!

Update : i didn't meet Mr Talker for a first date after date zero. He kept changing the time and eventually suggested i drive to his place fur a couple of hours ... that would involve a total of 3 hours driving in s Friday night for me... no chance!!