Dating thread 209: Summer of Love 2021

[BelladiMamma]

I've put a screenshot of the RULES here

Dear newbies and oldies they're excellent words of wisdom and deserve to be read frequently

Here's to all of us navigating the sea of twats, the tsunami of penpals and the ever receding tide of ghosters

Let's kick them into touch and have a summer of love ❤️

@Onesmallstep67 I would seriously consider it but it’s cancelled again this year - bloody Covid!
If I’m still hanging round on apps this time next year we’ll arrange a thread excursion to Lisdoonvarna

Lisdoonvarna sounds fun!! I wanna go 😍❤️❤️

Yay gang, I want to come to Lisqu... Looskv... I want to come to the place with all the single men!😊

Yay thread trip to Lisdoonvarna !
@Isitreallyme177, sending a virtual hug. It’s difficult when parts of life feel out of kilter. Talking is always good and so is breaking the cycle by doing something physical and being in the moment with that. ❤️

@Onesmallstep67 I think we stayed at The hydro and then when we went back to visit the mate that stayed, we stayed at Hylands. She lives near Ballyvaughan. God they were wild times. They came out of the hills!

Thank you @Dropdeadfred2 he did reply and did explain whats going on, did say it wasn't me too. I'm glad I sent it.

@Onesmallstep67 it's the first time I've actually spoken to someone about how I actually feel about myself and I ended up being completely honest. The walk was definitely needed, I used to do that walk during the November lockdown and it's always good for the soul.

@isitreallyme177 sorry you’re having a rotten time of it. Life won’t always be this way! X

News from here is that my Date Zero for Sunday has gone quiet. I know he works long hours in a mentally demanding job but I haven’t heard anything since yesterday lunch.

Just got back from date zero with mr Kia. Nice guy, very polite but absolutely no spark - pretty sure he felt the same. Onwards and upwards 🤷‍♀️

I have a few potential date 0's for next week.

I need to get out of the funk I'm in today and commit. I have been over thinking and what iffing today about everything.

I have a date lined up for Monday - and it’s dinner with the guy who lives too far away, but is working in my area next week- I shall name him Mr Lumberjack:). I’m really going to get back on the dating horse so to speak - first first date of 2021:)

Walk or coffee scheduled in with MrC

(Not really sure what’s going to happen but might be flirty. We shall see!)

Well, I have an update on Mr Metal..

I've come off the apps..and he has too! 😂

I realised, ahead of our third date the other day, that I had completely lost interest in talking to any of my other irons. I also found myself being really excited about seeing him again and even though I was a little worried he might think it too soon, I thought all I can do is just be honest and lay my cards on the table. So I told him all of that and he felt the same. I went to delete my apps this morning and noticed that he has already done it 😆

Our third date was pretty simple as I was only on a break from work so we went for a nice walk. We kissed again and he held my hand 😊

Not sure if this makes him Mr M now? I've told him that I'm totally fine with not putting a label on things yet and just getting to know him, so we aren't 'official' but we are exclusive if that makes sense?

I'm so happy but also slightly terrified 😬

@troobleflooble lovely update!! Glad to hear things are going well❤️

@troobleflooble

That’s a lovely update

@troobleflooble great update!!

Loving reading your updates!

I fear my date zeros are a work of fiction as still no matches on Bumble I tried Tinder but it's pretty dire...have swiped a few late last night so let's see. The two matches I got yesterday evening were not on my wavelength at all!

Saw the most lovely looking guy in the pub after work last night, so frustrating - why can't they be definitely single and on an app ready to fall into our laps

Still friendly with two date guy Mr Surf. We're going to meet for dinner once he's had his kids for a couple of weeks and I AM going to ask what changed his mind. Was it just my tendency to second guess myself or more than that...big girl pants needed but it'll bug me forever otherwise!

Got a busy date free weekend ahead at least!

Lovely update @troobleflooble, really hope it works out for you, gives the rest of us hope 💗💗

@troobleflooble do you mind me asking how long you have been OLD? And what your age is.. just wondered if you’d been searching for a while or if you found MrMetal quite quickly?

I have a question re dates.

Planned date zero for Sunday, venue sorted but need to confirm time. Lots of texts about how nice it will be, not long to go etc.

But, not heard off him since a very short text on Wednesday. How long do I give it before I book myself up for something else? I don’t want to send a “are we still on for Sunday” type thing as it’s been me that’s initiated contact the last few times.

Thoughts please!

@Shuffleuplove

I have a question re dates.

Planned date zero for Sunday, venue sorted but need to confirm time. Lots of texts about how nice it will be, not long to go etc.

But, not heard off him since a very short text on Wednesday. How long do I give it before I book myself up for something else? I don’t want to send a “are we still on for Sunday” type thing as it’s been me that’s initiated contact the last few times.

Thoughts please!

Nothing wrong with dropping a text to confirm the time. Some blokes aren't very communicative ahead of a first date but you won't be the first person to have asked them to confirm a time so no it doesn't make you look desperate and no there's nothing wrong with asking

Ah yes, but what if actually this is him going quiet and he’s gone off the idea?

Better to find out sooner then i guess. If just suggest a time eg 3pm Sunday workfor you? Ah then wait for a response

@Shayelle2009 I'm mid 30's, been on the apps properly since January but on and off since 2018. I live quite rurally so there isn't an abundance of eligible men in my area 😂

@Shuffleuplove nothing wrong with just confirming times. If you ask and he ignores you then you have your answer about whether he's changed his mind, if not then it puts your mind at ease and you don't have to stress about it 😊

Yes I would ask in a ‘trying to sort plans for the weekend are we still ok for Sunday and does 3pm work’ so it’s clear to him you need to confirm the time because of your super busy lifestyle! If he’s going quiet to fade you out you’ll know because he’ll have to ignore a direct question.
I’d do it today so you don’t spend a second of your weekend wondering either way.