Dating thread 209: Summer of Love 2021

[BelladiMamma]

I've put a screenshot of the RULES here

Dear newbies and oldies they're excellent words of wisdom and deserve to be read frequently

Here's to all of us navigating the sea of twats, the tsunami of penpals and the ever receding tide of ghosters

Let's kick them into touch and have a summer of love ❤️

@Shuffleuplove

LONGSHOT

Bloody hell sorry!

Hahaha

I had a peek on muddy matches. It seems a sweet little site. Only 16 people came up within a 20 mile radius however and I recognised 3 faces from Tinder!!
Im officially too scared to date however, so deleted my profile on there within 10 mins.

@Shayelle2009

Hope thats not a premonition *@Shuffleuplove* 😆

@BelladiMamma that is some dating style you have right there 😎

To be fair, I'm off work, all my summer plans have been upended because of Kennel cough Concussion Covid So I'm at a bit of a loose end. I'm reasonably high energy and like a lot of people on the thread if I can't get my exercise in I go a bit doolally I've swiped through all of bumble in one week within a 30 mile radius and am starting to send people much shorter opening messages so I don't over think things I unmatch very quickly if I'm uncomfortable with anything

Probably a daft question but what's the likelihood of meeting someone in RL. And where would you meet them?

I'm reluctant to go back on the apps but no idea where to meet anyone otherwise.
I'm early 50s, work alone and all my friends are in relationships.

I do a couple of sports but people there are mostly younger than me.
Tried meetup pre-pandemic but the groups I went to were mostly women.

Should I just hang round the frozen pizzas in Tesco?

@BelladiMamma same, I should be in France right now with my family 😠
It’s shitty 😢

@EchoElephant you could take up salsa? Its a good way to meet people.

Shayelle2009 I looked into doing salsa a couple of years ago but there weren't any classes nearby
Good idea, though, so I'll have another look

A lot of the blokes are in running clubs, cycling clubs and also (yawn) playing golf. A good few play tennis as well.

I think the chances of meeting someone in real life are slim enough for me. Wfh, covid restrictions in bars mean those interactions with strangers are basically impossible, I also think I give off a ‘don’t bother’ vibe when I’m out though I’m working on looking more approachable
Maybe the frozen pizza aisle is a good idea:) might get cold though

I have chats going with too many irons. Of course the one I really want is the one with family issues who isn’t in the headspace for dating but has come back chatting because he missed me apparently
I have a few days off work and child free next week so am planning a date zero frenzy to see if I can get one good one out of the lot of them!

@MayEye

I have chats going with too many irons. Of course the one I really want is the one with family issues who isn’t in the headspace for dating but has come back chatting because he missed me apparently I have a few days off work and child free next week so am planning a date zero frenzy to see if I can get one good one out of the lot of them!

That's the spirit! Hopefully you can get them all ticked off on one day so that you don't have to waste your week on them 😎

@MayEye Has Mr TG returned or do you mean someone else?

If its Mr TG he's probably come back because he is worried you've moved on 🙄

@SortingItOut - No it’s not Mr TG, it’s probably Mr TG mark 2 but with more emotional intelligence!
I’m leaving it as chats for now and investing my time in other irons who seem more up for meeting and dating.

MayEye I think I also have a "don't bother me" vibe. I'm just not used to interacting with people on a daily basis.
The closest I've got to a conversation today was with the self serve checkout at Sainsbury.
There was no one in the pizza aisle today.

I might have to venture on the apps soon.

The closest I've got to a conversation today was with the self serve checkout at Sainsbury.

Lol @EchoElephant I can totally relate!!

When 'you have an unexpected item in the baggage area' becomes the most sensual thing someone has said to you in months
🤣

@BelladiMamma hope these dates go well, looking forward to the debrief as you’re very busy 😜🔥

I’ve got a date zero later on guys, with a new iron I haven’t mentioned yet, we’ll call him Mr Kia since that’s who he works for 😂

We’ve chatted loads on WhatsApp, not awkward at all, very very similar in lots of ways, lots to talk about etc. Just going to the beach for a walk so nice and casual. I’m nervous, normally I’d wear shorts and a vest top but I’m feeling fat, frumpy and self conscious today - what else can I wear 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[quote Iamclearlyamug]@BelladiMamma hope these dates go well, looking forward to the debrief as you’re very busy 😜🔥

I’ve got a date zero later on guys, with a new iron I haven’t mentioned yet, we’ll call him Mr Kia since that’s who he works for 😂

We’ve chatted loads on WhatsApp, not awkward at all, very very similar in lots of ways, lots to talk about etc. Just going to the beach for a walk so nice and casual. I’m nervous, normally I’d wear shorts and a vest top but I’m feeling fat, frumpy and self conscious today - what else can I wear 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️[/quote]
Look at wyse London on Instagram, they have some nice outfit ideas x

Messages from MrC today and MrDinner few days ago just as I’ve been asked to contribute to my first research paper

So fuck off lads it’s not sausage fest week.

Do want some cock though and MrC looked so so good last time we met also MrDinner had a lovely date I couldn’t make and he’s decent.

DECISIONS of women in STEM

@MayEye, I have family in Lisdoonvarna, you could head across for the Matchmaking festival in September. I will get my aunt to chaperone you. How are you at The Siege of Ennis ? 😂
Very jealous of all the beach walking dates. Bit of a jaunt for me as I am 100 miles plus from any coastline!
I have a back garden full of teenagers celebrating their exams to look forward to tonight- pass the

Oh my good I’ve been to Lisdoonvarna for the matchmaking and my friend married a bloke she met there!

@EchoElephant - why frozen pizza? Surely dips etc.. would be better for a conversation starter . Good place for salsa too ...

• I'll get my virtual coat

RayoftheTriffids
Lol

@Shuffleuplove, how funny! My family owned half the pubs and bars there at one point. Still a couple of cousins keeping the name alive ☘️

Evening everyone. Firstly thank you everyone for your advice and wise words yesterday.

I feel better today, I had a really long chat with a personal trainer earlier. He got me talking about some deep shit and it was really eye opening, it isn't just about losing the weight but other stuff too. I think it was good to talk to someone about how I feel and it goes deeper than my weight, it was almost like a counselling session (shame he is so bloody expensive). I then went on an 8 mile walk (it seemed like a good idea at the time my feet disagree now) and had some major time for thinking.

When I got back I messaged Mr Cricket apologising if I've been too full on and if I have made him feel uncomfortable, saying I respected his honesty about just wanting friendship and I hope that we can still do that (I genuinely think he was being honest about wanting to stay friends and I did what I usually do, misread and went full on).

I also miss Computer Geek so bloody much(I was in his home town shopping this morning) but I'm okay with that. I know deep down he isn't a twat and the man I met was very broken so his actions whilst they hurt me did make sense now I look back. I think he will always be the right man, wrong time.

Let's see how long this lasts but I feel much better in general after a shit couple of months. I'm not sure dating is the right thing for me right now mind you. If only there was a way to bypass all this dating stage and just find that man to spend the rest of my life with🤔.

Glad you're feeling better @isitreallyme177.
It can be really hard to pick yourself up after a disappointment ...i hope Mr Cricket replies... but not enough to wind you back in .