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Bizarre Evening!

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 21:39

Hi all,

I'm feeling a bit baffled and wanted to sound off to someone about this!

I have been dating someone, very new, saw him last yesterday.

I was on my way to his this evening, asked and confirmed by him and I told him when I set off. Called when I arrived and he said he'd nipped to the shop and would be a few minutes. Normal phone call, everything fine. So I wait... and wait... and check my phone and he has blocked me from WhatsApp! So I call him, nothing.

What has happened here?! I know nobody can tell me. It was a 30 minute drive each way, so 1 hour in the car.

Obviously it's done which is a shame but it is what it is.

Has this happened to anyone else?!

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happinessischocolate · 01/08/2021 22:05

Absolute twat and a coward.

At least he could have said I'm really sorry and then some excuse about something happening and then once your home a message to say sorry it's not working but to block you when you're outside. Twat.

Block him on everything.

Kittykat93 · 01/08/2021 22:09

How strange! I'd be forever wondering why

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:10

I agree. If he'd have given a reason or even an excuse it would be a different story and I wouldn't be here moaning about him!

It was the fact I was outside, he knew I was outside, I'd been on the phone to him 30 seconds before and he blocked me in that time, knowing I was waiting for him to come back from the shop! I just dont know what changed in those few seconds.

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:13

This is just the start of the shite treatment I've had by males so I'll forget about it pretty quickly Grin

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:15

Also just seen he's unmatched me from the app we met on Confused

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Feelingoktoday · 01/08/2021 22:16

How rude of him. Modern technology has made it so easy for people to be dicks.

ParrotsAteThemAll · 01/08/2021 22:19

More than likely dating multiple people and had a better offer. I’m so sorry, but at least you’ve found out now what a prick he is!

LopsidedWombat · 01/08/2021 22:20

Oh my god that really is bizarre. How had things been in general, did you like him, was he nice to you? My first thought is that could he be some sort of really weird misogynist who intended to do this all along? Treat you well then blindside you? Sounds extreme I know but after myself and my friends used dating apps a few years back I wouldn't be surprised by anything!

5togo · 01/08/2021 22:20

That’s very weird to say he was at the shop.

Windingroad21 · 01/08/2021 22:21

That’s very strange on his part. Sorry for your effort and thst you’re now left confused. Not fair, he’s a coward.

Theunamedcat · 01/08/2021 22:24

How strange i would be mocking up an invoice for my water petrol and fantasising about sending it too him perhaps tacking on a small cock surcharge and coward tax

I wouldn't send it but I would consider it

SunshineCake · 01/08/2021 22:25

Is it true if one is blocked from WhatsApp the photo of them disappears ?

happinessischocolate · 01/08/2021 22:27

@JenuineGelly

Also just seen he's unmatched me from the app we met on Confused
What a weirdo, so it's definitely not that a girlfriend has turned up as he wouldn't have the time to be unmatching you on apps

Some people are just so weird.

I had a fella chatting me up in a bar on Friday night, full on chatting asking me out for a date the next day etc etc I gave him my phone and asked him to put his number in and he just turned round and walked off. I then went to the bar got a drink and looked for my mates, found them on the dance floor and he was all over one of the other women in my group 🤷‍♀️ when he saw me he shot off again, I wasn't even looking at him I was dancing with his mate.

Just why 😁

Itsbeen84yearss · 01/08/2021 22:27

Why are you driving an hour to some bloke you just met? You’re not delivery pizza. This isn’t ‘dating’. It’s just him sitting on his sofa seeing what comes his way.
That being said he’s clearly a massive wanker so I hope you block him right back.

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:28

Wombat - he seemed lovely and thoughtful. Not OTT but just a nice, normal person. Like you said, I too have had some bizarre OLD experiences so nothing shocks me anymore!

5togo - i thought it was weird too. I assume he was biding some more time! He said "are you there? I didn't think you'd be here so quickly so I've gone to the shop, I won't be long, is that okay?"
I was sat there about 20 minutes before I'd seen he'd blocked me.

I just feel a bit shite about the way it happened. If he'd have treated me with respect that would have been completely fine, I'm not unreasonable and he had no reason to think I would be.

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TalkingOutYerArse · 01/08/2021 22:28

Block him back. Dick.

Wizzbangfizz · 01/08/2021 22:30

I've been in this situation the man in question wants to know he can have you but can't follow through with if. It's a horrible form of control.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/08/2021 22:30

Ugh what an absolute dick. And coward! Sorry, I know it must feel shit. But bullet dodged and definitely a learning experience - don't travel so far to meet someone who is essentially a stranger. Not your fault they turned out to be an absolute prick, just not worth the risk they are.

VeeVeey · 01/08/2021 22:30

As somebody who has panic attacks my first thought was to wonder whether he panicked for some reason, but in all likelihood he's just a wanker. Online dating is full of them.

Sorry you wasted your time OP. Probably a lucky escape though!

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:31

Thanks years, the plan was for me to drive up to him and then we were going out. He lives alone and I live with my parents (we are both mid 20s) so it made more sense for me to go to him and sleep over. We planned to go for a walk, a drink and then back to his. Obviously I feel embarrassed now for making so much effort!

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NautaOcts · 01/08/2021 22:35

That’s horrible! And bizarre. And it would really bug me!

CorvusPurpureus · 01/08/2021 22:36

There's another woman in the mix somewhere, who called him when he was at the shop.

Either with a booty call offer he couldn't refuse, or she's coming round first thing tomorrow for some reason, & he realised he could hardly sling you out in the morning before she turns up & catches him out.

So he's panic blocked you & is hiding in his flat.

What a dick though.

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:37

So he's been in touch via text message. Saying that he isn't in a good place and he can't give anything to anyone. Said he just needs to speak to his mum as that makes him feel better. Said that he isnt worth it and he's not interested.

I replied to say I hope he is okay.

I suppose I feel better having heard something.

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shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 01/08/2021 22:38

As if any of us would do that in his shoes

Bull shit he got a 'better' offer

Sorry OP what a shit he is

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JenuineGelly · 01/08/2021 22:39

I'd have been out first thing as I have work anyway, would have left at 7 am.

I just feel confused.

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