Hi everyone, I've been following the threads for years but not really posted much recently as I've not been dating for the last few years (did post a few years ago under a different username though). I was on the apps for a while but had very little desire, interest or hope of meeting anyone who really interested me. I absolutely was not prepared to settle for less than I was worth anymore as this has been a recurrent theme. Had sort of reigned myself to spending the rest of my life single (I'm early 40s). Was still on the apps mainly as a way to reaffirm my belief that there was no one I would be remotely interested in 😂
Anyway met someone on tinder, met up fairly soon and was actually shocked when they turned up as they were absolutely gorgeous (I'm pretty alright myself I think but have a long history of dating down looks wise!) we got on like a house on fire, he's very open about his feelings, past relationship history is very similar, he was very keen but not in that love bombing ridiculous way. Very honest, not a game player. We both have professional quite full on jobs, responsibilities and social lives so it's a few weeks between dates but plans made (instigated by him) including a long term one for an event that we both really wanted to go to with massive excitement about it and an agreement that we would both probably want to go together as we have a shared love for it even if it didn't work out, not really into drama etc.
We've now had two dates which were both amazing. Second one (a week and a half ago) I stayed over and he made me brunch, walked me back to my car, text me before I even got home about how much he was looking forward to the next time. He's very much driven the arrangements to meet again, I've been very clear I'm interested but don't want to appear desperate.
We've made arrangements to do something a specific weekend soon but not finalised what we are actually doing (he has sent some emails about possible things and was waiting to hear back).
I've been away and he had a family event this weekend but we were texting regularly until last Friday (a week post last date). I sent a message on Sunday to say hope he had a great weekend and I was now home. He said it was lovely but exhausting, called me a pet name etc all very nice. I messaged him on Monday evening about a shared interest and he hasn't replied... He could be busy with work or his kids. I do know he has been on the app over the weekend though as his location changed. He's not a big texter anyway has blue ticks etc turned off but I did see he was online this morning as I had our convo open.
I hate neediness and have binned several people off myself for this so I don't want to come over needy but I guess I've over invested already as he just ticked all the boxes and more which I thought was impossible with a cynic like me. Please talk me down before I send another message and come across like a pathetic needy knobhead!