I’ve just messaged the OWs husband

[The6thQueen]

Found out she’d called my husband again and asked him to set up another email account for them to talk. We’re over
But I’ve just forwarded her husband all their WhatsApp messages and images of her in the shower. Apparently she hadn’t told him the full story and they are starting IVF again shortly.
Im shaking and feel like a bitch, but I want her to hurt (and my stbxh) to hurt like I and my children are

Well done op

@Nachorancho how have you jumped from the OP messaging her husband to him abusing her? Quite a leap.

Well done OP, agree you should do everything you can to ensure he sees them. Take care of yourself

100% behind you here. Pair of lying cheating arseholes. Sending hugs x

@supersonicginandtonic

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Any other woman deserving of domestic abuse, or just women who cheat on their husbands?

I’m not condoning what she’s done (clearly), but bloody hell...

I’m sorry for what you’re going through OP, I hope you’re OK. I don’t blame you for contacting her husband, although I perhaps wouldn’t have sent the messages unless he’d asked to see them. He is an innocent party too and he might rather be spared some of the details. Again, I’m really sorry.

does your rat bastard STBX know you have done this?

And well done for sticking up for your family and not being complicit in his deceit.

He know

I’m furious and hurting

I’m such a fool

I hate him and I hate my life

@Nachorancho

You must be very angry and upset OP. I feel for you, but in my opinion your anger should be with your (D)H not with this woman. What she has done is wrong but you do not have a "duty" to let her partner know. I seriously would be concerned about his repercussions if he has been lied to and would not want to be the one innocently responsible for causing the OW to be abused. Just my view and I know not shared by many. Telling him in a calm way - via letter or some such manner is better than sending private images and messages

I can't see that the method by which the OP chooses to inform the OW's husband of her infidelity has any bearing on things. She messaged him. Why would sending him a letter be any better? (Some might think it may in fact be worse. )

@MoreAloneTime

Better he knows before more children are potentially brought into a shitshow

I agree with that.

What an awful situation for you to be in, op.

Better things are ahead for you.

OP, whether or not people agree with what you have done, you took control and showed real fighting spirit. The life you hate now will be one you love again soon. You just need some time.

I hate them both so much

I just want my lovely husband back

OP you are amazing and you've absolutely done the right thing.

You'll get through this, stay strong!!!!! 💪

But he never existed

I’m not amazing, I’m broken

He already knew? Blimey. I’m so sorry you’re hurting so much, they’re awful people for doing this to you 😞

I’ve just packed everything that’s his into his car

My children are devastated

Well done op... I found out about my exh affair and it's the one thing I regret not doing. I wish I'd shown her dh all the messages between them. Even 10 years later I still wish I'd done it

@Nachorancho

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Why?? She's been cheating on her husband with a married man. Why shouldn't she get what she deserves?

I'm so sorry you're hurting OP.

Has he read it OP?