I’ve just messaged the OWs husband

[The6thQueen]

Found out she’d called my husband again and asked him to set up another email account for them to talk. We’re over
But I’ve just forwarded her husband all their WhatsApp messages and images of her in the shower. Apparently she hadn’t told him the full story and they are starting IVF again shortly.
Im shaking and feel like a bitch, but I want her to hurt (and my stbxh) to hurt like I and my children are

*really does not esteem her husband and has settled for him

Also, I think if you’re daft enough to be sending nude selfies to another woman’s husband you have no right to then feel chagrined if they’re then used against you. Really fucking stoopid.

Hope you're okay op.

I probably would have done the same

Good for you, he has a right to know before having children with her. Please give us an update if he replies.
So sorry for all the pain you’re going through, it must be agony. X

@Rockitrosie

Also, I think if you’re daft enough to be sending nude selfies to another woman’s husband you have no right to then feel chagrined if they’re then used against you. Really fucking stoopid.

You can feel enraged, however, when it is against the law, your feelings are irrelevant.

@fromdownwest she’s not spread them across the internet.. she’s forwarded them to the woman’s husband to show him what an adulterer he is married to! The police won’t give two shits!!!

'Revenge Porn is the sharing of private, sexual materials, either photos or videos, of another person
without their consent and with the purpose of causing embarrassment or distress. The images are
sometimes accompanied by personal information about the subject, including their full name, address and
links to their social media profiles.
The offence applies both online and offline and to images which are shared electronically or in a more
traditional way so includes the uploading of images on the internet, sharing by text and e-mail, or showing
someone a physical or electronic image.'

Would you risk it?

Read the thread people, OP deleted the images to the husband. She didn't risk it.

Ops deleted it.. but a big fat YES from me… I wouldn’t give two shits either

Would you risk it?

I would absolutely do what OP with without a second thought. I wouldn’t delete them either. OP is a much nicer person than I am.

Reap what you sow!

I have a feeling a prosecution would not be brought when it was clarified that they were images sent from her married lover's wife to her own husband as proof of infidelity.

Ow would have to be even stupider than she already appears to go to the police about that.

@fromdownwest

'Revenge Porn is the sharing of private, sexual materials, either photos or videos, of another person without their consent and with the purpose of causing embarrassment or distress. The images are sometimes accompanied by personal information about the subject, including their full name, address and links to their social media profiles. The offence applies both online and offline and to images which are shared electronically or in a more traditional way so includes the uploading of images on the internet, sharing by text and e-mail, or showing someone a physical or electronic image.'

Would you risk it?

You're right, best not risk her husband finding out where she lives or what she looks like unclothed.

@dworky

"but I want her to hurt (and my stbxh) to hurt like I and my children are"

It's your husband and the children's father you should be targeting. It's irrelevant who he betrayed you all with as HE alone is the one who has a responsibility to his family.

I'm sure Op knows exactly who to target, it's not an either or decision. Both are culpable for the devastation caused. I never have got this pious preaching that it's all the man's fault.

I'm sorry you're going through this, op.

Good for you !! She didn’t think twice when messaging your husband !! I do the same !!

Bit confused they had an affair and split she messaged him asking to create an email. Did he? Or did he tell you?

No judgement here, OP. In your shoes I’d do the same (and probably worse to be honest)

I understand the rage and betrayal evokes strong feelings and you felt compelled to reveal the affair. However I don’t think it’s a great idea to act in anger,the emotional turmoil impairs your judgement. Leave it as it is now and get yourself in order,decide what you want to do going forward and prepare for an acrimonious relationship with him and the ow. It’s up to the ow husband to decide what she does with his relationship I wouldn’t get involved with ow and her husband anymore. I hope you get some support from your friends and that you are ok

No judgement here either OP. The stupid prick had it coming to her.

Normally I would say this is a no go but the fact they are trying for a child.
If they have a kid he'll be fucked she can bleed him dry and be tied to him forever .
You've done the right thing .

@Sampafie

OP are you the "californiasunsets" OP?

No she isn’t!

@Californiansunsets yeah i noticed that... thx for clearing it up

I deleted the photos. Apologised for hurting him.
Sent him a link to the messages - his choice if he opens them.
He knows they kissed at work, but thinks that’s it. If I were him I would want to know before I went down the route of IVF again

He's not lovely . No man who can do that to his wife and children could be classed as lovely. I know from experience the damage this does to a woman and her children. These selfish men, and it is mostly men are prepared to destroy people's lives for their own pleasures. You have a long way to go yet. It never leaves you even if you marry again. If he comes back you won't forgive. I know exactly what you're going through