If England get beaten, so will she. @MN please pin this or write your own to be pinned at the top

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If England get beaten, so will she.

#DomesticViolence increases 26% when #England play. 38% if they lose.

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I was in hospital during the first England game and the amount of ward moving that had to be done because of football was ridiculous. But PLEASE do not blame football, it's a man problem

Makes me feel sick.

Massive hugs to any MN friends who have suffered/are suffering more on account of this crap Really wish things were different

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Yet another bump from me, this can't be shared enough

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She needs help to leave and somewhere safe to live long term if you don't want her beaten. I'm scared to post this cos been told in the past to shut up and pretend there's enough help but can't people understand how cruel it is to tell us there's help and then when there isn't help for all of us, we're not meant to say. So nobody knows about it and then it's still bad. Like with people talking about problem with the police, people need to know reality for some of us when we try to leave. I'm sorry but it feels like being abused as much as when it's violent partner. It's cruel. I went to a refuge but had to go home after as nowhere safe to move on to. Mixed homeless housing with drug dealing and men just released from prison not safe or somewhere you can rebuild life.

Was left without support and trying to fight councils on my own. The person meant to help me kept ignoring my calls and messages and then disappeared. Some kind people want to help but they can only fight for you if you're in their area. I was told I'd be safe and have a chance to rebuild my life and recover but back where I started but worse. Feels physical painful the ache inside of trying to get safe place and not being allowed that. Humiliating and violating when you apply to council as homeless for domestic violence but they don't care or want to help. Calling places like citizens advice or housing departments and social services and having to tell them your situation the details and they don't care. They tell you to just leave or call the police but you can't leave without anywhere safe to live. Councils do everything they can not to help. Lie to you, trick you, say they'll help then change minds and pretend they never offered. They ask for evidence of abuse but then say it's not enough.

I'm really sorry to post this but it's so cruel to tell us to shut up and pretend there's enough help. It will never be enough if people don't know what's happening. I spent last week trying again to get help. Worse than any of the violence I'm had from partner and I've nearly been killed by him. It took everything to try to leave and I now feel dirty and disgusting and like I'm not seen as deserving of help.

If every woman who experienced DV in the 48 hours or so after this match reported it, even if she did not press charges, then authorities would really see what women are up against.
my thoughts are with every woman who finds herself in this situation

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Bump. Social worker here and seen this first hand. Used to manage a team where we dealt with all the incoming referrals and during world cup 2018 we saw a massive spike in domestic abuse referrals over the month and also a real increase in really nasty physical violence. I completely agree with PP about football needing to take a much stronger role in affecting changes and taking a clear overt stance and also agree domestic abuse helplines should be shared as standard during big matches.

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Bump @MNHQ could you maybe post a link here to your stickied thread?

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Can't even get my head around this

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And I am so sorry for your situation, @nosafeguardingadults

It would be a lot more obvious in the ‘MN has commented on this thread’ link, rather than members posting it surely?

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@nosafeguardingadults

I hope help finds you.

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@mnhq

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I know dv rises in Glasgow every time Rangers play Celtic.

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