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Embarrassed to have sex with me.

136 replies

Pinkysx · 09/07/2021 16:53

My partner has just admitted that he watches porn because im an embarrassment to him and doesnt want to have sex with me. Just that really. Not really sure why I'm even writing this just feel completely at a loss right now. Just to add he was cheating on me last year also so this is just another kick to an already wounded heart.

OP posts:
Curioushorse · 09/07/2021 16:54

Why.....is he your 'partner'? Why are you still with him? It sounds like he's the embarrassment!

RandomMess · 09/07/2021 16:54

Time to get your ducks in a row and divorce!!!

Classica · 09/07/2021 16:55

Your life and your self-esteem will just get steadily worse with a toxic scumbag like that in your life.

Do you have children together? Are you in a position to end the relationship?

AmberIsACertainty · 09/07/2021 16:55

LTB he's a wanker, metaphorically literally.

DonLewis · 09/07/2021 16:55

Dude. There are lovely, kind, normal, wonderful men out there that won't treat you like this.

Leave him, get some counselling to help with self esteem (it's got be on the floor, right?) and then, start enjoying life without this twat bringing you down.

Leave the bastard.

mummymeister · 09/07/2021 16:56

so dont hang around then and wait for the next kick! can you hear what he is saying here? what he has been saying since last year. loud and clear he is telling you "I dont want to be with you" Get rid of him, move him out of your life. find someone who loves and cares for you and you alone. Not some loser who is holding on to a relationship for his own twisted reasons. He behaves badly because there have been no consequences to his bad behaviour in the past. see this is as the last straw and move on with your life.

LubaLuca · 09/07/2021 16:57

Besides the ridiculous flaw in his logic - who is watching him have sex with you for him to feel embarrassed in front of?! - he sounds like an absolute twat who doesn't deserve anybody's love and attention. Kick him out.

PearlclutchersInc · 09/07/2021 16:57

Sounds like a bit of a shit really. Examine your life (as in all the practical stuff) and get yourself organised to leave as soon as you sesnibly can.

Umberellatheweatha · 09/07/2021 16:57

Kick the scumball out. He only said that in order to hurt you. What kind of person does that to someone? A bully,that's what kind. He hasn't 'admitted' anything. It's a ruse in order to make you feel shitty and like you cant do better than him or some similar shit.

You are not his partner, you are his victim.

Time to stop being his victim and free yourself.

DogsSausages · 09/07/2021 16:58

You deserve so much better than this, he is an embarrassing, emotionally immature little bully. Please end this relationship and stop letting this upset you. Do you live together, what's the home situation.

Classica · 09/07/2021 16:58

Being single can be the most soothing and soul-enriching experience. Especially after a relationship like this one.

Elmer83 · 09/07/2021 17:00

Leave him! No matter how hard or heartbroken you will be. He’s out to destroy you by the looks of things. Don’t give him the sick kick of doing so.

FlowerArranger · 09/07/2021 17:01

There is no coming back from this.

He has shown you who he is. Better believe him.

Please make yourself your chief priority and take control of your life. Flowers

CupoTeap · 09/07/2021 17:01

Stop putting yourself through this

ArtfulScreamer · 09/07/2021 17:02

Aww the poor love Hmm remedy the issue for him and make him your ex partner.
You're worth so much more than this I'd rather be single than with someone who treats me with such disdain.

Funatlast · 09/07/2021 17:03

He sounds very cruel.

VettiyaIruken · 09/07/2021 17:03

You can't stay with him, you really can't. It will utterly destroy you. Flowers

TheVanguardSix · 09/07/2021 17:04

Leave this cruel asshole and then get therapy, OP. Just that comment alone (which I'm sure is lying underneath a steaming pile of other shit comments) will steamroll your self-esteem.
Start now. Take the steps towards a better life and take 'em fast. In fact, get your skates on.

Marylou2 · 09/07/2021 17:04

You mean your ex partner right? Tell him he's got til 7 to get his stuff together and give him a kick from me on his way out. Glass of wine and some rubbish TV for you x

Discovery65 · 09/07/2021 17:05

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Nancydrawn · 09/07/2021 17:08

I'm afraid there's no coming back from that.

Dump his pathetic ass.

Herja · 09/07/2021 17:09

Oh no! No, no, no. He's got mixed up. You are not an embarrassment OP. HE is a fucking embarrassment.

You deserve so much better than this OP. And you know what? Better is simple in this situation: being single is far better than being with a wanker.

Bluntness100 · 09/07/2021 17:09

Why are you still with him?

AnyFucker · 09/07/2021 17:10

Ex partner, surely ?

WillowGrand · 09/07/2021 17:10

You mean ex partner? And you are asking how to move on right?

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