New man hates himself. Advice please.

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Hi I'm starting to date again after being unhappy for a long time with stb ex h.

I've reconnected with an old uni friend who I used to get on with so well but nothing actually happened with in the past, just a flirtation.

This guy, let's call him Gary, is lovely and really my kind of man except for the fact he has very low moods and hates himself and life in general when he does. I just don't know whether it is best to leave it alone as sometimes I feel I am pressuring his mental health with our little fling eg he finds it too emotionally overwhelming? If that makes sense?

We've been chatting on the phone and through messenger but it's starting to become crunch time eg whether we should meet up and I'm so torn as to what to do. On one hand j know it could be amazing... on the other hand I'm worried about overwhelming him and then finding it hard to navigate that disappointment for myself.

Does anyone have any advice please?

Thanks in advance x

well youre not marrying him are you. If he turns out to be a self indulgent dick then you could dump him then, unless you dont trust yourself to go all "rescuer" on him. Maybe he just gets depression and it can be worked round?
Id tread carefully though, as hating yourself is quite extreme and tbh gets tiring quite quickly for the people around you who have to tiptoe

I'm starting to date again after being unhappy for a long time with stb ex h.

Then please don't set yourself up for another miserable relationship. Put this one in the 'friends' pile and go have some fun!

If you can already spot the 'problem' in a relationship with this chap now then do yourself a favour and don't prove yourself right!!

I think its just been good to have fun with someone and I'm grateful for that but think it's gone as far as it can xx