Dating Thread 207 - hot summer of fun

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Mr Specs wants a pic of me! I shall have to get my mum to take one when I don't look so horrible. 🤣🤣 the things we do for irons! ❤️

What’s wrong with the ones on your profile @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards ?

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards do you have recent pictures of you on your profile?

@sortingitout gave me the perfect phrase to send when a potential asks for more pictures.
'The photos on my profile are a perfect representation of who I am and what I look like'

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards do you have recent pictures of you on your profile?[/quote]
@Dancerinthemoonlight @HairyArsedMan I do have pictures on my profile yes, but I've had my hair cut short recently, and most of my pics are with me with long hair. You can still tell it's me though.

My profile picture is one taken after the haircut.

I have to have my mum to take any pictures of me, as my CP means I can't hold a phone/camera properly.

I don't tend to have new pictures of myself taken unless it's a special occasion, like a night out for example ❤️

I will ask if I can have some new ones this week. 😊

[quote Naimee87]@Iamclearlyamug so sorry to hear this. So unfair and disappointing. Hope you and your little daughter (i think) have something fun to get up to this weekend. Take your mind off of it. You deserve obviously a way better speci-man!
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards i’m liking the sound of MrSpecs, get out there on a date if he asks.

Oh nice to hear from the ‘other side’ get
some male views on OLD. I agree with the outdoorsy description being vague. I like a bit of both, like walks, hikes, runs, swimming but not a ‘camper’ or a ‘lets survive in the wilderness for a week.’ Also hate the heat so summer isn’t my favorite season to be out and about. Hate gym photo’s and semi-naked shower/mirror selfies, but like group photo’s or ones with kids in. I agree with @Heartbeats0708 as i like the hobbies comment this can help to establish good chats/conversations if you like each others hobbies. Agree with @SpringlikeBunk getting to the meet stage can drag out an become a marathon so best to give those who you are drawn to a chance and meet as soon as possible! Long drawn out text relationships can often give a false sense of a deep connection that IRL isn’t there.
Hope you are all enjoying nice weekends. MrElf is back later so i get a chance to talk face to face about the stupid text blow up! 🤨😂.
@bangheadhere40 how you feeling with the whole ‘out of the blue’ card shenanigans today! Hope you really did enjoy you birthday![/quote]
@Naimee87 😊❤️

Well it never rains. In a recent development I have managed to get myself admitted to A&E with concussion and a bruised pelvis after a fall off my horse. I feel utterly exhausted and like I'm the last person anyone would want to date. MrBeard had gone hot and cold about meeting sooner because of his work week - to be fair we were both meeting halfway. I am now pretty sure he's going to bail as he probably thinks I'm in a permanent state of dramarama as frankly this week has been a bit much with the health & safety. Fuck. This has definitely put guys off me before.

A little bit like the outdoors / health fanatics / golf obsessives horse riding is a huge part of my life and then add in my health scare, my two rather large dogs plus my DC ... some people seem to want to jump feet first into my life - because I have a nice house or something that they see in me that they want eg the many cocklodgers of times past. Then there's a nice quiet bloke like MrBeard who is quite frankly at the moment wondering what the hell he's got into.

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@sortingitout gave me the perfect phrase to send when a potential asks for more pictures.
'The photos on my profile are a perfect representation of who I am and what I look like'[/quote]
@Dancerinthemoonlight 👍🏻❤️

And now I'm having to tell him that I still live at home 😟

Don't get too excited folks, he'll probably go off me now 😂

(I'm very embarrassed to be still living at home, it's a personal thing.) 😊

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

And now I'm having to tell him that I still live at home 😟

Don't get too excited folks, he'll probably go off me now 😂

(I'm very embarrassed to be still living at home, it's a personal thing.) 😊

I know lots of people who live at home for ages, it's bloody expensive and not always convenient to buy somewhere to live 💕

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards irons have to take us at face value. It should be about all kinds of elements but also boils down to whether or not there is a spark and desire to meet. A detail in your life shouldn't put them off and if it does then they weren't the right person for you 💕

[quote BelladiMamma]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards irons have to take us at face value. It should be about all kinds of elements but also boils down to whether or not there is a spark and desire to meet. A detail in your life shouldn't put them off and if it does then they weren't the right person for you 💕[/quote]
@BelladiMamma 💕💕💕💕💕💕

@BelladiMamma I've applied for social housing in my area. My local council are bloody dragging their feet with it though 🙄❤️

[quote OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]@BelladiMamma I've applied for social housing in my area. My local council are bloody dragging their feet with it though 🙄❤️[/quote]
Good luck 🤞🏽 with the application

Had a walking date zero. Suppose I'd best give him a name, MrBee.

He was nice, very low key, pretty normal, not that much going on. Good job, divorced just under two years ago, good relationship with ex, they share the dog, grown up kids who live independently, goes to help his mum every few weeks, works four days a week.......

No red flags. Is that a red flag?
Had a nice walk with his dog, then sat and had a can of pop, two and a half hours in total - his dog liked me. I'll see him again - he has texted to say he'd like to meet up again.

Meanwhile a more interesting guy chatting to me, hope he suggests something soon, think he will as he's just sent his number so we can move to WhatsApp. He's a widower, wife died two years ago. But he has a lot more going on in terms of interests, as well as liking my favorite band!

After the walk date I met a friend for cinema and coffee. Nice evening, slept through the film (Black Widow, it was pants).

@BelladiMamma thank you 🙂❤️😘

@VanGoghsDog

Had a walking date zero. Suppose I'd best give him a name, MrBee. He was nice, very low key, pretty normal, not that much going on. Good job, divorced just under two years ago, good relationship with ex, they share the dog, grown up kids who live independently, goes to help his mum every few weeks, works four days a week.......

No red flags. Is that a red flag?
Had a nice walk with his dog, then sat and had a can of pop, two and a half hours in total - his dog liked me. I'll see him again - he has texted to say he'd like to meet up again.

Meanwhile a more interesting guy chatting to me, hope he suggests something soon, think he will as he's just sent his number so we can move to WhatsApp. He's a widower, wife died two years ago. But he has a lot more going on in terms of interests, as well as liking my favorite band!

After the walk date I met a friend for cinema and coffee. Nice evening, slept through the film (Black Widow, it was pants).

Sounds positive, @VanGogh ❤️

Belladi sorry to hear about your latest disaster - hope you're ok. Yes, a potential boyfriend would have to fit into your busy life, but on the other hand, you won't be needy and looking for someone to give yout life meaning, which is very attractive.

@MayEye

My swipe lefts are -Pictures with their kids -Group photos with no indication of who they are -Any mention of casual -any aggressive or passive aggressive statements such as ‘no drama’ etc -if they’re too good looking! -bed photos

Yep I would pretty much agree with all of them. By ‘bed photos’ is that those really creepy naked upper torso pics took?

My offerings seem to have a lot of ‘man drinking pint’ pics. That’s to say - man whose face is completely obliterated by the pint he’s drinking. I mean….

Ach, now I’ve properly caught up. I thought I was reading the latest posts but I wasn’t .
@BelladiMamma oh no, sounds painful. Hope you’re ok. I agree with the other comments, an independent woman with her own hobbies presents as a pretty appealing package I’d have thought.
@VanGoghsDog oh your date sounded nice and easy. And the new chat definitely one to watch - looking forward to hearing how that develops.
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards good luck with that application! And I hope you get pics you’re happy with.

My pics are all selfies - I don’t have any recent ones from out and about or that friends have take (that’s because I haven’t really had any recent socials - still living quite a quiet lockdownesque life tbh) . I submitted them to photofeeler to get some feedback and all the ones I liked of myself got rated really poorly. The comments said ‘looks too much like a selfie’ - um yeah. So that was motivating… but I don’t have any others to use.

I submitted them to photofeeler to get some feedback and all the ones I liked of myself got rated really poorly.

Mine got really bad scores. But I reckon I have about a 40% match to swipe rate on Tinder. Obviously only about five percent of those are of real interest and one turns into a chat ......but it's not my photos that are the issue. (It's my personality! 😂)

@FireandBrimstone i used photofeeler and found that my pics with specs got much higher ratings for trustworthyness and general inferred intelligence so i wore glasses for my next interviews and got the jobs! I also then included those pics in my profiles more too. The ones I thought looked happy, sexy and pretty, actually got feedback that i was more ditsy!

I also think photofeeler has more women using it so they tend to be softer in their ratings over men so will always err on the side of not hurting someone's feelings. Men are pretty black and white, you are either hot or not.

@VanGoghsDog I think that date zero sounds very promising. Hopefully he reveals some more interesting traits and there's a spark. And good luck with the other iron, hopefully he turns into something real too.

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Belladi sorry to hear about your latest disaster - hope you're ok. Yes, a potential boyfriend would have to fit into your busy life, but on the other hand, you won't be needy and looking for someone to give yout life meaning, which is very attractive.

I hadn't thought of it like that. I mean, I understand that's what my life is like. But hadn't thought an iron would find that attractive, just as much as the opposite can scare people off. Thank you.