Dating Thread 207 - hot summer of fun

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Mr Wine has cancelled the date for tomorrow as he is having to go up north because of a family emergency

Speaking to MrC on the phone tonight bit nervous 😟

@SpringlikeBunk

Speaking to MrC on the phone tonight bit nervous 😟

@SpringlikeBunk don't be nervous, Just be yourself and enjoy it ❤️

@Isitreallyme777

I'm South east/South too *@BelladiMamma*

@Slothmomma he was the one who said he didn't think it was the right time to start anything right now (job up in the air, ex wife being difficult with the house sale) then sent me a screenshot of his cricket league with a tab with Tinder on, I haven't seen him on the apps. He actually told me yesterday he isn't on Tinder anymore. I know what you're saying about being his back up which is why I'm just enjoying the here and now. But he has been so kind this past week.

Noted

@SpringlikeBunk

Speaking to MrC on the phone tonight bit nervous 😟

So often it's not actually what you say, but how you say it. Think about the feeling that you want to get across or the truth that you want to uncover and aim for that.

MrBeard and I have had a few more voice note conversations and moving to a video call this weekend, with a meet up planned for the week after. He's working in the NE, from SE and has a flat down here ... so I'd need to be ready for a long distance thing. He doesn't have children so I guess that's one less juggle and because of that he could host. MrBear couldn't host much and wanted to see me lots, so I was always organising / hosting. I definitely need to feel less responsible for our meet ups and our environment in a new relationship. Closer to 50/50 or more on his side would be good for a while.

Anyway I'm all a flutter as he's said I remind him of Kristin Scott Thomas 🥰. I'm such a sucker for flattery 😂

@BelladiMamma

MrBeard and I have had a few more voice note conversations and moving to a video call this weekend, with a meet up planned for the week after. He's working in the NE, from SE and has a flat down here ... so I'd need to be ready for a long distance thing. He doesn't have children so I guess that's one less juggle and because of that he could host. MrBear couldn't host much and wanted to see me lots, so I was always organising / hosting. I definitely need to feel less responsible for our meet ups and our environment in a new relationship. Closer to 50/50 or more on his side would be good for a while.

Anyway I'm all a flutter as he's said I remind him of Kristin Scott Thomas 🥰. I'm such a sucker for flattery 😂

@BelladiMamma you're not alone. I'm a sucker for flattery too 😂

So pleased for you for getting back out there. 🙂 he sounds really nice ❤️

@BelladiMamma and @springlikeBunk I agree about not wanting the mental load of a relationship. I have been back OLD after a 3ish year relationship following my 20yr marriage and this is key for me.

I want me in my house running my life, him in his house running his life, and getting together for companionship and friendship, some sex if I can be bothered (never thought I'd say that- its always been hugely important to me but that's perimenopause I guess!) but none of the couple-dom involved with cohabiting. Reckon there are any men who don't need their lives running and who would want to maintain separate lives in this way?

(PS I'm a previous thread poster trying out a new name :))

[quote RobertClementHughes]**@BelladiMamma* and @springlikeBunk* I agree about not wanting the mental load of a relationship. I have been back OLD after a 3ish year relationship following my 20yr marriage and this is key for me.

I want me in my house running my life, him in his house running his life, and getting together for companionship and friendship, some sex if I can be bothered (never thought I'd say that- its always been hugely important to me but that's perimenopause I guess!) but none of the couple-dom involved with cohabiting. Reckon there are any men who don't need their lives running and who would want to maintain separate lives in this way?

(PS I'm a previous thread poster trying out a new name :))[/quote]
Funnily enough there was a thread along those lines somewhere else in relation ships or AIBU this week. The bloke in it sounded just like me and the woman (no offence if you're reading OP) more like some of the blokes I've broken off with because they want more than I can give.

@BelladiMamma I am from the south east as is @SortingItOut (East Anglia to be specific)

I just confirmed that Mr Archer is still up for meeting tomorrow and he is! Im so excited 😁

Feel like I shouldn't get my hopes up too high just yet but I've got a good feeling about this one. Im just hoping and praying he isn't a knob in real life 😂

@troobleflooble

I just confirmed that Mr Archer is still up for meeting tomorrow and he is! Im so excited 😁

Feel like I shouldn't get my hopes up too high just yet but I've got a good feeling about this one. Im just hoping and praying he isn't a knob in real life 😂

@troobleflooble 🤞🏻❤️

I'm on the edge of East Anglia, never know what to call it, east Midlands or west East Anglia?!

Did some Tinder swiping, six matches. Will see what happens I guess.

I've done some tinder swiping today too. Got a couple of good chats going so far, so I'm going to see how things go ❤️

I wish I lived closer to you all, but I'm in the West Midlands. (Just outside Birmingham, to be exact) ❤️

I’ve blocked MrTrades. Once and for all.
God I am so done with men……

@Isitreallyme777 I 100% agree with what @Slothmomma said. Please be careful..

@Shayelle2009 😞 why did you have to block him?

Yay @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards, we’re team Midlands. I was beginning to think that by some fluke everyone else on the thread was in the south/east.
@Shayelle2009, has something else happened this evening?

I'm west mids too - and like @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards just outside brum

We were messaging.. he said to me at 1445 today if I wasn't busy and fancied a gin give him a shout. Didn't see the message til nearly 1700… was busy comforting a neighbour who’s just lost their partner. Messaged explaining this and he read it and didn't bother to reply so I’ve blocked.

I can’t be doing with last minute invitations, or people who don’t have compassion, he might have been busy fair play but gad 3 hours to send some sort of reply back but he didn't. Feel like he was just after a booty call… after Sunday’s upset I should have just left it but decided to accept his apology and chat more, now this… I just cant be fucked anymore, they are never, ever worth the bother

@Shayelle2009, I think it’s sometimes difficult to decide if someone’s actions are a bit of a one off/nerves etc but when they continue to respond and react in ways that make you uncomfortable then you have to listen to your instincts. If he couldn’t see that you being with your neighbour was important then he lacks basic empathy and as you say that’s not a trait you would want in a potential relationship.

I think I'm going to give Tinder a break when my gold runs out on Sunday. I don't have any chats on the go and I had to report yet another match tonight. He called me a dirty whore which came out of no where.