Support needed for facing my horribly abusive ex

[Pebbledashery]

Here is my support thread.. Thank you everyone

I'm really grateful for all the support on this thread. Just don't know why it's taking so long. Honestly. Just don't want to be faced in a situation where the judge thought of it as a toxic relationship rather than abusive.. People don't flee toxic relationships and go into hiding.

@Pebbledashery

just checking in to see you're doing okay whilst you wait...

Not going to shake this feeling off until I know. Every day is going to be like this, 😢

I really hope you hear tomorrow and don't have another weekend of stress and worry.

I'm just coming in here, @Pebbledashery.

What's happened to your little girl and you is beyond horrendous and I am so, so sorry. But remember: you have got her and yourself out. Now hold on to the courage of your convictions. You shouldn't doubt yourself for a second. You are entirely the victim and anybody can see that.

My question: why has he not been arrested and charged for the abuse of your daughter which you recorded? Have you given this recording to the police?

I'm really hoping you hear something today. Even if it's not what you want for hear (although I'm sure it won't be), at least you'll know

Hope you managed some sleep Pebble
We are all here snd hoping today you get good news

@jozipozi31

I'm just coming in here, *@Pebbledashery*.

What's happened to your little girl and you is beyond horrendous and I am so, so sorry. But remember: you have got her and yourself out. Now hold on to the courage of your convictions. You shouldn't doubt yourself for a second. You are entirely the victim and anybody can see that.

My question: why has he not been arrested and charged for the abuse of your daughter which you recorded? Have you given this recording to the police?

Yes !!

This man needs jail

I was put off from pressing charges by others
Glad I went ahead with it

My god the process Takes forever

@Queenie6655 not trying to hikack the thread but do you mind me asking how long it took to get to a court date? My case has been over a year now and hasn’t even been passed on to CPS now, because there’s so much evidence the police are still working on it, but I feel to be over a year now is just not right??

Sorry should say hasn’t been passed on to CPS “yet”

I hope everyone gets news soon.

[quote Doghairismyglitter]@Queenie6655 not trying to hikack the thread but do you mind me asking how long it took to get to a court date? My case has been over a year now and hasn’t even been passed on to CPS now, because there’s so much evidence the police are still working on it, but I feel to be over a year now is just not right??[/quote]
Without sidelining the thread

It took around 17 months to get an answer from cps
Police submmited my file but it was missing lots of vital info 😳😳

So I can see why many drop out or lose hope

Sending you best wishes OP

I really hope you get some news soon

Sending positive thoughts.

Hi all. Still nothing today. Just had a super busy day at work so not much time to think about it. I don't know if the judge is just planning to give judgement orally, it says on the order it will be provided in writing to lawyers then handed down orally at the next hearing. I presume my solicitor would send me a copy but I'm unclear.

When is the next hearing scheduled for?

No date yet.

😢😡
This whole process is so wrong 😡

This is awful

I remember some of my family law cases and it took them forever to get back to me
Like weeks and weeks

So I buried it for a while and kept myself busy

As if all this isn't hard enough for you both

It's just hard to switch off from it knowing I could be labelled as an angry and volatile woman as I was portrayed by his barrister.

They all try to do that

They look like idiots

Judges have seen it all before

I'm really scared because the non molestation order expires in a few weeks if we don't have a hearing prior to then I won't get an extension and will have to apply for a new one which I don't think will be granted.. DD has a positive contact session with him last Sunday just seen the report. I guess just because she has positive contact in a supervised setting doesn't mean he's not a risk and danger to her. The thought of him being forced into our lives makes me sick. The contact supervisor said last week he's always going to be in my life because of DD so I need to come to terms with it.

Morning everyone. Hope you're well. Just thought of something that might make you laugh. My ex submitted emails from me in his evidence to back up his case that I had alleged mental health issues and I was the alleged perpetrator.. Obviously these were emails I had sent and was familiar with what I said to him. Lol, he chose to purposely delete huge parts of these emails where I talk about him abusing me and how he made me feel etc.. The incriminating parts. Then submits these versions in his evidence. Obviously in my v evidence I submit the real version of the emails and highlight the bits he's taken out so the court can see.. When he was questioned about it in the witness box, the stupid thick idiot said he deleted the sections that weren't relevant to his case, and his solicitor had advised him to do that. My barrister said, has your solicitor advised you to deliberately mislead the court.. I think you're lying Mr Xxxx.. Stupid b*stard. Hate him so much.

@Pebbledashery

Morning everyone. Hope you're well. Just thought of something that might make you laugh. My ex submitted emails from me in his evidence to back up his case that I had alleged mental health issues and I was the alleged perpetrator.. Obviously these were emails I had sent and was familiar with what I said to him. Lol, he chose to purposely delete huge parts of these emails where I talk about him abusing me and how he made me feel etc.. The incriminating parts. Then submits these versions in his evidence. Obviously in my v evidence I submit the real version of the emails and highlight the bits he's taken out so the court can see.. When he was questioned about it in the witness box, the stupid thick idiot said he deleted the sections that weren't relevant to his case, and his solicitor had advised him to do that. My barrister said, has your solicitor advised you to deliberately mislead the court.. I think you're lying Mr Xxxx.. Stupid b*stard. Hate him so much.

Lol what a tit!!!!

What a tit indeed