Dating Thread 206 - picking up tradesmen aswell as dates

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Welcome @EvacuationWarden

Sounds like they are all worthy of being tossed back into the sea of twats ... biiii 👋🏻

@Dancerinthemoonlight

I have had an amazing day and now having an impromptu date 0 with a potential (fingers crossed he turns up)

Lovely 💓

Have a great night

Fab is quiet tonight - wonder why!! Like your style Craving. My 2 fab dates from last weekend both want to meet again. The first gentlemanly one, Mr Gent, wants to go out for a chinese near me on Friday - I'm assuming he wants to come over my way, hoping for an invite here. The other one, Mr Hard Work (Mr HW) has invited me to his on Sunday evening - think it will be purely sex as our chat was strained - think I'll give that a miss.

Good luck with date 0 Dancer

Any update @Dancerinthemoonlight?

Just had a bit of an eeek! moment- matched with someone from work- don't know how as I definitely haven't seen him on Bumble let alone swiped right on him. Nor would I. Plus I am in incognito mode which should only let people see my profile in their list if I have already liked them. Makes me wonder if that's bit working which I would hate. Too public!

But what do I do when I see him at work, which I definitely will. Total cringe.

Good luck with your date, @Dancer ❤️

I just can't be bothered at the moment. My head has just been such a spin, and sometimes I can't help thinking of my ex. I know I shouldn't, but I can't help it. Sometimes I feel fine, and sometimes I feel really empty.

I think it's because when I started college he was so happy and proud of me. And now I've enrolled to the next level of study, I wish he could've stuck with me, I guess. This period just makes me think of him.

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Amazing onwards well done 😊

Thank you @WeWantTheFinestWines ❤️

An on the train home update. He was really sweet. We met on Hinge and had been talking for a few weeks. Had tentative plans for drinks after the tennis but he didn't want to make firm plans as he knew how much going to Wimbledon and sitting on center court meant to me.
We went to a lovely roof top terrace and had a couple of cocktails and nibbles. He didn't let me pay for anything. He got the tube part way back with me and went a little out of his way to make sure I was okay with so many drunken football fans around. Has asked me to text him when I get back and had said he will come to my area for a second date.
He is a year you get but seems very mature for his age. Now I just need to think of a name for him.

That's meant to say he is a year younger

Lovely update @Dancerinthemoonlight it sounds like a perfect end to a brilliant day! He sounds thoughtful and gentlemanly 🥰
Ah don't be embarrassed @SprayGunForBanksy presumably he's on there to meet people too! I've had random matches that I don't remember swiping on too, on tinder though.
It's no surprise it's triggering @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards but remember he's an ex for a reason, and honestly it's so much more satisfying to achieve things and congratulate yourself for it!

Great update @Dancerinthemoonlight! Sounded like a brilliant day x

@Dancerinthemoonlight sounds promising and a really nice date as well.I like the little extras that sometimes happen, like him taking you back halfway and making sure you text him when you're home. It shows they care. He's also lined up the second date Its amazing how quickly things can change and with all the focus being on you all of a sudden someone pops into your life. I think the more we actively we search the less we're likely to find someone. The more we enjoy our own lives the more likely we are to attract someone into it.
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards i can understand how you must feel given how supportive he seemed to be in the beginning and having achieved so much you'd have imagined he'd have still been there with you to celebrate. I often think that a lot of the dissapointment i've felt is the way in which the future i looked forward to was just suddenly gone. I had planned so many trips with MrS and not one ever actually took place but i was so trusting in him that i thought they would.
@SprayGunForBanksy does this mean he has swiped on you then? Perhaps he's trying to get your attention, or does incognito mode hide you completely from being actively found?

@Naimee87 incognito mode on Bumble should hide your profile to the masses and only let people see it if you have swiped right on them first.

I hate the idea of just putting myself on a public stage and saying "whaddya think?!" Much more comfortable with only being seen by men who I would actually consider engaging with.

Although if that's broken I feel so exposed!

It was an amazing day and the atmosphere was amazing. I loved every minute of it.

It really was a lovely way to end the evening and I will just have to see if he makes the effort to actually arrange a second date and to come to my area as it's 1 hour and 40 mins drive.

@Dancerinthemoonlight sounds like a fab day and a fab date - hope you get to see him again 😊

Congrats on course @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards 👏 I've just bit the bullet and signed up to a course for a complete career change. I've been putting it off as my confidence had been knocked so much over last few years and finding myself as a single parent to 3 made me feel that I just wouldn't be able to do it but ill never know if I don't try so I've done it! But I get how you're feeling about ex. I had coffee with mine the other day and it always plays with my head as I still miss what we had and don't think ill ever really get over him and at a point like this in my life his support would have meant everything to me - although he's offered whatever support I need its not the same. Things still going well with MrHair but I know I'm unlikely to ever feel the same about him, or anyone in fact, as my kids dad.

Morning. No real update from me, I'm not swiping or on the apps and it feels nice not to have any dating stresses. Mr Cricket lost his match on Saturday which means they are no longer promotion contenders, I really didn't know what to say, "oh dear that's a shame, I know how much you wanted it" sounded so banal. We are still messaging daily but I do think him losing his match and the promotion spot has knocked him this week. I'm off for a week soon so may see if he wants to do something (not as in a date, unless it progresses there).

@Dancerinthemoonlight glad you had a good time yesterday but what is going on with centre court, I really felt for Serena last night. I nearly bought tickets, for centre court today, last night but by the time I had gone to check my bank account they had gone (and Mr Cricket had gone to sleep by then so I couldn't ask if he wanted to come with me).

@isitreallyme777 I know it was crazy, one minute she was fine and the next she is limping. My eyes were on the other side of the court so I didn't see what happened. I'd love to go again and watch more matches but it's limited so you can only buy tickets to 1 day.

It's back to work today 🙁 I woke up this morning and didn't want to log on. My boss is leaving on Monday and another of the team gave their month's notice this week. I just hope the right job come up for me very quickly.

Thank you to everybody who commented on my post earlier.

My ex wanted to be friends with me when he broke up with me, but I would have found that too upsetting.

I just miss the way he was, not the way he is now.

I had a dream last night where I had a panic attack on a date, so that's not really helped either. ❤️

[quote Slothmomma]@Dancerinthemoonlight sounds like a fab day and a fab date - hope you get to see him again 😊

Congrats on course @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards 👏 I've just bit the bullet and signed up to a course for a complete career change. I've been putting it off as my confidence had been knocked so much over last few years and finding myself as a single parent to 3 made me feel that I just wouldn't be able to do it but ill never know if I don't try so I've done it! But I get how you're feeling about ex. I had coffee with mine the other day and it always plays with my head as I still miss what we had and don't think ill ever really get over him and at a point like this in my life his support would have meant everything to me - although he's offered whatever support I need its not the same. Things still going well with MrHair but I know I'm unlikely to ever feel the same about him, or anyone in fact, as my kids dad.[/quote]
Congratulations @Slothmomma 🙂 that's fantastic! ❤️😘

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Thank you to everybody who commented on my post earlier.

My ex wanted to be friends with me when he broke up with me, but I would have found that too upsetting.

I just miss the way he was, not the way he is now.

I had a dream last night where I had a panic attack on a date, so that's not really helped either. ❤️

I'm sorry you've been having a few ups and downs but I'm also really pleased that you've got into your course. So many new things to look forward to that will have nothing to do with exes or irons.

I am guessing the dream was related to anxiety. But it's not a premonition, it's just a dream 💭💓💐

@BelladiMamma 💖💖💖

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I think most of us have an ex we think wistfully about. I do 🙂 Be kind to yourself and accept it’s normal to have these thoughts and feelings. Sometimes you start looking backwards when the way forwards seems a little daunting or unclear x

Well done @Slothmomma that’s courageous 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[quote Shayelle2009]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I think most of us have an ex we think wistfully about. I do 🙂 Be kind to yourself and accept it’s normal to have these thoughts and feelings. Sometimes you start looking backwards when the way forwards seems a little daunting or unclear x[/quote]
@Shayelle2009 thank you. ❤️ that makes sense 😘

@Slothmomma wow impressive being a single mum to three and getting a course on the go! Nice to be able to get into something just for you again though. I'm a single mum to one and only just managing to find time for my hobby which i hope may lead to a potential career change. I work full time at the moment, still from home which makes a massive difference. My son's dad isn't on the scene at all so free time is limited but no complaints at the moment, we're making it work.

Its looking like an overnight stay is happening this weekend with MrElf i'm very nervous because last time i slept with anyone was months ago actually (april ) with MrS where everything just worked like magic. He also doesn't drink which i know is a good thing but sometimes being just a little tipsy helps ease into things? Any advice?