Dating Thread 206 - picking up tradesmen aswell as dates

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards How are you doing? Is there any updates with you?❤

Something clicked recently and I'm enjoying life again. It feels good. I moved all my photos of Computer Geek to a folder I don't see every time I go into the Gallery on my phone today. I don't even check to see if he has read my message anymore.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. I've just seen your update 😔. I'm sorry there are so many twats around. We will find that someone eventually.

[quote Isitreallyme77]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards How are you doing? Is there any updates with you?❤

Something clicked recently and I'm enjoying life again. It feels good. I moved all my photos of Computer Geek to a folder I don't see every time I go into the Gallery on my phone today. I don't even check to see if he has read my message anymore.[/quote]
@Isitreallyme77 hi 👋 I'm okay, thank you. Hope you're doing okay.

Nothing happening at present. Everything's going very slowly for me OLD wise, I must admit ❤️

😘😘

@Isitreallyme77 that's great news on the CG front 🙂 I'm so pleased to hear that ❤️

@onwardseverstridingonwards I had one that told me he didn't think it would work between us. That is because I wouldn't let him come round to give me a massage and take care of me 🙄 I suppose him saying it saves me the bother.

I'm talking to a younger potential it is his birthday tomorrow so on Friday he is going on a pub crawl from midday. He is only a year younger but if he does that regularly we aren't going to be a good match.

My annual leave hasn't been approved for next week despite my manager telling me it would be (she is jealous as she tried to get tickets and couldn't) so I have said if it doesn't get approved I'm taking the day off anyway. I think I'm on reason 500 of why I am looking for a new job and want to leave.

Euw onwards definitely one to chuck back in. He really didn't read the room...

I'm now in a bit of a tizz - had first phone chat with Mr Finance earlier, got on brilliantly, shared some stories, had a laugh, both said we wanted to meet and would have to find a way despite being 2 hours apart and having opposite child free weekends. Sent him a link relevant to our conversation, said I'd enjoyed it and hope we'd manage to meet. This was hours ago, he's been online and no reply. Which is bothering me. And I'm annoyed with myself for being bothered about it. And I'd just given him a special WhatsApp sound as well. I am not cut out for this.

Dancer that's really bad! Shocking behaviour from your manager. You have to go to Wimbledon. And then get a new job. Good luck x

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@onwardseverstridingonwards I had one that told me he didn't think it would work between us. That is because I wouldn't let him come round to give me a massage and take care of me 🙄 I suppose him saying it saves me the bother.

I'm talking to a younger potential it is his birthday tomorrow so on Friday he is going on a pub crawl from midday. He is only a year younger but if he does that regularly we aren't going to be a good match.

My annual leave hasn't been approved for next week despite my manager telling me it would be (she is jealous as she tried to get tickets and couldn't) so I have said if it doesn't get approved I'm taking the day off anyway. I think I'm on reason 500 of why I am looking for a new job and want to leave.[/quote]
Ugh! @Dancer that's horrible. Why do these men need to be so disgusting? Things like that make my skin crawl 🤢

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Euw onwards definitely one to chuck back in. He really didn't read the room...

I'm now in a bit of a tizz - had first phone chat with Mr Finance earlier, got on brilliantly, shared some stories, had a laugh, both said we wanted to meet and would have to find a way despite being 2 hours apart and having opposite child free weekends. Sent him a link relevant to our conversation, said I'd enjoyed it and hope we'd manage to meet. This was hours ago, he's been online and no reply. Which is bothering me. And I'm annoyed with myself for being bothered about it. And I'd just given him a special WhatsApp sound as well. I am not cut out for this.

@WeWantTheFinestWines don't worry, I have now thrown him back in to the sea of sex pests 🙂

The reason I'm so opposed to this is my very first iron was a bit of a sex pest.

I hope I won't get judged for that. I was young and I didn't know what was normal and what wasn't. ❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

The reason I'm so opposed to this is my very first iron was a bit of a sex pest.

I hope I won't get judged for that. I was young and I didn't know what was normal and what wasn't. ❤️

Everyone is opposed to sex pests!

@Dancerinthemoonlight and yes, that's shocking behaviour from your manager. You're entitled to holiday just like everybody else 🙂 hope you have a wonderful time at Wimbledon ❤️

@VanGoghsDog Amen! ❤️

(I'm no longer in touch with him)

@Dancerinthemoonlight Mr Cricket yesterday said he had an email in his junk folder about Wimbledon tickets, six hundred odd pounds worth of tickets for 300 quid you should send her that and tell her to get some. What a bargain!🤭

@Isitreallyme77 glad you’re in a brighter place.. it feels good to be there I bet.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards there will never be a shortage of sleazes! Can’t they read?? I’ve had a few like that too I just unmatch immediately.

@Dancerinthemoonlight that’s so bad about your manager, no way you can miss Wimbledon, no way on Earth!! 🎾

@WeWantTheFinestWines I hope you hear from Mr Finance, can understand you feeling disappointed about the silence after your chat.

As for me I deleted tinder and bumble as they were both awful…now im on pop, but that’s even worse…
I just feel very ‘cut off’ if I don't have any apps at all though, like I don’t seem to meet guys at the gym, in bars, in work, etc etc it just doesn’t happen for me!!
Though a VERY gorgeous guy said hello to me as I walked past the other evening, how do you go from hello in passing to WANNA GO OUT?? 💘
I always seem to see the best guys just in passing, out and about!

@Shayelle2009 thank you, it does. I mean life isn't all wonderful but I can deal with the shit it throws at me without having a breakdown (in January a cracked windscreen would have made me have a meltdown for example). I don't know if anything will progress beyond friends with Mr Cricket, after all he said he wanted to stay friends as he is in a difficult position right now (being a pilot and his house sale means life is up in the air for him) and unlike Computer Geek who said the same thing then turned into a twat, he has been true to his word. He has actually been interested in getting to know me and me him(we talk non-stop when we see each other and message daily), I mean he remembered I've had tennis elbow on Monday! I got a brief lowdown on what a trader does (he was mid trade on Monday when we met up). Maybe that has helped me.

I do think the apps are quiet at the moment, I think people are busy post lockdown meeting friends and the football is on. I deleted Bumble completely and Tinder off my phone on Tuesday.

That’s funny @Isitreallyme77 I deleted them both on Tuesday too.
I’m glad you feel stronger 💓

Glad you are both doing well.

I'm also in the mindset of I may as well delete the apps, there's just nothing on there atm.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards you do seem to attract the ones that want to jump into bed really quickly. So annoying. I'm guessing this must work on some girls though as otherwise they wouldn't keep trying their luck... good to shut him down. I only did this once a long time ago where i'd been messaging/calling one iron who because of work couldn't get out for the night and i was child free. He was a complete gentleman but there was NO spark so i never saw him again. But he never creeped me out or anything...
@RamonaLark i'm thinking i'll give it a try with MrElf then next week as he's away this weekend. Just invite him over for a coffee and see what happens then while he's here and we've the place to ourselves.
@WeWantTheFinestWines i know this feeling, so annoying, wondering/waiting. Best thing you can do is keep busy and not stay staring at your phone. Perhaps he is waiting so he can properly answer if you've sent him something to check out he maybe needs time to read it before he replies?

Talking of doing things just for you, that no one else can spoil.. I’m enrolling on a 6 week beginners art course… which I’m really excited about.
Nice to have something new and positive to focus on ☺️ That doesn’t involve potatoes.

Mine has asked for a call on Friday after my text about sexual exclusivity. I’m thinking that if it wasn’t a simple, yes that’s the way I do things too, then he and I are probably incompatible.

However, I would definitely stay friends with him so we shall see. I wasn’t particularly invested in the whole thing and wouldn’t find that switch difficult.

@WeWantTheFinestWines I wouldn't worry too much about him not replying straight away. I do things like read a message then not reply for hours, Mr Cricket does the same. I sometimes read them whilst sat at traffic lights or in the gym. Sometimes the boring hum drum life jobs get in the way, sometimes I want to think about the reply, sometimes I just forget. I know if I send one on a Saturday afternoon for instance Mr Cricket will read it but not reply until Sunday morning as he is playing cricket/getting pissed with his team mates. I worked that out fairly early on.

@Shayelle2009 enjoy! You may meet someone there. I've thrown myself into courses at work. I did mental health last week and I'm doing project management in a couple of weeks.

Well, I had a date with Mr Fisher the other day. He was nice enough, conversation flowed fairly easily but..I didn't fancy him. I feel a bit bad saying it because he wasn't bad looking but there was just so spark and he was a bit, I don't know, boring? He just didn't interest me 😞 Feels terrible to say that because there was nothing 'wrong' with him as such.

Mr Tall has been trying to hit me up for sex again, tried to come over yesterday, then cancelled, then uncancelled. I said no. I KNOW I said I'd stop talking to him but I really like him and I'm so low at the moment that even the offer of meaningless sex will temporarily make me feel better, so I'm tempted 😞 I wish I could not be so weak and just tell him to fuck off but I'm lonely and have no better offers.

Mr Prison wants to come over tomorrow. I'm really not feeling it but I feel bad cancelling. Don't know what to say to him.

Mr Campervan has been keeping in touch. Still chatty and flirty just no mention of meeting up. I don't want a pen pal so I'm kind of over that. I'll still chat to him and be friendly but I'm not waiting around.

Feeling super miserable and disillusioned with it all. Like what's the point, they're all going to just lie or me and use me anyway. No one actually gives a shit about me as a person, no one cares beyond what they can get out of me (ie, sex). Blarg.

@troobleflooble could all the low feelings you have not be being caused by all these chats? Are you not able to cut ties with them all and take some time out to clear your head. I think we seem (or i do at least) let these strangers dictate our days, emotions and happiness based on messages we get from them. With MrS he'd go quiet and i'd go so low then a random kiss txt would put this huge smile on my face only for it to fizzle out a week or so later as he'd have disappeared again. Best thing i did was let MrS go and not react to any of his texts. It was hard at first but got easier and i began to be happier without waiting/wondering all the time. In fact the happiest i've been is when i wasn't on the apps. I only recently joined again. I definitely wouldn't cave to MrTall unless you can detach and just have fun with him. Not easy if you think you like him already. And don't persue the Fisherman if you aren't feeling it you can't force yourself too. I don't know what magic there is out there or why it is that its so hard to find someone who is genuinely interested in a relationship but i'm sending you a in case this helps!