Dating Thread 206 - picking up tradesmen aswell as dates

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Aw hi @Shayelle2009, how are you👋 x

Quick update. Mr Cake is 30 minutes late. I'm just sitting here all alone with a coffee as you do 🙈🙈

Hi all,

Just checking in after a little break.

I've been on Hinge for about a week now and I really like it. I've deleted my Bumble account as I was getting too many non responses.

I've got a nice chat going with a lovely sounding Irish guy at the moment. ❤️

@FluffyFluffMonster

Quick update. Mr Cake is 30 minutes late. I'm just sitting here all alone with a coffee as you do 🙈🙈

Has he told you he will be late ? If not I would finish my coffee and leave . He's being rude

I genuinely only logged on to check if he was on

Why would you do that? Maybe he was also genuinely logging on to see if you were on?

Back from the date. He showed up after my message. He was coming from an hour and half way so guess it wasn't too bad him being late.
Date went well. He got me lots of Welsh cakes. (Works in a Welsh cake factory) hence the name,
He dressed well, smelt good, was a gentleman.
I find a lot of men don't make an effect to dress well or wear aftershave. Is this just Welsh men?
Not sure if he wants to meet again.

Thanks @Shayelle2009 no definitely not meeting again!

He sent another three messages last night which I ignored so hopefully that’s that. I’ll send him a terse message then block if I get any more

Kind of reminded me a bit of something on another thread where they were saying on apps, good looking guys in their thirties with good careers who “tick initial boxes” feel they can have their “pick of a lot of women ” .

and if they aren’t naturally grounded and decent, they can get really arrogant and think their date will be desperate to be intimate with them just to “keep them interested”.

Even if it’s not the right moment?

It reminded me a bit of a date I had with a (probably close to a millionaire guy, in his thirties no kids) where he just started trying to get physically frisky in Caffè Nero after we’d had half a latte and sat down

he was complaining that the only women who ended up dating were after his money and all the “attractive intelligent types” he wanted didn’t want him

Ooh, I love a Welsh cake, bit disappointed to hear they are made in factories. The Waitrose ones are best! (Outside of Wales I mean)

Dinner date tonight, the guy seems decent and keen to do a proper date (though quite reserved in messages) so let’s see how it goes in person.

Imagine if you’d have been with him in private @SpringlikeBunk!! Doesn't bear thinking about!!

Ooh good luck with your dinner date ☺️

@bangheadhere40 how are you feeling today? Don’t worry, I have zero matches on either tinder or bumble, and it’s run out of men on bumble anyway. All Tinder is showing me is either men who look like large mutated rodents, or potatoes with too many eyes and sprouts.

@Shayelle2009

Lol you looking at MY wall of shame there?

And then the guys who AREN’T potatoes feel entitled to sex immediately as reward for being vaguely ok.

[quote Shayelle2009]@bangheadhere40 how are you feeling today? Don’t worry, I have zero matches on either tinder or bumble, and it’s run out of men on bumble anyway. All Tinder is showing me is either men who look like large mutated rodents, or potatoes with too many eyes and sprouts.[/quote]
@Shayelle2009🤣🤣

Saying that I've hidden my Tinder profile again, there really is no one on there that I like the look of, except my ex (who looks a bit like he did when we met in his photos). I feel really shallow saying that.

Thanks shayelle a little better thanks 😊

Your posts always make me laugh, I know exactly what you mean my mutated rodents ...I've been on pof today and it should be renamed pop ( plenty of potatoes).

One guy on Bumble sent me a voice note asking to meet on the first message and wanting to call but I'm not really fancying him. Nice voice though...

I just don't fancy hardly anyone.

@bangheadhere40 ‘pop’ 😂😂 that did make me laugh!! It’s so true though! It literally is a crimewatch catalogue that site isn’t it? I did have great chats with a lovely guy from there though, Mr JD, but he was another one that just wasn’t really interested 😕

Mission Impossible this………..

@bangheadhere40

Thanks shayelle a little better thanks 😊

Your posts always make me laugh, I know exactly what you mean my mutated rodents ...I've been on pof today and it should be renamed pop ( plenty of potatoes).

One guy on Bumble sent me a voice note asking to meet on the first message and wanting to call but I'm not really fancying him. Nice voice though...

I just don't fancy hardly anyone.

@banghead you just need time, that's all. I don't like forward guys either. It puts me off. ❤️

Sending you lots of love ❤️😘

Crap isn't it...I have also found the rare gem on pof...including the last iron who wasn't interested though. 🤔

It is mission impossible you are right!

No, I don't like forward guys either....I just want a nice normal man who isn't a stalker, ghoster, shacked up with his ex or a rodent/ potato. I don't think I'm asking for the earth here. 🙂

@banghead don't worry, I'm the same as you. I don't know weather I'll be able to trust a man again, after what happened with my ex. As I said in my last post to you, you just need time and a man who isn't pushy and will give you space ❤️

@bangheadhere40

No, I don't like forward guys either....I just want a nice normal man who isn't a stalker, ghoster, shacked up with his ex or a rodent/ potato. I don't think I'm asking for the earth here. 🙂

No, not at all ❤️😘🙂

Dream on @bangheadhere40 😬😬😉😀

I’m not really sure what I’m after tbh!

I probably could have pinned down someone reasonable,

but I want to chill out getting to know someone for a while.

Plus I’m moving soon and will get a chance to meet lots of my kind of guy, so not sure I’ll want a “home boyfriend”.

The app format means you’re “expected to come up with answers about what you want very quickly” rather than letting stuff grow organically.

I’m actually feeling quite sexual at the moment!

But the whole “lazy clinical” approach of some guys on the apps just turns me off - it’s like if I admit I wouldn’t mind spending a night with someone, then the next move is “I want to come to yours at the last minute”

I set up a blank profile and had a look at the fab site last night. Erm, yes Lots of apparatus images.

But actually a few decent well written messages as well.

So maybe if I just want a lover for the summer , could do a very specific profile and meet in public first and be very clear that I want them to host or get a hotel room etc.

I hear you @SpringlikeBunk,

I’m just after something light, with someone I fancy the frick out of (only ever seem to walk past this particular species of hotness in the street - or in their work vans 😏.. never see them on the apps)..

I don’t want marriage, kids or to live together, I don’t want to see someone every weekend.. but someone to go out with have fun times with.. days out etc..

I’m coming to the conclusion it just isn’t going to happen!!

From my hours experience on fabswingers (if you’re squeamish about seeing Male nudity please DO NOT join) I’m actually quite intrigued!

Two guys have messaged who look really really good, seem polite and respectful , and have good “reviews” and photos are just of them with shirts off (not anything TMI!).

I don’t have time to connect to them right now, but might do a proper profile at some stage with very clear expectations and boundaries and what I’m looking for? Also some anonymous photos of me.