Dating Thread 205 - dusting off the gladrags

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@bangheadhere40

Thanks belladimamma 😊 I do enjoy swimming in the sea actually...I think you're right, something adrenaline related.

Fab! Do it! The great thing about these hobbies is there are loads of other fanatics so you can all bore the pants 🩲 off each other with the info on tide times etc

[quote BelladiMamma]@Iamclearlyamug but of course careful with the love bombing. I second everyone else! Really hope he doesn't turn out to be a love bomber and is just a nice guy who's a bit smitten with you 🥰[/quote]
I hope so too. He does sound lovely 😊

Have looked up Mr HR on LinkedIn. He sounds really clever. Hopefully I can have a career like his one day. 😊

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Have looked up Mr HR on LinkedIn. He sounds really clever. Hopefully I can have a career like his one day. 😊

And hopefully he'll be lucky enough to meet a nice person like you ♥️

Know your worth ♥️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards echoing @BelladiMamma - know your worth and add tax! Just from reading I get the sense you feel you are lucky he’s chatting to you - that shouldn’t be the case at all!

@BelladiMamma 😘😘

[quote Myfabby]**@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* echoing @BelladiMamma* - know your worth and add tax! Just from reading I get the sense you feel you are lucky he’s chatting to you - that shouldn’t be the case at all![/quote]
@Myfabby yes, I suppose I do feel lucky that he's chatting to me. I don't have much luck with men generally, so enjoying it while it lasts ❤️

@BelladiMamma @Myfabby I think my time to know my worth will come once I find a man who wants to be with me 😊 onwards and upwards ❤️

[quote OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]**@BelladiMamma* @Myfabby* I think my time to know my worth will come once I find a man who wants to be with me 😊 onwards and upwards ❤️[/quote]
Injecting self confidence from distance! Through a screen 📺... if it works! 💪🏿

So...it appears I am being ghosted. Mr finance has never not replied to a message and today he hasn't responded since early afternoon but has been online. Not sure what happened

@BelladiMamma aww thank you ☺️ I feel
Very lucky to have so many supportive people behind me on this thread ❤️ 😘😘

@Misty9

So...it appears I am being ghosted. Mr finance has never not replied to a message and today he hasn't responded since early afternoon but has been online. Not sure what happened

@Misty9 I hate it when that happens. I really hope he replies to you. 👍🏻 Have you tried calling him? ❤️

@Misty9

So...it appears I am being ghosted. Mr finance has never not replied to a message and today he hasn't responded since early afternoon but has been online. Not sure what happened

🤔 hmmm one afternoon does not a ghoster make. Put it to one side and see how the land lies in the morning

[quote BelladiMamma]@bangheadhere40 I think that throwing yourself into something new is the best thing, or doing something that scares you a bit, as you have to really really concentrate on it!! For me something that gives me an adrenaline rush has always worked as it replaces that awful limerance up and down feeling. At the risk of sounding a little Diana Mitford, I always find that booking a showjumping lesson scares the utter crap out of me and also emptied my brain of all other thoughts. Some people do sea swimming and say it has the same effect. It's also a lot cheaper and probably won't end in a trip to A&E. (I'm making it sound way too exciting, I rarely jump very high). [/quote]
Skiing did that for me. You can't think about your woes or you just fall over.

[quote OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]**@BelladiMamma* @Myfabby* I think my time to know my worth will come once I find a man who wants to be with me 😊 onwards and upwards ❤️[/quote]
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards Please don't base your self worth on a man, no good will ever come of it.

You are amazing in your own right, how can we help you see that?

@SortingItOut I don't think I do base my self worth on a man, do I? I'm not sure I do. Though it might read that way on here.

I'm the way I am because of the way I've been thought of in previous relationships, I think. 🤔

Quick update:

MrTall - 3rd date Thu, he wants to 'practice kissing' (after he said the kiss was 'amazing' I said perhaps we should practice a bit more - it wasn't amazing but was worth another go, though obviously I didn't quite frame it like that with him). Country pub for dinner I gather.

Decorator - 1) has found me a plumber who is going to inspect my drains (ooer, I hope this doesn't turn into another man I have to juggle!) and has said that when he's finished decorating I can take him out for a drink. He's so predictable and dull - he tells me now that he only goes on about Boris to wind me up and he likes to hear my views on things because I am intelligent and interesting. So, I'm going to have to give it to him straight.
He also added £200 to his bill for the extra work which was no way that much.

Talking of amazing kissing - MrWG was here yesterday afternoon and evening, to 1am (he had to go home because he is dog sitting)......mmmmmm.......still no DTD yet though, there was a passing mention of viagra in a different context and I thought oh right. Later I said 'we have to dtd soon' (obvs I didn't quite say that) and he said he'd get some viagra in, so that question is answered......
I told him I had missed him and he said "well, I'm away a lot", I said I know. So, we'll see.

I talked to someone in the group who knows him well, I just wanted to get a feel for her response. She basically said "he'll need managing" because he's so flaky and hard to pin down, not malicious, just so busy.
I do wonder if he's running away from something by filling his life up quite so much.

@VanGoghsDog

Quick update:

MrTall - 3rd date Thu, he wants to 'practice kissing' (after he said the kiss was 'amazing' I said perhaps we should practice a bit more - it wasn't amazing but was worth another go, though obviously I didn't quite frame it like that with him). Country pub for dinner I gather.

Decorator - 1) has found me a plumber who is going to inspect my drains (ooer, I hope this doesn't turn into another man I have to juggle!) and has said that when he's finished decorating I can take him out for a drink. He's so predictable and dull - he tells me now that he only goes on about Boris to wind me up and he likes to hear my views on things because I am intelligent and interesting. So, I'm going to have to give it to him straight.
He also added £200 to his bill for the extra work which was no way that much.

Talking of amazing kissing - MrWG was here yesterday afternoon and evening, to 1am (he had to go home because he is dog sitting)......mmmmmm.......still no DTD yet though, there was a passing mention of viagra in a different context and I thought oh right. Later I said 'we have to dtd soon' (obvs I didn't quite say that) and he said he'd get some viagra in, so that question is answered......
I told him I had missed him and he said "well, I'm away a lot", I said I know. So, we'll see.

I talked to someone in the group who knows him well, I just wanted to get a feel for her response. She basically said "he'll need managing" because he's so flaky and hard to pin down, not malicious, just so busy.
I do wonder if he's running away from something by filling his life up quite so much.

Good luck with Mr Tall, @VanGogh! ❤️

@VanGoghsDog fingers crossed for you getting your drains fixed as well ❤️

Evening everyone. So I replied to Mr Cricket's message, it felt right as he was so nice. Weirdly his message included general chit chat about his cricket matches and his week, like he would have been messaging me anyway.

I'm still talking to Mr Confused, we have some good banter, almost like I had with Computer Geek, he has picked up on my sarcasm and has told me not to change that for anyone. Not sure about this one, he has been open about just being out of a relationship and not knowing what he wants. I feel a bit of de ja vu with this one, which is a shame as it feels so natural chatting to him.

@Isitreallyme77

Evening everyone. So I replied to Mr Cricket's message, it felt right as he was so nice. Weirdly his message included general chit chat about his cricket matches and his week, like he would have been messaging me anyway.

I'm still talking to Mr Confused, we have some good banter, almost like I had with Computer Geek, he has picked up on my sarcasm and has told me not to change that for anyone. Not sure about this one, he has been open about just being out of a relationship and not knowing what he wants. I feel a bit of de ja vu with this one, which is a shame as it feels so natural chatting to him.

@Isitreallyme77 👍🏻. I would just keep chatting to them and see how it goes ❤️

Good luck with that juggling & your drains @VanGoghsDog I hope Thursday goes well with Mr Tall.
Decorator sounds like he irritates you a bit to be honest, and I'm off flakes for good personally!
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm not sure if it's so much that you seem to base your self worth on a man's perspective, but to me it comes across that you're more concerned about what they think of you than what you actually think of them. It's fine to be picky!
In my news, Mr Dimples has asked me out and has chased up for a day (Friday) and asked where I'd like him to take me so he can book 😍 I love this proactive approach and I've got that delicious bubbly nervy feeling.
Mr Normal is chatty but less forward, I suspect he's quite new to OLD but I might suggest a date zero next week. Trying not to put all my eggs in one basket.
Of course, as soon as I start to move forward Mr O and Mr Polo have been in touch, the former with more game playing which I didn't entertain, the latter with an apology for prev behaviour. Snooze you lose!

That sounds good heartbeat I like his approach too, very mature and reassuring.

I'm sick of flakes too!

So I matched with someone who seemed okay and sent him a nice message. The most rubbish reply back ever of an emoji of a fish saying he's fishing. No questions, nada....this is sooo tedious.

I unmatch them too @bangheadhere40 if they just talk about themselves and nooo interest / questions or any curiosity back. Think I’d get more out of a plank of wood or a house brick!

It's just disheartening isn't it, I can see why I take so many breaks from this shayelle!

Any prospects for you? X