Dating Thread 205 - dusting off the gladrags

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Isitreallyme77- I think you should block CG and move on 😘 I know it will be hard for you and I completely understand why you're still thinking of him. But it's just keeping you in limbo and that won't be good for you in the long run ❤️

@GaraMedouar I love that overinvested feeling of excitement though.. that ‘what if’... gives you just that little bit of sparkle I find!!

Do you two think of your iron a lot? I do and I just want him out of my head permanently, I was so hurt by him.

@Shayelle2009 - oh goodness yes - lots of sparkle! I’m ‘what iffing’ all over the place!

I’m in a similar position to you though @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - got to brave that date zero!

Just a little update re MrLorry

Think I’m in love 😂😂 yesterday I went up to visit him (he’s about an hour from me and he’s been down to me so far). He’d bought me roses and some chocolate for my daughter (which he said to just say I bought). Took me for breakfast, dinner and had arranged a lovely boat trip for us along the river.!Paid for everything (which isn’t massively important to me it’s still a nice thing). Then ended up coming back to mine last night, when he arrived he’d bought MORE flowers (white roses this time) and he came to the yard this morning so I could look after my horses and wasn’t phased by all the polish lads glaring him out, in fact he made an effort and struck up conversation with them (he’s polish too, can’t remember if I mentioned that). Then I took him to a cafe which everyone in my area loves for breakfast and he’s only just left now 🥰🥰😍😍

Happy Monday all 😇😇

[quote GaraMedouar]@Shayelle2009 - oh goodness yes - lots of sparkle! I’m ‘what iffing’ all over the place!

I’m in a similar position to you though @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - got to brave that date zero! [/quote]
@GaraMedouar ❤️

@Iamclearlyamug

Just a little update re MrLorry

Think I’m in love 😂😂 yesterday I went up to visit him (he’s about an hour from me and he’s been down to me so far). He’d bought me roses and some chocolate for my daughter (which he said to just say I bought). Took me for breakfast, dinner and had arranged a lovely boat trip for us along the river.!Paid for everything (which isn’t massively important to me it’s still a nice thing). Then ended up coming back to mine last night, when he arrived he’d bought MORE flowers (white roses this time) and he came to the yard this morning so I could look after my horses and wasn’t phased by all the polish lads glaring him out, in fact he made an effort and struck up conversation with them (he’s polish too, can’t remember if I mentioned that). Then I took him to a cafe which everyone in my area loves for breakfast and he’s only just left now 🥰🥰😍😍

Happy Monday all 😇😇

@Iamclearlyamug- sounds like you had a great time! He sounds fabulous ❤️

@Iamclearlyamug oh my gosh i have to ask is he a lorry driver? i've posted before about my last man being one and how i can't stop checking out any lorry driver that drives past now! He sounds lovely, what a nice monday. Seems you may have got a good/decent man so they are out there somewhere. So cute about the gifts too! You're so lucky!

@Naimee87 he is actually 🤦‍♂️😂😂😂

aaaaahhh i'm so jealous!! Enjoyyy yourself! I love trucks! so much so i'm learning to drive them myself. I had a lot of fun in the one Mr S had, was one of the HUGE ones! Maaaybe too much information (sorry if that was a massive overshare)

I must admit I'm starting to think of Mr HR a lot. 😊

Messaged a few more potentials on Bumble, but just waiting them to reply ❤️

@Iamclearlyamug - yay, Mr Lorry sounds lovely ❤️

@iamclearlyamug he sounds lovely but and I'm going to probabaly come across as a cynical bitch I would watch out for love bombing as it sounds too much too soon to me

@Iamclearlyamug I'm with dancer , it sounds lovely but very love bombing to do all this so soon in to you dating.

Remember to take your time and try not to spend too much time together, maybe a day here and there otherwise you end up swept up in his lovebombing and not being able to see the word for the trees.

Heard from Mr Cricket, he isn't ready for another relationship but happy to stay in contact as friends. Why do men do it? I'm more than happy to have friends but really I don't want a collection of new male friends who aren't ready to date.

I am talking to another one who has openly admitted he isn't ready to date and isn't sure what he wants.

Back to the drawing board I go.

Seems to be really common with men in their 40s , more so than when I was younger.

They just don't want to tie themselves down I think, and are always thinking there's 'better' on the next swipe.

Was never like this when I did old 10 years ago but the men were younger then.

I really wish I wasn't born in this digital era sometimes.

@Isitreallyme77

Heard from Mr Cricket, he isn't ready for another relationship but happy to stay in contact as friends. Why do men do it? I'm more than happy to have friends but really I don't want a collection of new male friends who aren't ready to date.

I am talking to another one who has openly admitted he isn't ready to date and isn't sure what he wants.

Back to the drawing board I go.

@Isitreallyme77 ❤️

@Dancerinthemoonlight and @SortingItOut thanks guys I needed to hear this too. We’ve got no plans to meet again till the weekend and I’m full on with work and DD - I’m keen to take things slowly slowly and he won’t be allowed within 10 miles of DD for at least a year

@Iamclearlyamug

I think you should enjoy it, but have wits about you. I hope he is a keeper:-)

Godamnit what is wrong with me??

Almost exactly a year... Mr Music and I are back in touch.
On a positive note he genuinely apologised for last year and said he wasn't in a good headspace.

I will tread lightly indeed.

Haha I dont blame you @GaraMedouar nice to just have those happy thoughts isnt it?? Gives you such a nice little lift! ☺️☺️

@Iamclearlyamug glad you’ve been having a great time!! Im jealous 😬

@Isitreallyme77 at least you have your answer now in black and white so you can just forget about him and move on??

@bangheadhere40 I think that throwing yourself into something new is the best thing, or doing something that scares you a bit, as you have to really really concentrate on it!! For me something that gives me an adrenaline rush has always worked as it replaces that awful limerance up and down feeling. At the risk of sounding a little Diana Mitford, I always find that booking a showjumping lesson scares the utter crap out of me and also emptied my brain of all other thoughts. Some people do sea swimming and say it has the same effect. It's also a lot cheaper and probably won't end in a trip to A&E. (I'm making it sound way too exciting, I rarely jump very high).

@Iamclearlyamug

Just a little update re MrLorry

Think I’m in love 😂😂 yesterday I went up to visit him (he’s about an hour from me and he’s been down to me so far). He’d bought me roses and some chocolate for my daughter (which he said to just say I bought). Took me for breakfast, dinner and had arranged a lovely boat trip for us along the river.!Paid for everything (which isn’t massively important to me it’s still a nice thing). Then ended up coming back to mine last night, when he arrived he’d bought MORE flowers (white roses this time) and he came to the yard this morning so I could look after my horses and wasn’t phased by all the polish lads glaring him out, in fact he made an effort and struck up conversation with them (he’s polish too, can’t remember if I mentioned that). Then I took him to a cafe which everyone in my area loves for breakfast and he’s only just left now 🥰🥰😍😍

Happy Monday all 😇😇

Oh my god I love him too 🤣🤣🤣

Thanks belladimamma 😊 I do enjoy swimming in the sea actually...I think you're right, something adrenaline related.

@Iamclearlyamug but of course careful with the love bombing. I second everyone else! Really hope he doesn't turn out to be a love bomber and is just a nice guy who's a bit smitten with you 🥰