Dating Thread 205 - dusting off the gladrags

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

[quote Isitreallyme77]@VanGoghsDog have you tried Mr Muscle sink and drain gel? When my bathroom sink was blocked, nothing would shift it not even plunging(that just made the sink leak), then I used that and it cleared. It's my go to for the blocked bath too.[/quote]
I've tried everything. It's not blocked.

Actually considering moving! Where abouts are people in the country thst seem to find decent matches??

I just matched with a nice one on tinder said 20 miles away, turns out he's on holiday and lives on the south coast....aaarrgghhh 😆 I'm rural North West.

No, London not south coast....Still....all the time!!!

Okay this iron seems lovely and he's actually moving up north 😳 sold his London place and has been up here house hunting. No kids or anything so pretty easy move.

Wants to chat later - Mr Nurse, probably another flop 🤣

Ooh, fingers crossed he's normal @bangheadhere40

Messaging continues with Mr Finance and I can't quite believe how easily it's going. I've mentioned something about the future and he hasn't freaked, he hasn't minded me messaging mundane crap about my day, in fact he seems to like it. I'm not used to this...! I don't even feel (much) need to seek reassurance from him. But, it's only been 2 weeks and a few dates and I need to be careful not to invest too much emotion at this stage. Does anyone else find it easy to fall into messaging as a comfort thing, especially if lonely?

Happy Sunday all :)

@Misty9 yes I like texting when I'm lonely (most of the time), it chases away the evenings when dc are in bed and I want to do something for myself.

I've got two chats (no plans to meet as I don't know them IRL so don't tend to meet those - which they know) still going on atm and two is the limit, neither are bothered if I take ages to reply and same goes for me so works well.

I still have MrM, no real idea how to describe what I have going on with him at all 🤦‍♀️ but we went on a short, beautiful, idyllic and picturesque walk yesterday that just lifted my soul right back to where it belongs ❤️.

Hi everyone,

Lovely to hear some positive news on the dating front! Mr Jujitsu sounds lovely, @GaraMedouar ❤️

Me and Mr HR are still messaging. I really like how easy our chats are. We messaged a bit this morning. He's coming back from Dorset today so hopefully we'll chat more this week 🙂

Hope everyone has a wonderful Sunday ❤️

@GaraMedouar I too have had much better luck meeting decent blokes on the apps than through my IRL network. Maybe it's something about being 50 🤣

But - don't forget to organise the meet double quick in case the chemistry is pants 🩲 and we don't want that...!

Hope you get to meet him soon onwards...sounds nice. And misty just enjoy it. That's when you know it's right I think when there's no anxiety, we should listen to our anxiety as a warning sign not something to change, I should anyway 😁

This is really bizarre...another iron matched on tinder but not from here, but moving up here too.

It must be my area - I can't find anyone for months then have 2 both from not round here wanting to move who seem non potatoes and can spell.

Thank you @banghead. I hope so too! 🙂❤️

@bangheadhere40 - like buses ! Wait for ages then two come along at the same time - enjoy.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - good news about Mr HR - try and meet soon - I’m going to take my own advice and try and meet Mr Jujitsu soon. Gosh would just be amazing if we clicked IRL.

@Misty9 - glad it’s going well with Mr Finance too - have fun.

Must be all this lovely summer sun

[quote GaraMedouar]@bangheadhere40 - like buses ! Wait for ages then two come along at the same time - enjoy.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - good news about Mr HR - try and meet soon - I’m going to take my own advice and try and meet Mr Jujitsu soon. Gosh would just be amazing if we clicked IRL.

@Misty9 - glad it’s going well with Mr Finance too - have fun.

Must be all this lovely summer sun [/quote]
@GaraMedouar I'll try. I don't know if he's interested in me like that, to be honest. We mainly just chat about how our days and week have been, HR and send comedy gifs to one another. It's still very early days, to be honest, So anything can happen ❤️

@GaraMedouar thank you for the good luck wishes 🙂❤️

@Misty9 I definitely use messaging as a comfort thing myself, it makes me feel thought about!

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards he sounds great, meet him soon!!

Nothing too much to add on my side, seen one iron, Mr Computer for a second date. He's a good guy but im not feeling so excited by him so im thinking im just a bit lonely hence meeting him. Had a date with Mr Italian last week which was fun but he had way too much drama in his life for me to want to chase after. Chatting to another hot sort from Fab who lives close by and who im tempted to meet for a tea! Im missing a real connection though and trying hard not to compare to exes with my rose tinted glasses on. Im also looking forward to working again!

[quote Eesha]@Misty9 I definitely use messaging as a comfort thing myself, it makes me feel thought about!

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards he sounds great, meet him soon!!

Nothing too much to add on my side, seen one iron, Mr Computer for a second date. He's a good guy but im not feeling so excited by him so im thinking im just a bit lonely hence meeting him. Had a date with Mr Italian last week which was fun but he had way too much drama in his life for me to want to chase after. Chatting to another hot sort from Fab who lives close by and who im tempted to meet for a tea! Im missing a real connection though and trying hard not to compare to exes with my rose tinted glasses on. Im also looking forward to working again![/quote]
@Eesha thank you. I really like him ❤️

Mr Tea and Cake has suggested another date. I have suggested an activity so it looks like crazy golf on Wednesday evening.
I thought as it wasn't a bad date it's worth another to figure out if the talk and annoying yah was just nerves of if he is actually like that.

I can't imagine going on another date myself. The only person I've ever dated is my ex, so it would be so nerve racking

I mean, I would probably want to go out with Mr HR if he asked me, but I don't have much confidence in myself (you've probably all guessed that) and I'd be worried he wouldn't like me.

...plus he's really good looking, so he could get anyone he wanted.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - don’t put yourself down. I couldn’t just go to sleep and leave your message without responding after reading it .

It is nerve racking, of course - but I’m sure Mr HR would like you. You’ve clicked and get on really well. You’re lovely - that exudes out of the screen. And if Mr HR doesn’t appreciate that some other lucky chap will. x

@bangheadhere40 glad you’ve got a couple of irons to chat to at last, do they seem cool? You’re doing better than me, completed tinder with a 30 miles radius and not got one chat going or they’ve fizzled and I’ve unmatched. Still matched with Mr Gwen but we’ve not spoken in days.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards you can’t think like that, who cares what a random person of the internet thinks - know your worth 💗💗 it’s he who has to be worthy of you x

Hi shayelle one has definitely fizzled out and the other never got back in touch when he said so I'm not following up!

Ah well, back to the drawing board. 😁

Gargh!! Don’t worry im there on the drawing board with you! It’s boring on the drawing board isn’t it 🙄😣

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards don't think like that, you're lovely and any man would be lucky to have you.

No update from me. I did book my hotel for my friends wedding in ibiza next year and really need that plus one.

Mr Cricket is quiet although he had cricket on both Saturday and Sunday. A friend did say something that got me thinking though. She said Mr Cricket doesn't excite me as I only ever describe him as nice. I suppose he doesn't, well not like Computer Geek did. Computer Geek was cheeky, unpredictable and fun but he was also a broken mess. The stuff with Computer Geek hurt me and messed with my head and I just want nice, normal and reliable (not necessarily with Mr Cricket as I feel that one may be fizzling out).

Is that such a bad thing?

Morning all, hope everyone has had a good weekend.
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards also pleased to hear things are going well with Mr HR, I dare you to suggest a coffee! If it makes you feel better, go with a "date zero" mentality, where you're just meeting to decide if you want to go on a date. You're feelings towards him are just as important here!
@Isitreallyme77 I know what you mean about Mr cricket. I think there must be a middle ground somewhere between reliable/nice and exciting?
In my news, I have managed not to contact Mr O. Dived head first into the SoT on Tinder, 64 matches, multiple chats and I've whittled down to two irons that are name worthy
Mr Normal, who is really just that, or appears to be so far! Complimentary but not pushy, asks questions, seems interested in my life, good father and lives locally to boot.
Mr Dimples who I actually know vaguely from college. I had a massive crush on him then and he's asked me out for a drink! Also local, no commitments.
I tried to do a closure text with Mr O before and it didn't work so I'm just going to leave it.
I wondered about doing one to Mr Polo but in hindsight it's pointless, he doesn't need it so I don't want it.
Onwards and upwards! Apologies for the epic post..