Dating Thread 205 - dusting off the gladrags

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

An update from me. Still chatting and meeting with my my plumber from fab. Ironically we haven't got lose to DTD yet but think it's getting closer
Both confirmed we are giving it a go. I have two grown up children at home and he is living with his dad temp so opportunities minimal. Slowly moving forward and it's good. We do have lots in common and get on well no awkward silences etc when we've met up
Must be the longest fab couple to have not DTD. But it's the same
People usual apps or fab
I'll update if anything changes

[quote Isitreallyme77]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards thank you. I know I'm probably being a bit silly, if he was disappearing he would have blocked me on WhatsApp and wouldn't have agreed to Friday. I don't want to bring it up with him either. I'm not actually swiping at the moment (my head can't deal with multiple chats or dates) I just went on to hide my profile.[/quote]
@Isitreallyme77 indeed he would have done. I know it's hard, but I would take your mind of it for now. Otherwise you'll drive yourself mad ❤️

I bet he'll be in touch soon 😘😘

New dresses? You guys are upping the bar! I thought I might put on clean jeans for my Friday drink with MrTall. If the weather holds (I hear it's not going to, sorry) I'll maybe wear something more interesting.

For MrWG I might shave my legs and remember not to eat garlic the day before - but he's a 'sure thing'!

@Isitreallyme77 - don’t worry it’s fine. My first date took himself off tinder before we met , just didn’t like it - he’d told me he was going to do so. We still communicated on WhatsApp.

@BelladiMamma - remind me - how far away do you live from Mr Bear? Was about 50 min wasn’t it?

@Isitreallyme77 I know that's the most hypocritical thing for me to say! ❤️

[quote GaraMedouar]@Isitreallyme77 - don’t worry it’s fine. My first date took himself off tinder before we met , just didn’t like it - he’d told me he was going to do so. We still communicated on WhatsApp.

@BelladiMamma - remind me - how far away do you live from Mr Bear? Was about 50 min wasn’t it?[/quote]
Yes, 50 mins on the train over an hour by car. We meet halfway with the dogs if not overnighting

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards and @GaraMedouar thank you, I suppose he did tell me last week. In fact we both said about deleting our profiles as we found OLD not really our thing. I think I'm just a worrier.

I had a 'maintenance man' visit to Mr Roads tonight. He's funny and nice and pretty good in the sack so all is good there.

Mr HT is coming for dinner tomorrow.......

[quote Isitreallyme77]**@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* and @GaraMedouar* thank you, I suppose he did tell me last week. In fact we both said about deleting our profiles as we found OLD not really our thing. I think I'm just a worrier.[/quote]
@Isitreallyme77 everyone worries sometimes, you wouldn't be human if you didn't ❤️

Don’t worry @Isitreallyme77, I’d more than likely have deleted my tinder by now as I’m right down to the potatoes at the end.. however I’m not giving out my number until after any successful date zero, which means I’m stuck on there for now or Mr Gwen won’t be able to contact me. Be calm and positive 🙂 i’m sure he wouldn’t have said yes if he didn’t want to see you. Your new dress sounds lovely! I’m probably going to go for denim cut offs and a little t-shirt, trainers.

Have a lovely time with mr HT @cravingthelook 🥰

@Shayelle2009 yeah I've hidden mine, I wasn't swiping (in fact I haven't swiped in two weeks) so it seemed stupid to keep it visible. And I suppose everyone is right, he wouldn't have said yes if he didn't want to. As he said Tinder really isn't him. Now I need to stop worrying.

What is it with these flakey men? Had a really lovely date with someone on Sunday - we'd been chatting consistently for a week or so and continued after the date. Agreed we wanted to meet up again. Was texting yesterday morning before I had a hospital appointment - he wished me luck and I replied with a thumbs up and then ..... nothing. Am I being too princessy to expect a 'how did it go' ?

@Letthefunandgamesstart, does he know what the hospital appointment was for? He may not want to appear nosey or insensitive by asking how it went. I presume you are saying that there was no contact rather than him just not asking about it ?

He doesn't know what it was for and no contact at all - I'd given him a special WA tone as well (does anyone else do this or is it just me)!!

I would keep swiping too @Isitreallyme77... it kinda sounds like you're putting your eggs into one bastard.. good to keep options open as it’s really days?? x

*early days

@Letthefunandgamesstart, I’d probably just send a kind of ‘ what a lovely day. How’s your Wednesday shaping up? ‘ msg to restart the dialogue and then the ball is back in his court.

@Letthefunandgamesstart

He doesn't know what it was for and no contact at all - I'd given him a special WA tone as well (does anyone else do this or is it just me)!!

Had no idea you could do personal WA tones!

I think I'd hope to have heard after a hospital appointment but I also know I'm not great at remembering to follow up those sorts of things so I'd give him a break.

If "normal" contact has stopped then......yes, flaky. I'd do a quick "nice day" message and see if that reminds him.

I'm still getting messages every day from the decorator. Painting now done, I'm very happy with it, though there is a little bit still for him to do and I do wonder if he left it so he had to come back when I'm here!

Vangoghsdog - you're lucky he did most of it - my decorator came round to quote for my lounge last October - known him for years - we were both single and he has become a rather lovely FWB but still hasn't done the work - he doesn't want to charge me and I'm not letting him do it for nothing!

Ok - light message sent - let's see what happens

@cravingthelook hope you're dinner date with Mr. HT goes well! ❤️

@Letthefunandgamesstart

Ok - light message sent - let's see what happens

@Letthefunandgamesstart 🤞🏻

He replied within minutes and asked how it went - perhaps I was being a princess!!

Chatting to a potential on Tinder. He has a 3 year old son, says the son predominantly live with him as the son prefers loving with him.
I am child free but feel like there must be a reason as to why but don't want to pry. I know it potentially means not much time for dates as I'm young and child free so outside of work have a lot of free time.

@Letthefunandgamesstart

He replied within minutes and asked how it went - perhaps I was being a princess!!

@Letthefunandgamesstart so pleased he replied to you ❤️