More Legs chapter three - the one where there’s a little light at the end of the tunnel

[MoreLegsThanMe]

New thread. Can’t believe I’ve got to three.

It’s a good chance I think that they’ll stick together, happy or not. They’ve given away absolutely everything (although she still sees her children) so they do need each other don’t they.

I have my fingers crossed for the marriage certificate tomorrow. I really believe he thinks I wouldn’t go ahead with it. I also think it might prompt a flurry of messages asking what he’s supposed to do. Bloody pay a solicitor that’s what you can do.

I think of the two of us I will come out the other side better than him. I have the support of his family, all the DC, and you wonderful women. He has her and that’s it. I don’t know about her family and I’m sure as can be that the pair of them have created yet another lie as the backstory to how they met. Can’t exactly tell the truth can they. ANC in a few short years he’ll be 70. Yuk.

It still doesn’t feel like I’ll be better off at the end but I’m hoping that feeling will come.

If anyone knows how to link this thread to the old one can you let me know please?

x

Hope all ok legs I’m guessing he’s received it by now.

@MoreLegsThanMe I've been following your posts since the beginning - I haven't posted but have been wishing you well every step of the way. I check in every night to see how you're getting on, and to cheer you on. I hope everything is OK the last few days x

Can you explain what the petition is to me please @MoreLegsThanMe? It’s a very different process here in Aus.

I hope the sun shines wherever you are, Legs and you have a friendly, pleasant, relaxed walk today.

Thank you x

I’ve still not had a copy of the Petition so I’m guessing he hasn’t either. The Court is desperately slow right now though.

Sorry about the Net hun mix-up. She just seems more the sort to be on there…

Well, I DID IT. We went for a long hot walk today followed by just a Coke at the pub. I woke up at 4.30am nearly throwing up with fear. I honestly don’t know how people have affairs, I just can’t be wired that way. I was in such a state just to go for a walk.

We talked and talked and talked some more. It’s the first time I’ve spoken to a man for that amount of time since I don’t know when. The woods were gorgeous and shady, and we were passed by just one person the whole way.

We kissed goodbye and he was very respectful. Didn’t push it if you get me. We’ve agreed we’d like to see each other again, it’s just sorting the logistics. I know that if nothing comes of it I’ll have made a new - good - friend.

The DC were over the moon I’d had a good time and I feel actually smiley and happy still.

Talking of the DC, not sure I’ve mentioned DS was sent home on Monday to self-isolate and do his mocks online. The call came this morning that now DD4 is in the same position. She couldn’t go in for her mock tomorrow. Now due back around July 12th I think, just before breaking up time. It’s so silly isn’t it.

I will come back tomorrow to update about the Petition. I’m sure it’s getting close.

My lovely army thank you for looking after me all this time. Please don’t stop!

Legs is happy tonight!

x

So glad you had a good day out, I hope it builds into a close friendship for you.
And yes, the school situation is crazy, I know kids who've spent more days isolating than in school, and having to cope with exams and mocks too!

What a wonderful update.
Not about DCs obviously, the self isolation thing is a pain in the backside now - but I'm so glad you've had a brilliant day x

So pleased you had a lovely time with your friend, legs!

Brilliant.

So glad the outing was lovely. This friendship will help your confidence and help you open up to others.

You wait in a years time you'll have a full diary. I'm so pleased it's cheered you up you deserve it.

xx

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Yay go smiley legs

So pleased you had a good day, you needed that more than anything, just getting out and doing something different was so important.

What a great update, I'm so glad you had a good day, from us all!

Wonderful update, Legs.

So glad you hit out for your walk legs

So happy to read your update, Legs! Or Smiley Legs as we'll have to call you now! 😊 X

Lovely news MoreLegs. I am so glad you had a nice time and also hope this is the start of a great friendship for you. I can completely sympathise with being so nervous beforehand - I would have felt exactly the same.

Hope the mocks go well for the DC. It is rotten luck they're having to self-isolate for them. My DS has been sent home three times recently because someone in his year has tested positive. Luckily he's been allowed to go back the following day each time because he wasn't a close enough contact. But I think they're all getting tired of online lessons.

Have a good weekend. Don't frighten yourself too much at how the weeds have shot up with all this rain!

Lovely update.x

Legs so pleased you had a lovely walk and talk, a good distraction from everything else going on.

Smashing update Legs

Brilliant update Legs! I'm glad your walk went well. Such a shame your DD and DS need to isolate.

Oh I'm so pleased to hear the walk went well. Maybe next time it will be easier for you, I certainly hope so.

It's a real blow that the school bubbles are bursting everywhere! Let's hope the next couple of weeks aren't too bad and that things are a little more under control when they go back after the holidays. 🤞

Glad to hear the smile in your words:)) well done Legs x

What a lovely update 🥰

Thank you. He’s asked if we can meet again on Sunday or Monday.

I’ve gone from being near the top of the world yesterday to somewhere deep inside it today. I had the email from Court saying the Petition has been posted to him. I thought I’d be so happy when it happened but I just feel terrified, and physically sick. It’s taken so much for me not to sit and cry. I haven’t told any of the DC. Should I have?

I’m not terrified that he’d appear here or anything although he’d have to kill me before he got near the DC. So I can’t even explain why. How inarticulate can you get?

Why do I even care? Stuff keeps rushing through my mind, the good times.

I feel like I’ve gone so far backwards that I’m at square one again.

I’m so sorry this has been a(nother) pity party.

x

Poor MoreLegs. Don't beat yourself up because the court's email has upset you. It's perfectly natural. This is a big step and one you had never planned or wanted to take. Now that it's ending it's quite understandable you'll hark back to all the major events of your marriage - the good times as well as the bad.

But STBXH wrecked your marriage, not you. All you are doing is protecting yourself from the chaos he left behind. You have every right to make a new life for yourself free from his shenanigans.

You're not at square one. It's just a bad blip because it's a significant moment. And you're allowed to mourn and you're allowed to be scared because it is a big step. But it's the right one. You are worth so much more than to be tied to a selfish sod who treated you as a security blanket.

Tell the DC. They're old enough and, from what you tell us, considerate enough to understand that you can want to divorce and still be sad that your marriage is ending.

It will be alright MoreLegs. You've got through so much already. You can get through this too. We know you can.

I hope you can get some rest. If you can't, rather than lie awake tossing and turning, I'd get up and potter about doing odd jobs like ironing or turning out the messy drawer in the kitchen (you must have one - ours is full of elastic bands, string, takeaway leaflets, instruction booklets and guarantees, and mysterious screws and metal bits).

Be kind to yourself.