I can’t believe I’ve become such a cliche and have become yet another victim of the script.
I still feel sick and numb with shock.
10 years ago, I had my own home, career the works but moved in with the man I thought was the love of my life. He was newly divorced with a young child and was so loving and caring. He told me were connected and soul mates and was able to talk to me in a way he had never managed with his ex wife. Being with me was the first and only time in a relationship where he felt his happiness had come first. Parumph
Fast forward to three years ago and he suffers a sudden bereavement. Up to this point he had adored me openly and publicly, we had a child, married and I had sold my house, cut back on my hours at work and put the whole lot into a place together. He had no equity but a high earner
Within a couple of months, he had become cold and distant and kept denying anything was wrong. Eventually he admitted that he wasn’t sure if he loved me anymore. I repeatedly asked if there was anyone else, which of course was denied. He suggested marriage guidance counselling which we went to but still denied seeing anyone else and things slowly seemed to get back on track, although never quite the same. I assumed it was grief
Fool that I am, we went along merrily making plans and I left my job recently. Something I never thought I would do but was happy to at the time
He came home this evening confessing to an emotional and full blown affair. She is the real deal and the only person he was truly able to ever talk to. He is beside himself at the appalling way he has treated her by continually promising her he would leave horrible old me but was too much of a coward to leave, he says. He has seen the light that she is the love of his life and the only person he could ever talk to. He was only staying for our child
It came to a head as she asked again if he had left me and then said, in that case, she has met someone
He is distraught at the thought of what might have been and missing out on his grand vision of the future. Life is too short for him to stay in a dull, routine and if he hadn’t been so unhappy, he would never have cheated.
He said that we never have sex, I pointed out we did recently but apparently it didn’t count as it wasn’t ‘proper sex’
Wow, just wow. I feel so awful. I’m a cliche victim of the script aren’t I. My dc will be just so heart broken
This will be ‘the first time ever’ he has put himself first
I feel like I can’t breathe