Dating thread 204 - surfing the SeaofTwits

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@SpringlikeBunk

Sounds great *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* all the planning fun!

@SpringlikeBunk ❤️😘

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm so happy that you get to plan your first date with him.

So I messaged Mr Cricket to see if he wanted to swap numbers and maybe arrange this coffee. Let's hope he isn't another timewaster. But I also feel maybe I'm a bit too upfront and should have waited for him to suggest swapping numbers. Even though he was the one who asked me for coffee yesterday.

@Isitreallyme77

Nah, just ask them, rip off that plaster and meet up.

I've got a walk meet tomorrow after work. New chap hauled out of the SoT on Friday, seems less twatty than most, so we'll see!

[quote Dancerinthemoonlight]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I'm so happy that you get to plan your first date with him.[/quote]
Me too, @Dancer! ❤️

@VanGoghsDog yes this one seems less twatty than the others. Good luck tomorrow.

I've had a nosey online and have found him, seems he is pretty good at cricket!

Ahh exciting @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards!! At last, a lovely date to look forward to!

@Isitreallyme77 a cricketer sounds nice, I’m imagining someone pretty decent, hope so!

Hi there. I posted my own thread but no one replied so I thought I'd ask the experts!

So apparently there's a thing called Tinder Swipe Surge when lots of people in the area are online.

If someone has SWIPING in green on their main profile photo, chances are they are swiping and active, aren't they?

As I type this I realise I'm kidding myself otherwise...

@Shayelle2009

Ahh exciting *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards*!! At last, a lovely date to look forward to!

@Isitreallyme77 a cricketer sounds nice, I’m imagining someone pretty decent, hope so!

@Shayelle2009 ❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards so excited for you!

[quote frankiefirstyear]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards so excited for you![/quote]
@frankiefirstyear ❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - Ok we’re told not to get over invested - but I am - in you !!!! I do hope you have a wonderful date - I don’t know you IRL but you come across so lovely ❤️

@Shayelle2009 I'm thinking Cricketers are usually pretty decent guys too. Slightly not my usual type but I think it's time to get out of my comfort zone.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards ah so exciting planning your first date. I agree with GaraMedouar you seem really lovely.

@Blackcatnofat Are you dating someone and this is on their profile or.....?

I can't help with knowing what it means as I'm not on tinder and no where near a city so unlikely to be near a surge😂

[quote Isitreallyme77]@Shayelle2009 I'm thinking Cricketers are usually pretty decent guys too. Slightly not my usual type but I think it's time to get out of my comfort zone.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards ah so exciting planning your first date. I agree with GaraMedouar you seem really lovely.[/quote]
🏏 is a team sport which is also already a good sign 😊in my book

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards really pleased you're moving to 'meet' stage

@GaraMedouar @Isitreallyme77 aw, you're both going to make me cry in a minute! 😊 thank you so much for your kind comments. They've really cheered me up. ❤️ xxx

@BelladiMamma I know I'm really excited!

@Blackcatnofat

Hi there. I posted my own thread but no one replied so I thought I'd ask the experts!

So apparently there's a thing called Tinder Swipe Surge when lots of people in the area are online.

If someone has SWIPING in green on their main profile photo, chances are they are swiping and active, aren't they?

As I type this I realise I'm kidding myself otherwise...

I've never seen this on Tinder. But I'm not near a busy area so unlikely to be any surges.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. I'm also dead excited for your date!

Not exactly dating, just been seeing them once a week for the past four months for a dog walk.

We get on well, absolutely loads in common. Regular texts, sharing things about each others lives. Never asked where it was going - stupid, stupid me assumed that when life kicked back in, it would progress. But my friend saw him on Tinder so I'm guessing he doesn't think the same

[quote VanGoghsDog]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. I'm also dead excited for your date![/quote]
@VanGoghsDog so am I! ❤️

@thegreenestbear

Not exactly dating, just been seeing them once a week for the past four months for a dog walk.

We get on well, absolutely loads in common. Regular texts, sharing things about each others lives. Never asked where it was going - stupid, stupid me assumed that when life kicked back in, it would progress. But my friend saw him on Tinder so I'm guessing he doesn't think the same

Not necessarily. He maybe thinks you don't think the same.

Best to just ask him. "Hey, I love our dog walks, do you fancy meeting for a drink without the dogs one evening?".

@thegreenestbear How did you meet?

Never assume anything when it comes to men/dating etc.

Met on Tinder. I came off because I don't like juggling multiple people, knew he was still on there but I got the feeling we were on the same page so wasn't really worried, just thought he hadn't thought to hide it.

There's nothing slightly romantic there though - no flirting whatsoever and certainly no touching. So think he isn't really into me.

If he was interested he'd show it, wouldn't he? I've tried a few flirty comments but they've not been picked up at all so tend not to bother now.

@thegreenestbear

Met on Tinder. I came off because I don't like juggling multiple people, knew he was still on there but I got the feeling we were on the same page so wasn't really worried, just thought he hadn't thought to hide it.

There's nothing slightly romantic there though - no flirting whatsoever and certainly no touching. So think he isn't really into me.

If he was interested he'd show it, wouldn't he? I've tried a few flirty comments but they've not been picked up at all so tend not to bother now.

@thegreenestbear why don't you have a chat with him and see where you stand? ❤️