Dating thread 204 - surfing the SeaofTwits

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Ahh @bangheadhere40. You will!!!
I have a chat on Tinder going.. he seems nice! I’ll call him Mr India, probably won’t last long of course.

Thanks @VanGoghsDog how’s it going with all your admirers?? 🙂

@BelladiMamma and @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards thank you. I'm actually okay, at least it didn't get as far as setting a time. Now I don't have to think about what to wear.

After I forgot to unmatch Mr Racing on Tinder and ended up unblocking him on WhatsApp he has been on his best behavior. Still don't think I'll meet him though. He asked me last night if I'd been on any Tinder dates and I said one and we won't go there as it was a head fuck. He said "oh head fucks aren't good" and knew to leave it there.

Speaking of the head fuck, can people please help me not message Computer Geek, he is like a pair of comfy old slippers (I'm sure he'd love me describing him like that ), he was always reliable (reliably flakey but always reliably so), but was also good to chat to. And right now I just want to tell him the stupid things like how my day was and how I'm doing failing miserably in the gym right now and the weight isn't coming off. I miss chatting to him about stuff like that as I don't really have anyone to talk to about that sort of thing.

@VanGoghsDog thank you, shame he had lovely eyes too.

@bangheadhere40 thank you. Yes weird I got his number and then poof he was gone.

@SpringlikeBunk

It’s quite important to give a sense of “who you are” and your personality on your profile - memes and quotes are good for this.

Ha ha love that one 😂

@Shayelle2009

Thank you *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards* 😇 I was so spoilt!! Don’t deserve it. How are you and how’s it going with Mr Bookworm? x

@Shayelle of course you deserve it! ❤️

I'm doing okay, thank you. A bit of pain here and there, but nothing major. 🙂

Things with Me and Mr. Bookworm are going really well. We have officially said we fancy each other now, which is fantastic!

Hope things are okay with you

@SpringlikeBunk

It’s quite important to give a sense of “who you are” and your personality on your profile - memes and quotes are good for this.

I love the first one too! 😂😂

That’s really sweet @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. How nice to have an admirer 😍😍❤️❤️❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards have you been able to meet yet 😍

[quote BelladiMamma]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards have you been able to meet yet 😍[/quote]
@BelladiMamma not yet, but planning to. He hasn't had all his COVID jabs yet so he's waiting for that 😍❤️

@Shayelle2009

That’s really sweet *@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards*. How nice to have an admirer 😍😍❤️❤️❤️

@Shayelle2009 indeed. He's really lovely ❤️❤️❤️😍😍😍

Reliably flakey sums up my one too literally! Annoying how they are like that....

Hmmm stop you messaging him - how would you feel if he didn't reply? That normally stops me.

@Shayelle2009

Thanks *@VanGoghsDog* how’s it going with all your admirers?? 🙂

Lost track of them all!

I now can't recall who I unmatched and who unmatched me. I know I dumped the one who loves camping and goes every week, the one from the US, the one with long hair.

I think I got rid of another couple. But two remain who I chatted to last night, though briefly. And a new match this morning I've sent an opener to.

One reasonably promising, but not holding my breath!

@VanGoghsDog haha no, I find it’s never worth holding the breath over!!!

Eeeeeeek@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards 😬💘💘💘

I’ve been having a really good convo with the new match, mr india on tinder. He’s already given me his number, which I feel freaked out about 😂🙈 is it a red flag or acceptable for someone to give their number so quickly?!

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@PlanetOfTheApesLives

Welcome

I guess it can’t do any harm to just set up a profile and see who’s out there?

Even just for a few chats you don’t have to even meet anyone, you can just say you’re looking for chat or mates only to meet for a drink/coffee and screen out all the sex guys or the pushy types.

I don’t think anyone really genuinely likes the apps or sees them as the guaranteed source of true love

but they are definitely a “necessary evil” for me personally nutters aside they do completely open up dating?

Especially as I don’t have big social work place or social circles who will get me to meet decent dates (well creepy married guys don’t count!)

What’s the deal with your current guy? If you’re just casual, do you need to actually formally dump him or can you just mention you’re looking to open things up a bit socially?[/quote]
Thanks for your reply.
I might give that a try.
Currently he says serious but that means once a week and that feels part time to me and not serious.
I just prefer someone that I could see more often or would at least want to see me more often. I just cannot connect with someone only once a week. I'm busy with my children but even so would prefer more whereas he us used to weekend one night only. He was great same with his last relationship which went like that for 10 years

[quote Shayelle2009]Eeeeeeek@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards 😬💘💘💘[/quote]
@Shayelle2009 🙂❤️💘💕💕💕

@bangheadhere40 It would just open up old wounds and I'm in a much better place. I just miss chatting to him, I know he has to do what he has to do, it obviously doesn't involve me being in his life in any shape or form and being friends (which we agreed) isn't what I think either of us wanted. A friend put it perfectly, he can't be friends with you as he didn't want you as just a friend.

Glad you had a lovely birthday @Shayelle2009 🥳

Sorry to hear you encountered a time wasting twat @Isitreallyme77 but at least he showed who he was quickly so you didn't waste any more time

As for me, things still going well with MrHair. We've had the exclusive chat now we're edging towards 6 weeks in 😁

@Isitreallyme77

So I wake up this morning and Mr Green Eyes has unmatched me and blocked me on WhatsApp, obviously he was just bored on a Friday. Oh well nevermind just another time waster.

Wow that's a turn around. Is that usual? How awful to be interested then blocked, maybe married?

Probably married, possibly catfish, definitely a twat.

Thank you @Slothmomma! 🎂 that’s sooo lovely about you and Mr Hair! Is he a really good one?? ☺️☺️ X

@Shayelle2009

I’ve been having a really good convo with the new match, mr india on tinder. He’s already given me his number, which I feel freaked out about 😂🙈 is it a red flag or acceptable for someone to give their number so quickly?!

@Shayelle2009 - I swap numbers into WhatsApp really quickly actually- I just find it’s easier to message and talk in WhatsApp. So as soon as there have been the first few messages I’m happy to move over. It has been the guy suggesting or me - I’ve not yet had a dodgy one.