Innocent Message!

[Tiann92]

Hello

Ok I might be crazy but is this message innocent?

It's just the term babe is used .

Sooo many red flags! This guy has really done a number on you OP!

Of course you love him, that's exactly what he wanted you to do... to fall head over heels. He made you quit your previous job (controlling behaviour) and work at the same place as him so he can keep an eye on you.

He's having sexual video chats with other women. Guess what? That means he doesn't love you!

Pull the wool from your eyes and see the reality of what this "relationship" actually is... you've been scammed. Get some legal advice ASAP.

I can't believe anyone actually married you (as in, the marriage registrar, priest or whatever).

I married a foreign national and had to undertake an interview in the registry office as to how we met, what we knew about each other etc. The fact they could marry you knowing that he was a Nigerian national (sorry but statistically there's an extremely high risk of marriage fraud) and knowing you've only met once is staggering to me. Western Union wouldn't let you send £50 to him knowing those details. You've been taken for an absolute fool but there should have been legal checks in place to stop this happening to you.

And when you say you've met his family, they're lovely people - they're in on it! Don't blame them, they just want the best for their son. If he can get a life that would be beyond his wildest dreams in Nigeria, and as a man profit his family, he's going to do that if you allow yourself to be a fool and give him that easy option! It's human nature to want to better yourself and improve the life situation of your family. When you say "you didn't think he was like that" you were assuming his life afforded him morals. It doesn't. Who knows in the same situation we might all take a chance at a better life by attaching ourselves to a well meaning, naive sucker - which right now is you.

I have a friend named Barbara her childhood nickname given to her by her mother is Babe and we all call her that.

@purplecorkheart

I have a friend named Barbara her childhood nickname given to her by her mother is Babe and we all call her that.

Something tells me you didn't RTFT

Seriously divorce this cheating scum and get him sent back to Nigeria ASAP

This is all a bit messy.

• I’m Nigerian. I call everyone ‘babe’. Some people do the same with ‘bae’. It is not indicative of a romantic relationship.
• ‘Ella ella’ is probably an Umbrella (Rihanna) reference.
• There are over 200 million Nigerians, we’re one of the largest countries in the world. Some of the generalisations about Nigerians on this thread are distasteful and quite racist.
• None if this changes the fact that you are somehow married to someone you seem to barely know, who refuses to have a conversation with you about pretty basic stuff and who you don’t trust at all.

My friend would tell you to run.

He not only got her pregnant but because she didn’t earn enough and it was going to count against him that his wife earned under the amount the government said she needed to earn to “sponsor” him he made her physically disabled and that way the earning amount was dismissed as he was her carer. (Although he did very little caring)

She stayed for 2 decades, so ground down she didn’t know where to turn. Only because he attacked her and the neighbours called the police did she finally file for divorce and it took her another 4 years for the divorce to go through.

Turns out he had another wife and children back in his home country that he had started after he had married friend.

Don’t waste your life on this user. He doesn’t love you. Gather up your self respect and kick him to the kerb. He is already lining up wife 2 incase you suddenly see him for what he is.

Wake up! You've been groomed for a visa