New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

tanee

ds rang the police too! - he was playing with the phone (which I thought was locked) then about 10 minutes later I shouted H as the police pulled up on the drive and my heart sank! within 10 seconds of the lovely police man asking if I was ok, and being ready to burst into the house because "someone had called 999 from this location but was struggling to speak" (me all confused!) I realised what had happened!

I couldn't even tell ds off, he was about 10 months old at the time!

wow pc - you're doing so well. I wish I had your strength right now.

Your dd sounds absolutely gorgeous though xx

baffy, you're doing brilliantly. you've already done this bit that i am just starting. you're just feeling so dis-empowered by h's refusal to sign.

i don't think my h will think twice about signing tbh.

things will be better for you soon i promise.

PC what a cutie.
Ds 2 said to me last night "Night night my beautiful flower" don't know where that came from!
He also told me yesterday that he likes my eyebrows
He's a funny kid!!

PC - love the sound of your dd - "postman and Pat" lol . You can tell her that I have a black & white cat - and he's called Jess!

Good luck with Wednesday - be thinking of you.

Baffy, lol - you too! At least, with all the horror stories of the police behaving badly, it's nice to know they can actually be great .

hope the apt goes well PC how will you feel if he does sign ?
Baffy is h still refusing ?
Love the stories on here and they are the things that make it all worthwhile esp the comments from pc's dd you Don't think anybody else could melt your heart when you are so cross with them like your dc's do !
My sil only child is now 13 and every time i see her she wishes he was small again like mine.

ginnedup

aww thanks girls, i know she's a real sweetie. but man she's a cheeky monkey. she announces "I bossy boots!" too lol.

lily, short answer? gutted.

hey lilly I get that one from DD1 too everytime the baby squawks at all...

yes lily - saying he isn't sure what he wants to do?!

says he can't see me 'in that way' anymore

my take on it... he's ashamed of how he's treated me and it's easier to jump into bed with any slapper he can find than actually work through his issues and face up to all the emotional baggage that comes along with our relationship now.
that would be too hard.

but divorce is also hard. harder than we both thought. as he says himself, he can't believe what he's given up. but now he's done what he's done, he feels unable to get it back either.

yet again, I'm left hanging. half hoping he'll realise what an idiot he's been and want to work things out. but knowing full well that he has no intention of trying to do the right thing. he just wants an easy life and to please himself. but by keeping me hanging he gets me being 'nice', to see ds all he wants, and none of the responsibility...

I need a good kick up the bum! But I can't force him into signing (especially when he knows deep down it's not what I want anyway).

Mines the same Baffy won't even discuss divorce But I have a plan....

spill macd!

have to say macd that you are a million times stronger than me... remember that H's OW lives a couple of roads away from me. Well this weekend I was driving home and I saw a girl who I thought was OW, pushing a pram! To say my heart sank was an understatement. I felt physically sick. I always knew I'd want any child of H's to be in ds's life (after missing out on my own brother growing up), but my god, the reality of that was more than I could cope with at that moment. I think you're amazing.

Can you get a divorce without him signing Baffy ?
PC wish he realised what he is going to loose! bloody love!
sounds interesting McD !

I don't think so lily.

I could get my solicitor to write to him, or start getting arsey about things until he signs, but as you can probably tell, I'm not 100% sure it's what I want so I don't have the energy at the moment to fight it.

My solicitor did say that if he flatly refuses to sign then we have to be separated for 5 years before he has to just accept it and I can force it through, iyswim.

Must be really hard when you don't want it !
On a good note have you all seen Ernest thread in travel , some good news for her!

will go and have a look...

Five years, Baffy ! When all you want to do is to get on with your life!

McD, what is your cunning plan?

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Hello girlies

Just a quick one to say I'm thinking of you all just while I've temporarily pulled myself out of the crappy doom and gloom that is being a struggling working mother - I see that's a recurring theme on this thread

What's all this I hear about H's being arseholes, not signing divorce papers and generally upsetting our fabulous group - I think some arse-kicking is definitely in order

This thread is far too long and complex for me to try to catch up with everyone but i just wanted to say you're all amazing ladies and although I rarely get on MN nowadays, I always lurk when I can to check on you and send you good (arse-kicking) vibes

Can't commit to meet-up because of finances but at you lot having a fancy day out - you'll have to take photos and post them on FB for me to at!

Ok so having not heard anything from h for ten days and the last thing being 'have a nice life' today I get 'do you want to go to the football?'

Wtf?

Really and truly, wtf planet is he on?

He'll be getting the divorce papers before then. Am just sorry that he'll immediately assume it's a knee jerk. reaction from me after his revelation by text that night.

PC - WTF?! He really is on another planet. I don't know why I'm lost for words... we should be used to it by now!!

Are you ok?

Do we need a new thread...

hi cash, great to "see" you. shame you can't make it in march but i have a sneaky feeling this will be first of many get togethers.

i really hope so anyways.

baffy, how're you today?

mac, c'mon spill the beans on your cunning plan

dd had a disturbed night (prob cold after kicking covers off and neighbours being a bit rowdy) so she ended up in my bed. it's becoming more frequent but i do love her cuddles! even if she does take up the entire king size bed and snores!

i had to wake her jut before 7am and after a good stretch she sits up and says "morning mummy, i love you best in all your world. where's my apple juice?". I swear she was expecting a breakfast tray

she then asked to go back in her own bed so that she could quietly call "mummy, mummy, mummy" which is what she is learning in order to keep crappy neighbours at bay.

see in my block it's okay for them to talk loudly, argue, crank the TV up any time after midnight but it's not okay for me and my daughter to go about our normal business between 6am and noon.