New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

Thanks Tanee

Yes I'd be up for a trip to London! My friends live down there so would be able to find a place to stay no problem. Of course you'd have to stay on the soft drinks! We could drink double to make up for it!

baffy, i could've written that post last week.

i have been so low and really worried about being full on depressed.

i have no answers either. i want to get out and at least try to meet new people but i know in my heart that i'm not really interested in anyone else.

i wish i could speak to him more regularly, that he would care more about dd and put more effort in etc.

i guess the silver lining to that is i don't have to share anything or miss out on anything. the flip side is that i think i am getting burned out.

work is crazy, i've increased my hours and we've had the house move. i feel completely drained - would quite like to sit in the cupboard in complete silence and peace adn quiet for a few days!

I am a cynical optimist and I find it really difficult to be this low, negative, perssimistic as well.

my mood can change day to day and literally hour to hour tho.

i am trying to just see it as the roller coaster consequences of their behaviour and with a little more time things will gradually calm down. each time things calm down i get more of my life sorted out and my head together. then we go around the loop de loop again and i am suspended upside down in mid-air without any control again!

anyway i am seriously waffling on and not really making much sense - something that happens quite a bit recently!

ride it out mate, don't give yourself a hard time about how you feel. IMO it's healthy to let these emotions run their course and get them out of your system.

big hugs, i totally understand where you're at.

btw, am trying to organise a time for SunshineGirl to come to my place for a weekend so we should try to co-ordinate and get together!

PC, we all definitely need a party!!! Hands up those who fancy a Girls Night Out?

Birthday's on 26 Feb, so any night near then - Friday or Saturday - near that time would suit. Check your diaries now!

Bugger Baffy you made me cry I just feel exactly the same ...but am so cross with myself that nearly 2 years later I am still in love with the arse and I know with my head he will never be what he was and our relationship will never be the same..

thanks everyone

pc and macd I think we're all in exactly the same place. it's such a rollercoaster, one day I'm totally positive and in control and the next I'm a mess again. then angry. then just totally fed up and wanting to hide away from the world.
like you say I really do hope that in time it will all work out, one way or another... I just wish that time would be in months rather than years!

Would be great to come down for Tanee's birthday and/or when SG is going to yours PC. If we could combine the two that's be great! Am free 22/23rd feb or 1st/2nd march and then have some time off around easter too. We should try and do something. I'd love to see you all.

I'm taking my sister to see the Spice Girls tonight - her first ever concert and she's so excited! So at least that will keep me smiling for now.

Nobody could say I don't keep myself busy!!

Thanks again everyone xxxxx

Enjoy SPicy Girls Baffy! DD would be very envious - she was such a fan when she was little, she wept when Ginger left. Two of her friends went recently and had a blast . My sister is taking me, dd and her dd to see Fiddler on the Roof tomorrow. A family girls night out. DD doesn't care for musicals but said she's prepared to give this one a go as it's my belated Christmas pressie and isn't schmaltzy (nice Jewish word!). She has warned me though, not to start singing 'Sunrise, Sunset' at her, or she'll go home .

As for men, what do they do to us - to make us love them so much? And don't they realise what arses they can be?? And what they lose as a result??????

Piling up the ?????s there - but no answers .

Hi baffy and everyone

Firstly would love to meet up in london so please give me the details too. Dior i havent forgotten about meeting up and will give you my number on facebook or text you.

I am sure it is the time of year - I too am feeling a bit down and angry with myself. This year has been so very hard and i am now feeling angry that i let h make me feel like this and why oh why do i love someone who can have done such an awful thing to me and our family. I desperatly want to make a go of it but i feel sometimes i am not being true to myself - what sort of woman puts up with what he did.
We are going to the counsellor again tomorrow so i am hoping i feel a bit more possitive for the weekend.
I just wish i could always see it as a huge mistake on his part - because he is very good and is doing everything he can - i just sometimes wonder whether it is enough. If something is so broken is it ever going to be completly fixed?????????????

I too have too many questions.

Anyway baffy as you say - why do we feel so low when so many have so much worse to contend with?

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A night out would be cool, but I would have to get the train there and back and I'm a bit of a country bumpkin (London at night on my own = very scary!!) ... and of course now I have babysitting issues
I would love to meet you all though - you all seem like 'friends' already.
I'll see if I can sort something out and find some courage from somewhere!!!

a meet up sounds great. ginned up you can come with me id drive there

sounds like a meet up could be on then

ginnedup you could go with sugar, that's a great idea, or we could even get cheap rooms somewhere if people feel better with that. then we can stick together...

anyway, just having 5 minutes to unwind after the concert. it was definitely a good show. although having been to see some of my favourite bands recently, I have to say that musically, I'm not too sure what I can say!... it was a good show though! great costumes, dancers, and loads of fun.
and those bloody girls are tiny! honestly they're tiny in every sense of the word, strange to see in real life really (except for one or two inflated chests of course!!) they all looked amazing though.

anyway I should really get to bed.

going out for a drink with H tomorrow night. to talk about why he won't sign the papers, where we go from here etc. feel sick about it already, don't think I've spent more than 5 minutes with him in months. will have to build up some strength tomorrow!

Dior yes i think tuesday is good - h is complaining that i am on the computer too much so will just get your number and text you with mine.

Sue

Sorry hold that thought. Dh's cheque didnt arrive in the post. Its now been 5 weeks since he was last paid. His invoiced again today for the past 2 weeks work. Now his threathening just to walk out!

I dont blame him its getting tougher now money is seriously running out fast and his owed several thousand pounds.

I just dont know what to say to him.

oh no sugar can he just stop work until he is paid? is he on site with the people who are supposed to be paying him? I'd be tempted to go on strike until he has the cheque in his hand.

god i am so

dd is under the weather so i haven't been able to send her to pre-school today.

i've done 3 conf calls and a performance review and she has behaved like the child from hell thru-out. despite being bribed with mini-cheddars and biscuits.

the noise coming out of her is incredible. i should've just sent her to pre-school and let her spread her germs all over the other kids - like some other parent has already so that she caught it.

i am so totally fed up with always having to be the one who covers all this kind of stuff. h gets off scot free and i've had enough of it but i can't do anything can i? he just does what the fuck he likes and leaves all the responsibility to me.

he was supposed to ring last night at 6pm to discuss access - at his suggestion. no call. he's on MSN now and I have flamed him and he's just ignoring me.

i'm going to go mad and lose it before long. how the bloody hell am i supposed to do my job under these conditions?

i hate him

arghhhhh pc I can totally understand your frustration

I'm not surprised you're fuming!

I wish I could be of more help

on second thoughts - give me your H's phone number - I'll bloody speak to him!!!

(you might have to return the favour one day with mine! )

and the only person who suffers in all this is dd. i am on such a short fuse it's impossible to be reasonable with her and she is actively pushing ALL my buttons

i really really fucking hate him.

he just came back on MSN saying he's not ignoring me but he can't chat now.

i told him to fuck off.

sorry for all the swearing but i am at the end of my tether

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arghhhhh pc I am with you on the hating them thing!!!

I really do think I'm beginning to hate him.

WTF is he on?! We're meeting tonight to 'talk' - which I've been trying to do for ages but it's like getting blood out of a stone. He has ds last night and today. I've really missed ds with last weekend and then going back to work. So I wanted to get ds from him at tea time, see him for a few hours, settle him to bed, then go and meet H.

He announces (by text) that he's off on holiday tomorrow and wants to keep ds tonight?!!

In summary, because I had that break away last week he has decided he deserves a break away too and has boooked a trip to Benidorm to get some 'space'

When I pointed out that he has bought this luxury waterfront flat for 'space', which is costing him extortionate amounts of money each month (to the point where he's having to pay bills by credit card!), and why couldn't he just use his flat for the space - he said well you've had some sun and time away so I'll find the money somehow!

What a complete and utter tosspot!

He can't afford ds's maintenance, never mind the mahoosive loan he was supposed to have paid off last year but it now transpires he never did pay it off and is expecting me to pay over £100 a month towards it!

He's getting deeper and deeper into sh*t and as for growing up/learning lessons from the past - he's actually going the opposite way!

His flat was so he could have time alone, space to think etc. A holiday in Benidorm does not sound to me like a relaxing break with time to think!!!!

God he makes me so mad!!!!

baffy, time for us to swap numbers and give them a serve for each other i think.

h logged off msn after i told him to feck off.

he's back on now but hasn't responded to my "so how are you going to take care of dd full time when i lose my job or go mental and take myself off to live in a tent for 6 weeks without telling anyone where i am?"

totally empathise with you. just wish i didn't feel so trapped all the time.

can you pursue some legal course to get his signature? without wishing to be a complete cynic (but that's what I am!) d'you think he's delaying due to financial stuff?

he's probably still a pretty good credit risk whilst still associated with you....

NM thought it was due to financial reasons

I think it's because he's a complete f* up and doesn't know his arse from his elbow!

have a nice evening everyone!!

hmm just a thought you don't think me PC and Baffy are all marriedf to the same man

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