New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

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Not sure what to do at the minute. My fight & Flight are fighting and my head is swimming with what if's. All i do know is that I'm not getting any work done. I'm really panicking and it might even be over nothing. He only said one word fgs! Putting my house on the market really would be an over reaction wouldn't it lol

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Thanks for the wellwishes laies
Fab news McDoodle
So glad things seem to be working out so well Baffy.
Oh my Mascara hope you ok and keep posting for support the girls on here are fab

no he didn't the mother of his other daughter told me last week he'd called her and asked if he'd called me. It just reminds me that he's always going to be there ready to ruin my life.

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Hi everyone, sounds like some of you had a really nice weekend. Lily, lucky you! Ditto Baffy & MOH.

McD, glad to hear baby Teabag is turning. Sounds like your ex is a bit of a waste of space - and you are marvellous. Don't think I could have coped easily with being a single parent, working AND having another baby. You're brilliant.

DD and I had a great Friday night - I took her to see the Stereophonics at Wembley. She's been to more gigs in the past year than I have in my entire life, so she's got plenty to compare them with, but she hugged me and said this was the BEST one she'd been to so far - so I'm feeling like a Good Mother ! DP's Welsh, so he was very envious at missing them. Hopefully the next time they play London, he won't be abroad. But it was a great mother/daughter bonding experience and a fun audience too, all singing along and waving their bear glasses.

and I had a lovely Sunday evening of DIY mending the spring on our victorian rocking chair and repairing the top of a small pedestal table I found at the local tip. Who needs men?

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sounds like a lovely weekend tanee. so glad you enjoyed the gig so much - sounds great.

Mascara, oh that's horrible. I was once stalked by an exboyfriend and it was frightening. Probably best to start a log, just in case and try not to let it get you down. Is it something you could share with the Man at Work or do you think it might frighten him off?

Hi Dior, how's you?

TLV - so sad for you. Obviously I don't know your story, but try to think of it as the start of a new life instead of the end of an old one. Life may have all sorts of nice surprises waiting for you .

p.s. TLV, Dior is right. I definitely didn't have the strength at first. And still don't some days!

I always had the strength to fight for the relationship, but sometimes felt so low trying to win that battle, that even getting through the day was a struggle. Didn't have the strength for me iyswim - just felt like everything was pointless without H and the key to my happiness was getting him back.

It's the fact that they take away your confidence and make you believe that it is somehow your fault. As though you weren't good enough and that's why the relationship is over.

Takes a while, but you do realise eventually that the problem is generally with them. Because they are too weak/selfish to deal with issues like a grown up, and prefer to just bail out or find another woman. They conveniently forget that they once made you a promise 'for better, for worse'...

Attention from other blokes and being treated well by men was what did help me to realise that I deserved better. Doesn't make it hurt any less though. You just numb the pain by taking your mind off it. It's only time that really heals. (And counselling in my case!)
Like I say, I probably have a lot of buried anger and resentment inside. But all you can do is take one day at a time and deal with it in whatever way gets you through.

We're always here to listen.

I so get the burying anger and rsentment

Lily, Baffy and Tannee - Good to hear that some of us had good weekends.
Mine was crap. Dp got through a 3 litre box of wine yesterday and we've had a big row and he's on the piss again today. Sick sick sick of him (and you lot must be sick of me going on about it every time it happens )
MOH at your ex, just when things were looking up too. Try not to worry too much.
TLV - I don't know your story but it will get better. Listen to Baffy, she's been through so much and look how well she's doing now. That will be you a year from now!

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ginnedup not sick of you at all!
can't believe he's at it again though after all the promises last time

I guess he really is going to have to hit rock bottom all by himself before he finds the will to try and beat this.

Just don't let him drag you down with him will you xx

Thanks baffy been to dentists and he covered the bottom of whats left of her teeth over to try and save the nerves. Then he discovered one half of the top teeth was imbedded in her gum behind. Poor dd was so brave but my legs were like jelly watching him. But she was fantastic but sadly she has been referred to the dental surgeon and its up to him now how/if her teeth can be saved.

Dd3 wass also fab and completely slept through her injection!

I will try and catch up on thread soon.

take care everyone x

your dd's sound like amazing girls sugar

when our children go through things like that I think it is sometimes harder for us to watch, than it is for them actually going through it

I cried more after ds's injections than he did!

hope they're both ok

Thanks Baffy and Dior. I'm all out of energy for it this time. I'm not even angry, deep down I knew he'd do it, so its not a total surprise.
Going to make dc's favourite tea (chicken breasts wrapped in bacon!) and get through the bedtime routine, then I've got a bottle of wine of my own to play with and all the soaps to watch on telly!!! (Don't worry I'm not on the slippery slope, one bottle lasts me a week when he's not here!!)

You have agood night ginnedup. Tea sounds lovely. And you deserve that wine!

I'll catch up tomorrow.

Just off to do my first ever interview. Never interviewed anyone before!! Excited and scared at the same time!

See you all tomorrow.

Ginned up - sorry to hear he's done it again - a whole wine box - wow! Even my dp -and as you know his wine intake is one of my few worries in our relationship - couldn't manage that in one go!

You enjoy your evening. I put out only 3 bottles for recycling last night - 3 bottles in one week - definitely drinking too much . Seriously, I'm so sorry. What has he got to say for himself today?

I'll be having a lovely day waiting in for the plumber tomorrow - and before you start winking, as the boys in the office have - no, he is not Love's Young Dream (well he may be, to his wife ) - he is plump and about 60 - and my boiler really does need servicing .

Why am I pmsl about "my boiler really does need servicing"? Just sounds rude doesn't it!
We had an agreement ages ago - no more boxes, because he just doesn't know how to stop till its all gone. I'd rather spend more money on a few bottles than put up with the consequences that come from a whole box!
Lucky you 3 bottles in a week. I'm embarrassed to go to the recycling place, I only go if its empty as I can feel people's eyes raising as I throw in my 20-30 bottles at a time .
He keeps knocking at the door but I'm ignoring it. Will watch tv in bed tonight as he can't see my bedroom light from the road and hopefully he'll get the hint if the house is in darkness.
Your weekend sounds great btw, I love the Stereophonics. Am very

oh GUP my H is a drinker too...he looks terrible at the moment yellow eyes scrawny...wish I didn't care but I do

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