New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

Hi everyone, im back online now, Im almost hysterical with relief; its taken so long! I never thought I would get so dependent on the internet.

Itll probably take a while for me to catch up with whats happening with everyone, but I can get on Facebook as well now which helps - couldnt use that at work.

BTW for the confused, Im sometimes sallysparrow!

macdoodle

you are doing amazingly well

stay strong

love lst xxx

Am liking the new thread title ladies
McD are they still hopeful it might turn ?
PC how things going with house still on track ?
Hope everyone else ok. Not much time this am am expecting a houseful in a couple of hours then all out for lunch to celebrate birthday.
Just wanted to share my good news got the most beautiful eternity ring of dp befor he took me out for lovely meal on Friday. Case of actions speaking louder than words but am so that we have been able to come this far in 12 months.
Hope you all having lovely weekend xx LL

How lovely Lily

I am so pleased for you. What a special time you are having! xxx

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Thats lovely Lily! Glad things are going well.

MacD, how are you feeling? Do you think the baby will turn, or are they going to try to turn it?

LL - that sounds fantastic!

As for me, yes I deffo fancy a break from blokes.. but I've always been one of those people who doesn't like missing an opportunity

Work bloke came for dinner yesterday, he was offering to come round earlier but I was busy so told him to come round at 5 for dinner at 5:30 - he seemed a little disappointed. We had a good laugh actually which was really nice and he was very attentive in bed as well. This morning when the alarm went off I rolled over and put my arm round him (in a spoon position) and he pulled my arm up round his chest and snuggled into it which I thought was a really lovely actually, very affectionate and a little bit needy. It really lovely to see him when his barriers are down, feel like I'm slowly chipping away at the exterior. Wish he'd open up as to why he's so closed to the world but I don't want to push him. He's in a very good mood this morning

morning everyone!

that's fantastic lily

Moh glad you had a good night too.

macd - still enough time for her to turn. stay positive. but you're absolutely right that h should be taking some responsibility for his own children. take all the help you can get from him. perhaps without letting him stay overnight. but making sure he's back round at yours every morning for 6.30 or 7am - i.e. ready for when dd gets up!

yes it might be hard work for him if he's at yours late helping to settle both girls, then goes off home, then back first thing in the morning... but it will be a tiny taste of just how hard you work to keep everything together!

really do think you should take all the help you can get off him, but without actually letting him back into your life iyswim. time for his actions to start speaking louder than words!

Morning Ladies!

Just taking a break from housework so popped on to say 'hello'

Baffy that is a brilliant suggestion for macD's H! Why didn't I think of that! I must admit I am worrying about him moving back in, evn if it is only for a short while. Mac has come quite a way since the earlier days and I would hate for the balance to be all upset again.

So, how was your weekend?

Hi everyone

Not had chance to read whole thread. Not been around as been doing xmas shopping so not only am i all done but have even managed to wrap some am at my own organisation skills!!

Off out again in a bit dd1 smashed her front 2 teeth in on sat night while on a sleep over at her friends (dd is 11) so its her second set! but confident dentist will give her a smile back. And dd3 got her innoculations this afternoon too then straight onto school run!

I am sorry so many of you are still struggling. I always turn this com on and think yeah this time they are all going to be ok and all happy and all problems and worries gone.

but incredibly it has been a year or so now and imo everyone has come so far and i think every single one of you is amazing and i proud to "know" you xx

Hi all thanks for support...Lily how wonderful everything is going so well so nice to see the happy endings
Feeling better today I think baby has turned and the thought of not having to depend on H is soul lifting
My sister has been great she has saved her leave and says will try and come down ASAP (unfortnately she is copper in London so cannot just drop everything but I know she will do her bloody best)...
Soritng out baby's room on weekend I packed up all of H stuff that was left ( a huge box and large black bag) ..he was not impressed when I rang him this morning to come and get it but boy did it feel good...pointed out to him that we have been seperated a year now and he has shown no real effort to change or even seem that interested in moving back and that I needed the space...little steps but empowering ...
Anyway am hoping baby is right way round which will make it much easier to cope post birth if I can pop her out...am a bit sad he won't be around to bond with this LO like he did with DD but she has me and her sister and I can't make him a good parent he has to make some effort.....oh and PMSL at Baffy suggestion..he never did bath bed or mornings when we were together so LOL at the thought he will do now....even when he comes to take her toschool he arrives about 10 mins before I go to work so all the jobs (dressed breakfast lunches already done)....

Onwards and Upwards MacD!

You've done good! Keep up the great work! xx

what a waste of space he is macd! hopefully you won't need any of his help then! your sister sounds great!

hi sugar - am at your organisation for christmas!!
sorry to hear about dd though. fwiw I knocked my front tooth almost out when I was about 14 - dentist fixed it up and looks as good as new! hopefully she'll be ok xx

morning TFM! my weekend was great thanks. me and ds stayed at NM's house on friday night for the first time! baby was an absolute star and we all had a lovely relaxing evening. spent most of the rest of the weekend with NM too, (except for saturday night when I had a night in with my best friend and a good catch up!).
but all is going very well. job is great too. feeling really happy

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thanks Dior

very true, H is never far from my thoughts, plus it's our wedding anniversary next week too that will be difficult. it was exactly this time last year that I first found out he was even unhappy!

how things change in just 12 months...

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I guess so!

I think I have a lot of hidden anger and resentment inside of me though. Like this time last year he'd just said he was unhappy. I had absolutely no idea he was about to leave though. He made a massive fuss on our anniversary, bought me a beautiful handbag and a crystal pendant and took me for a gorgeous meal. Now I know that in the background he was already well into his relationship with OW, and probably lied to her on that night saying he was out with the lads or something. A night that meant so much to me is ruined by what he was doing in the background. Even thinking about these things stirs up these awful emotions that I have to quickly bury.

It's a bit like HW is going through, after 12 months the significant dates all come back round and start to trigger the memories.

Not sure how long it'll take for me to come to terms with it all.

Sorry for going on.

buffy I'm sat here crying, dh has just started divorce proceeding and god I wish I had your strength I really do, so when ever I'm feeling its all my fault I will come back and read your post,

he's been shut away all morning but I got a cheeky wink when he did appear. also was very lovely when he left mine, gave me a big kiss and a squeeze AND put the rubbish out

TLV it will get better I promise. It's hard to see at the time but just by getting through each day you are getting stronger and stronger.

Ok, crisis - my dd's father has just rang my phoen said hello and hung up. Not heard from him for over a year but he had a suspended sentence that has now been lifted (for putting his pregnant then girlfriend in hospital) feel sick and I'm really panicking that it's all going to start again.. Why is nothing ever easy. This morning was good - first time in months I've had no real problems/worries.. it was short lived. god feel like collecting dd from school and running.

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god i'm crying again

Yes he was.. he was only ever given a caution for his behaviour towards me and I'm guessing probably 2 years have passed since then so it will all be wiped?? will have to start again with logging calls if he starts acting up. just wish I could get away from him completely. Could change my phone numbers again I guess.. but am sure that would result in him turning up on my door step.