New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

McD

So mad for you, you really do not need this right now. Lets get it sorted for you - let one of us phone her saying we are a solicitor and could then send the letter blah blah blah..... Really get her worried and that you are not prepared to take this shit any longer. If h gets cross tell him you would rather sort it out yourself.

Anyway good luck with it all and keep strong you are doing so well and you know you are doing the right thing.

Just to let you all know Martha Neve arrived at 6.55 last night. She is 6lb 1oz.
I had induction but was fine and had natural birth 8hours long no pain relief or stitches.
So we all well thanks for all your support

well done pictures please
Lovely name

congrats lily! great name, it was on my list for dd and i really like it still.

hope all is going well and glad the birth was good despite the induction. hope dp wasn't too disappointed about the birthing pool

mac, the ow sounds deranged. how bloody dare she send her mother over. ffs, is she not an adult who can speak for herself.

can totally understand your rage at her imposing upon you in this way. just another indication that you are the better person.

agree with HW, have someone pose as your "advisor" and tell her to back off. better still, really engage legal services and get an injunction against het.

IMO i suggest you hold off telling dd1 about ow baby for a bit longer yet. she's only just getting used to dd2.

hope things are better for you today.

as for me, not much to say. i am in the serious doldrums. struggling to get out the house and not be a grumpy nasty witchy mummy to poor dd.

i think i am coming close to really thinking that depression might be a problem right now..........

Congratulations Lily! you must be feeling well to come on here so quickly!

MacD - what a weird cow. I just dont know what to say, except really glad your sister was there to deal with the mother!

I really hope you can persuade H not to tell DD1 about the other baby - OK she will need to know one day, but this is really not the time, when she is just getting used to a new family dynamic anyway. She'sw not old enough to understand properly. The time will come - if he does it now its only for his needs, not hers.

But you know that - its just he needs to reaslise that too.

Congratulations Lily. What a lovely name.
MacD - for you. How disgusting to carry on like that. It sounds like she's mad with jealousy. What a cow. As for her mother she should know better.
I think you are right that its time for divorce. You don't need this shit in your life and you've carried him for too long.
You've been more patient and considerate than most women (me included) would have been and what thanks do you get?
I definitely agree about not telling dd yet. What good would that do? She's just getting used to having a new baby sister and shouldn't have to have that thrown at her yet.
Try to ignore it and enjoy your little girls. They don't stay babies for long do they so make the most of every second.
xx

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Lilyloo, congratulations!!! Great news, and absolutely love the name - it's on my list too (should i have another, lol!) Really pleased that the birth went so well for you too.

McD, I cannot believe the nerve of that cowbag to put you through what she is - like she hasn't done enough already The cheek of saying you've written a letter to her, and to send her mother round! I guess her mother believes her pack of lies, but even so.... Thank goodness your sister was there to chase her off.

I think you're right that it's time to think about getting a divorce. If financial issues are at stake, then it seems wise to protect yourself from the little baggage. I totally understand your rage at her: I still feel completely livid with the madam that my h is with, but she has at least had the decency to keep her distance. Can't wait for them to break up so that I can email her my precise feelings about her.

PC, sorry you're feeling so down. I am feeling exactly the same way, like I'm being a grumpy horrible old mummy to poor dd (who is being REALLY difficult atm) and I am also getting concerned that I might be depressed too.... not good.

Here's to a good Sunday x

lillyloo - fantastic news -and sounds like you had a wonderful birth anyway - well done you. Hope you soon get some sleep patterns going, and that there is not lots of posts at strange hours from you .

Well i did warn you that tomorrow - mon 21st jan is officially the most depressing day of the year. Xmas is so far behind us but the bills are coming in - it is not payday and it is a monday, lets hope it is not raining again too.

But at least things can only get better - i think we should all make it our mission to make at least one person smile tomorrow and see how much better we feel for that.

MacD soo for you. Some people are just beyond belief... I hope you are ok x

Lilyloo, CONGRATS on safe arrival, hope you're both doing wellx

PC, LB, sorry you are both feeling so down atm. I wish I could do something to help xx

Dior, how are you? Glad to hear ds has had a better time at school since HM intervened, hope it continues. Hope to chat soon x

Baffy, am soo gutted I couldn't go with you!! But I really hope you have had a great time x

HW, Fubsy & everyone else, hello and hope you are all ok.

I've posted on FB about my weekend, had a good one on the whole apart from my soon-to-be-xh today.

Catch up soon xxx

Post on FB please gals when you have a min more info than I would like on here....

Have already replied on facebok - you are doing so very well stay strong.

Well, Happy Most Depressing Day of the Year, Teabags! AND it's RAINING!! And we've been quoted £200 to fix the roof. Which we don't have. And the main computer at work is still down and they haven't come to fix it yet. HOORAY!!!! every depressed emoticon I can muster!

But Lilyloo, congratulations on Martha. It sounds like things went well after all - only 8 hours, lucky you! Hope you and she are getting plenty of rest.

McD - everything the others have said and more. OW is obviously nuts and glad your sis and H have warned her off. Am going to FB in a min.

DP admitted last night he's very sad and he should talk to me more. Glad he did, as I was very grumpy with him all day yesterday, after he'd not come to bed at all on Saturday night. I found him asleep on the sofa at 7am Sunday morning with the light and TV still on. No wonder all our TVs are conking - he's wearing them out! Wish I knew how to help him - a job would help. All I can offer is lots of leaflet delivering as we have a bi-election coming up. No money, but at least it's exercise and he does like walking.

Can't get FB at the moment. Sorry McD, will try again later.

I just wanted to add, yes, good idea not to tell DD about her half-sibling just yet, let her settle with new sister first. However, don't leave it TOO long - she should be old enough to take it in, in a year or so - though if OW remains such a vitriolic poisonous nutter, you may want her not to actually meet OW's child just yet. I know someone whose exH had started a second family and married OW - only he didn't tell anyone, and his dds found out some years later by accident, by which time their half-brother was 4. Even then, he denied that it was his son, the swine. Caused huge disruptions and set back his relationship with his dds by years and he STILL hasn't learned as he then had a daughter with OW/now wife No 2 and 'neglected' to tell his children by wife No 1 AGAIN. Yup, the man's a complete arse.

Some men never learn...

The point is, his DDs were more hurt by the fact that he hadn't told them, than by the children's existence - and as a result, want nothing to do with their half-siblings - which is very sad...

well the sun just came out and my mood went from murderous to grumpy!

mac, i've replied on FB.

Today is definitely depressing.
Dp was around all weekend. He took me for a meal on Friday and spent Saturday and Sunday being lovely to us all and I had a glimmer of hope that things could change.
More fool me. Today he's lied to me again and is in the pub.
When will I ever learn. Now I'm right back to square one again, just when I was getting my head around everything and managing really well on my own too.
Somebody give me a slap!!!

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Thanks Dior

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Just joining the queue for veeery gentle slap.

And big hug

His loss. Idiot!

PC, welcome to grumpy land. No sun here though - god, will this rain ever stop? I have little muddy cat footprints all over DPs' favourite pure white duvet cover in the spare room. Luckily DP is feeling nice towards the cats just now, as I've explained calmly that he can't blame me - or them - for letting them keep me company when he's sitting up late feeling sorry for himself!

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I'm not even angry with him this time - I'm mad at myself for being so weak and gullible after being so strong over the last few weeks.
I really have to get a grip. This is not good for the dc

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