New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

Just a quick post to say hi to everyone as I?m at work.
XP (he no longer deserves the D) has been a complete arse. To cut a long story short we had a row on Tuesday morning as he was demanding to come back as he felt he?d been ?punished enough?! I refused, big argument, I went to work, came back and he was in the pub.
I told him that?s it and another row broke out, after which he went through my house taking every thing he?d ever bought while he lived there (telly, PC, laptop, sofabed and more - even down to plates and cups ) and got 2 of his mates to come and help him move it all.
So my house is half empty but I feel free! He?s gone for good and I?m so relieved. I?m very up and down and do have weak moments when I worry about him but on the whole I?ve made the right choice for me and my precious dc.
But as he?s taken the PC and the laptop and I?m quite busy and very overlooked at work I won?t be on here much for a while.

By the way - Good Luck Lily, keep us posted.
MacDoodle - what gorgeous girls, you should be so proud
Baffy - please don't leave
SugarPlum - thanks for the advice, you were so right!

OMG ginnedup!

I can't believe he did that I really can't.

I suppose it just confirms for you that you were so right to stick to your guns this time.

Like you say, the house is half empty but at least you are free. Despite the overwhelming sadness I hope you can find the positives in no longer having to live on eggshells and let his addiction rule your life.

Perhaps now he really is on his own he'll take a good look at himself, and at what he's lost, and sort himself out.

We're here for you xx

(And I won't leave altogether - just won't post about myself anymore )

hi ladies

sorry haven't been about much. tend to stick to FB these days as MN seems a little too public sometimes.

Mac, your girls are gorgeous! huge congrats.

trip away, i will update FB later but basically i am thinking weekend 21-24 as I don't really want to take any additional holiday time.

mac, am so by this behaviour. really hope he stays away now that he's taken his stuff. nightmare about the laptop tho - can you pick up a cheapie off ebay or something?

glad to hear that you feel free now tho. i guess the worse they behave the easier it is stay positive that you have done the right thing.

well, the lease on the old house ended yesterday but h decided he was far too busy with work to flat hunt. reminded him that he suggested friday night for money/access chat and he began hedging again. noticed on the weekend that he has started calling me by name when it always used to be "honey". not returning my calls again.

suspect that if he is seeing someone else or planning on it if he isn't already.

feel pretty dejected at the mo. 'specially after my lunch plans went west.

people at work keep telling me how great i look. so how come no one ever chats me up or asks me out!!!

anyways, i ill stop navel gazing and feeling sory for myself soon i promise.

baffy, sorry about what's going on with you. fwiw, i think you're doing teh right thing.

Well, Ginnup up, he's shown his true colours. Really sorry to hear it, but it shows that he just couldn't keep it up, could he . His loss, not yours.

But - look on the bright side, you can go shop for lots of things YOU like - your taste in cups and plates, furniture etc. What a great excuse for a spending spree . I hear that Dell do good deals on pcs and laptops that are cancelled orders. You go on their website and there's a link. I haven't tried it myself but someone at work said they got a laptop worth about £1500 for £250. Might be worth a look.

Hi PC, sorry about your lunch date. But people WILL ask you out - hopefully, the right ones. I sometimes think we just give out 'hands off' vibes when we're feeling down, however well turned out we look. It WILL happen.

GUP sorry

tannee, yeah i think you're probably right. i need a virtual kick up the bum as i have no real grounds for feeling sorry for myself.

just feeling a bit sad n lonely and really feeling like there is no way back and no way forward.

whallop

GUP i am so so sorry its all turned out the way it has. But how bloody selfish and damned right spiteful to take everything down to the cups!! When your ready take tanees advice and make it your home, tours and dc's.

baffy Agree with others you cannot leave. I know new name apologised but i do think it was very mean and thoughtless and to be honest imo you havent given enough details on here for anyone in rl to recognise you?

pc You will meet someone i promise. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look. A male friend of mine once told me years back (in my slim days!!) when i was moaning about not being chatted up and he said to me its simple. :

"Any guy in his right mind will look you over a thousand times but in his head his also thinking there is no way a gorgeous woman like her is single and if she is single she wouldnt be interested in an ugly mutt like me!" Simply put men are as thick as they bleep!! lol

Keep smiling. Nothing more appealing than a beautiful woman smiling

As for the weekend away that i (poss) cannot make ie kids may be at mums and dh would sulk if i left him alone for a long weekend but i may be able to pop down for the day wherever you end up staying

tours? doh! yours of course

pc we need a night on the town!

seriously we should get dressed up and go to some nice bars and we'd have a ball!

now... the logistics of living 100s of miles away from each other causes some slight problems... let me think!!

I will try to get on FB tonight for a proper catch up but am meeting NM when he finishes work for a 'chat' - wish me luck

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Hi
I am still here - not able to get on computer much as my dd has discovered msn and probably boys too!!!! We are having to share laptops at the moment and i am not sure i want her to have her own at the moment as she will then disappear into her room which is not healthy - at least using my computer i can keep tabs on her .

There have been some developments wrt to h's work but i will probably fill you all in on fb - when i finally get the chance!!

sounds interesting HW - looking forward to the update!

and CONGRATULATIONS Dior! great news. see, 2008 is definitely your year and things are starting to turn around for the better

Dior, I've been waiting for this round the corner right man for 30+ years now!

Of course I will be hurt if H is seeing someone else. Not just hurt that he has moved on but probably very pissed off too.

Congrats on the Nintendo comp win.

HW, will check FB later for your update.

Hope you're okay GUP. Deffo agree with Tannee about getting yourself a new comp asap. I know it'll be an expense but I'm sure it'll help to know you can get on MN & FB in the evenings.

Honestly I think our computers and internet costs should be paid for on the NHS. We must be saving a fortune on ADs and counselling LOL.

pc!

we will find the right men.... 2008 will be a good year I promise!

(are you due back up here any time soon? Know a couple of great places for a good night out! I will write that properly on FB later!)

PC, never give up on finding the right man. OK so I met dp 20 years ago (makes me feel old realising we met back in the 80s when he had a full head of hair and I had a 26 inch waistline) but we didn't actually get together as a couple until 5 years back - it took that long, one marriage on my part and many short relationships on his, for him to realise what a WONDERFUL woman I am .

Though actually, if anyone had told me, when I started wanting boyfriends at the age of about 15, that I'd be 45 before I got together with the Love of my Life, I'd probably have killed myself! But having got there, I don't actually regret the journey - Life's a Learning and though I kissed a lot of princes who turned into frogs, I do finally seem to have wound up with a fantastic daughter and a man who, despite some blips, seems to want to be with me until cirrhosis of the liver takes him off !

So keep smiling, look like you're enjoying life - that's the best attractive quality anyone can have .

And when you're feeling down, eat chocolate!

Baffy, good luck with the 'chat'. Hope it goes well...

Dior - congratulations!!!!

Hi Happy Woman, know what you mean about the computer and dds. Mine has discovered (thanks to our pre-Christmas lodger being a computer wizz) that we can piggyback a wireless connection - so she now takes the laptop to her room instead of sitting downstairs and dp and I can whistle for it. At least I know that she hasn't much respect for any of the boys she knows, so I don't have to worry .... yet....

He's phoned and offered me the laptop back, as if he's doing me a favour . I told him to shove it up his ^&.
Cut off my nose to spite my face there didn't I, but I know he's using it as an excuse to see me and work his old magic (as if!!)

GUP what an arse! So he thought everything would go back to normal if he was "good" for a week? Very sad. Sorry you are suddenly without so much stuff. I have to say tho when XP and I decided what he would take and what would stay, it was a revalation buying stuff just because I liked it, and not because we were "compromising"

And youre probably better off with your own comp - at least youre not going to come across some fuckbuddy site he was looking at, or find that he's downloaded so much crap that theres no memory left.

Good luck!

Dior great news on winning the DS! Will you give it to DS or keep it for yourself? Strictly for brain training of course.....

Baffy good luck with the chat - hope its not too traumatic.

PC know what you mean. They always say someone is just round the corner - but how long is the road? And sorry if H is seeing someone. It is hard at first, but it does help you move on.

Do you know what though. He doesn't know one end of a PC from the other. He can't even use it to get online as the broadband router is in my name and in my house, not that he'd know what to do if he could get online.
Fair enough he bought it, but taking it with him was just sheer petty spitefullness. I even offered to pay him for it but he wouldn't agree to that.
Now he's offering me the laptop and expects me to be grateful.
TWAT!!!

god they really are from a different planet aren't they!

sounds like taking the offer of it back would cause more hassle than it's worth.

anyways, you get to buy a brand spanking new piece of kit now.

i know h was eyeing up my flat screen tv and probably filing that in the "so my ex says she's skint" folder along with his other ex who is apparently suicidal thru money worries but still remodelling her house on a grand scale. that'd be the house she bought virtually outright because he virtually gave her everything when she left him for another man.

ooooh, best i shet mah seluf up agin!

i wish i could blame my grump on PMT but i can't!

just one more thing, did i mention we sold our house to bail out the failed business after he stopped working due to his mental breakdown?

okay. time to bath the delightful daughter and get a glass of wine i think!

baffy, yeah a night out would be good eh! no plans for a trip up your way tho i'm afraid.

there's some truth in the old adage about needing to be on your own but i feel like i've been on my own for 2.5 yrs now. not looking for the next great love of my life but a bit of a transition man would be good for an ego boost for sure.

You will meet someone PC, probably when you least expect it .
Right now I'd be quite happy to stay single forever. I definitely don't want to live with a man again. I'm enjoying having my space again and starting to love coming home to MY house and going to bed in MY bed. DC are taking it well - I think they are relieved too bless them