New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

How long have you been apart? How far pg are you? Thinking of you x

He left me about 7 weeks ago now for OW.
I`m now just over 6 months gone so not long till i have LO really.

I also told him today i don`t want to know and i changed the subject but guess what he still mentioned something about her

how are you, sorry i forgot to ask in that last post of mine, i`m getting so forgetfull

macdoodle i`m so sorry if i upset you, i hope your ok?

macd am thinking of you, totally understand what you're going through xx

SG are you doing ok? you sound a lot better than last week and like you've really accepted things but I hope you're ok.

sorry not been on much, not really up to posting at the moment

newnamefornewyear can you CAT me?

(((((( macdoodle)))))

Having a new baby its hard work on its own but not having support there but be incredibly hard going. Plus recovering from a c-section is no fun either i know i've had 4 of them! Just take it as easy as you can moving etc. Im on messenger a lot at night now as dh working away. My addy is [email protected] so i know its evenings that always go tto me so if im online come say hi xx

mop hi dont thnk we have "spoke" before how are you

sg hi you do sound more positive of late keep smiling

hi everyone else

Ernest? dior? not heard of you from late hope all is well

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Morning ladies just to let you know i am still here with no news yet Am thoroughly fed up although i suppose i shouldn't complain when i see what you are all having to cope with.
So chin up and sending you all massive hugs especially McD it must be so terribly hard but give yourself time to adjust and cry if you need to. Remember your hormones will be all over the place at the minute so go with it things will get easier i'm sure , much love LLxx

PC thank you so much for the offer. I'll check FB in a mo.

McD, SG, MoaP, feeling awful for you. Makes my problems seem so trivial. At least I don't have to deal with small DCs now - DD can even make her own food if pushed.

I tried broaching my feelings with DP last night after I suddenly came over really angry while cooking dinner (having also done the washing up with any offers of help). Told him I felt like a housekeeper - that I do most of the food shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning etc, all he does is go for long walks, buy bottles and bottles of wine, come home and sit and drink (doesn't even offer me a glass as he used to) till the early hours (it was about 4am today), no sex (he immediately said, 'ah, so that's the problem' - I could have hit him) - he said he hadn't realised I felt that way - and we had a pleasant enough rest of the evening - but he STILL stayed up till 4am while I lay in bed crying .

He's going to his mother's tomorrow for a day or so, and I plan to put it all in writing for him to read on the coach. I reckon that's the only way I'll get my point across in a way where he'll remember it and I write DAMN good letters!

I'm really feeling like I'd quite like to kick him out - but I know I don't really want to, and I don't think he wants that either - but in his present mood, he's just so defensive of his behaviour that it REALLY riles me.

Having a rotten day at work, too, so would quite like to get off the planet for awhile...

Thinking of you lily Hope the LO get's here soon!

(Can't get on FB at work any more but I'll update you all tonight xx)

Dior, so glad things are going well with H - hope it continues !

Tanee if you manage to get off please can you take me with you!!

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Tanee im sorry things are going pants again. I think the letter is a brilliant idea. Hope it sinks him to him.

Lily loo thinking of you

Dior im so pleased its all going well for you. Ditto on the not coming on much and rubbing noses in. I feel that too as its going great here. Makes me feel guilty and for sad and hurt for everyone who is still hurting.

Also with you on weight loss i need/want to lose weight and im thinking of ww ( never done it before) As of tomorrow dh working away in the week so when kids are in bed im going dance away to mtv. Although must make sure blinds are down as neighbours will field day at the dizzy blonde boogying away!!(grin)

Baffy did you manage a "me time" weekend?

Dior, we are thrilled that you & H are getting on well - don't worry about rubbing our noses - on the contrary, it gives us hope - after all, not a few months ago you were starting divorce proceedings!

Don't beat yourself up too much about your weight - after all, it is after Christmas and we've all indulged (my sis gave us a yummy box of Hotel Chocolat chocs - DP had the biggest share but I did have a few despite claiming I'm not a chocaholic ).

Baffy, there's room for one more in my spaceship - in fact, I have seats for all of us if wanted, plus child seats for the babbies!

Sugar34, really pleased for you - thanks for your support!

Not rubbing our noses in it at all - in fact quite the opposite! I love to see happy stories on here and things working out for people - it will happen eventually for all of us and the more 'happy' news on here then the more positive we all feel

We'll all come through it at different times and in our own ways - but we will all come through it!

I did manage a mostly 'me-time' weekend. And made some important decisions. Saturday night things changed again but I'd rather not write on here anymore, especially until I hear from newnamefornewyear, so I will update you on facebook tonight.
Am happy for people in RL to know what I'm saying and there's nothing on here that I wouldn't tell my friends. But it's unnerving when someone knows who you are and you don't know who they are isn't it...

Things are pretty bad really

baffy ?

will check fb tonight x

Sorry lost internet connection then LO needed BF then just went to bed with my girls ...feeling better today - H actually came round and hoovered for me and also managed to get out of house and went to pick DD1 up from school with baby - think was getting cabin fever as well....thanks all specially SG and MOP much appreciated

McD, hooray at the hoovering! One of my grudges against dp is that I feel like the housekeeper - he's hoovered about twice in the past year and I don't know when he last used the washing machine! How's Lily & how's dd1 with her baby sis?

Well, I stayed late at the office to write my letter. Am going home now and will pop it in his rucksack tomorrow. Have tried to be nice and balanced but still let him know EXACTLY how bad I feel. Was close to tears at times, just writing. Maybe he'll take it on board when it's in black or white ... or maybe he'll retreat into indignant batchelordom. I've admitted to him that there are times when I regret us selling our flats to move in together - as we seemed happier then. Do you think that's going too far, or will it jog him into awareness that he's not the only one who regrets leaving the single life?

Oh well, it's done now, so by the time he comes back on Wednesday we'll either be talking - or he'll be flat hunting (he's going to his dentist for a tooth pulling - so his mood might well be for flat-hunting, but just at the moment I don't feel I can take any more).

evening all, my first full week back at work and no WFH today so bit manic here!

house is a bit of a mess and i need to log on and do a bit more work so mustn't lollygaggle on here for long!

Tanee, got your message. will organise v. soon. i think the letter is a good idea but empathise that you're worried about the outcome. ultimately tho you need your voice and he needs to listen. even if he did move out it doesn't mean the end does it?

dior/sugar, if you stop posting here because things are going well and you're happy then i will get the right shits with the pair of you!

thru the weirdy virtual world of the internet we have become friends and we rejoice in each other's happiness as much as we empathise and support each other in the sadness.

macd, glad you've had a better day today. give yourself a break eh. you're doing a fantastic job and your all over the place hormonally. really sorry your mum was a pain, honestly she does sound a bit toxic. glad h hoovered for you.

we had a family day at the football on saturday and it was really nice. dd was delighted to see h and it would appear is a footy fan in the making. sds's were great with dd and she loved having them around. i spent all day sitting the 3 of them while h cleared out the old house and brought the rest of my stuff across. i am happy for this sort of thing to continue as long as it's amicable.

lily, get back on the space hopper and bounce whilst inhaling as much curry as you can manage ok!

baffy, will check FB shortly. gotta do some work, have a shower and eat some tea before 9pm!

Thanks ladies the words of encouragement all hop and have been hopping like a bloody bunny today and promisingly had more twinges (don't speak too soon)
Glad to see some of you are having a good start to the new year and i intend to join you all in the New year diet very soon hopefully
PC sounds like a lovely weekend am really glad but don't go encouraging too much support of football between ds going to two footy practices , going to the match with his dad and playing it on the wii i never get a minutes break form it so be prpared!
Baffy so that things seem to be so hard for you i am not on FB so have no idea what's going on but sending massive hugs to you and am guessing this newyearnewname isn't someone you would like to see your posts ? Not the same one as before ?
McD am so pleased to see you are feeling a little better bloody hormones
Tanee good idea r/e the letter at least he can't avoid what it says when it's in black and white ?
Well hopefully will be posting some new news very soon and take care all of you LL xx

hop HELP got bloody hopping on the brain

Evening all, a lot to catch up on..

MacD, hope you are ok. Glad to hear you had a little support today. Just having someone there with you must be a relief. I don't know where you are but if you are close to me I would love to meet up and help all I can. If you are around on messenger I'm logged on most evenings so please chat. Thinking of you x

Tanee, please count me in on the spaceship Sorry you've had a bad day tho. I confess that I don't know a lot of your story (sorry) but from the sounds of it your H needs a big wake up call. I think you are right to write the letter, be brave. Will he be sober at his Mum's do you think? Really hope he comes to his senses.

Dior & Sugar, can only echo PC & Baffy's words of wisdom. Am so pleased things are going well for you both. It's excellent to hear that things are better. And don't you dare stop posting, it wouldn't be the same without you. That's an order lol

Baffy, will check FB tonight. Really hope you are ok. Will post my email address again on FB, please get in touch anytime for a chat, or phone me. (Same goes for all teabags Hope you hear from NYNN, must be a bit strange.

MoP, good to meet you last night. I'm so sorry that things are so rubbish for you atm. 7 weeks isn't long either. Was it a shock when it happened or had you known for a while? Thinking of you x

PC, glad relations are much better with H and that dd is getting some proper time with him too. Much overdue of course. Long may it continue. Will speak soon x

Lily, hope you have some good news for us soon

I'm ok, more positive atm as you say. I suppose for me our separation had been a long and gradual process as we were umhappy for so long. When he met NW I finally realised it was the end of the road for us but tried to cling onto it for the wrong reasons. Now I'm out the otherside I'm looking forward to building myself snd the kids a new life too. I guess really I am lucky that now the emotions have tied down (touch wood lol) we are both commited to being good friends and parents.

Wow mammoth post, sorry!

Speak soon xx

Baffy have relied to FB