New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

PC - if you want to bring DD over here on NYE with a travel cot and get her to sleep here - you can go out and come sleep in my very scruffy spare room afterwards if you like.

macdoodle i bet you cant wait i hope everything goes well for you.

I also hope that everyone of us have a very nice christmas

I havent heard from my xp since friday so i dont know wether he is still coming at 7 or not in the morning

Feel so mad, i know he`s been going out and spending while he gives me pennys towards looking after DD and bump for that matter.

sorry about the rant x x x

Same here Merry Xmas to you all and thank you for the support it has been so appreciated
H here and hates me being on net so will be quiet for few days to keep peace - already driving me mad but actaully suspect that is me being far less tolerant than anything he is doing - he is actually making me scambled eggs at mo as I said I really fancied them
All my love guys chins up and faces forward to next xmas

I know all of you are having LOTS of fun with your dcs, mine is angling to open a gift, so just want to wish you all a lovely Christmas - especially you, McD, hope all goes well !

just a quick note form me hope you're all surviving the day in 1 form or another.

for us it was H an hour late this am but shan't let it ruin the day - H and DS are both upstairs asleep at the mo and everyhting seems to be going ok.

remember it's only 1 day - we can get thru this like we have done all the rest

Personally Im glad its nearly over.

XP rolled up with presents from NW for DD, DD asked whho they were from, so he said from Daddy's friend, remember you met her...

Im actually wondering if this has been going on longer than I thought - if youve just started going out with someone, you dont give their kids presents do you? Or is she just a bit thick skinned, seeing that my DD's father is spending the day with NW and her 12 year old DD.

And I managed to lose one of Dds presents from my parents - gift vouchers. She doesnt know so hasnt missed them, but I felt crap because of it.

High spot of the day was Dr Who! And DD has all the sonics now - doctors, masters and SJS's sonic lipstick.

Fubsyinapeartree your not alone on that one, i was told by my mates that work with my xp and his OW that she brought the present that he gave to DD for xmas, this really hurt me as thats the only present he "said" he had brought! for DD!

He could even be bothered to get DD a card off him, so as you can tell i didn`t get a mummy card of DD.

So my sister brought a mummy card and gave it me off DD which really touched my heart, she also made a card with DD for me i will be keeping them both aswell to show DD when she`s older lol

Other then that we had a very nice day, other then XP rubbing it in again about OW! He has no shame!

Hi all, just a flying visit to say hello & hope you all had a good day yesterday.

Have spent xmas at home with dc's & H, has been lovely, felt really normal & good being together, had lots of talks about things. H says he knows what he stands to lose and I have told him that this is a limited time offer so he has to decide what to do. Still this morning he says he will see OW again but is very confused... I think you are right Baffy that if he can't choose between a marriage with dc's that could be great or a girl he's met just a few times he is a bloody idiot. I think one day he'll wake up and realise what a mistake he's made but it will be too late by then.

Anyhoo, am off to my Mum's tomorrow for a few days, have some help with dc's and think about it all. Hopefully he will think too and come to his senses but if he doesn't then the New Year will be a fresh start for me.

Hope you're all ok and surviving Xmas. Baffy, that was really bad of NM, sorry he's let you down. PC, sorry to hear your news too.

Dior, I'll text you re meeting

MacD, hope all goes well for you, what a horrible situation for you

Right, must go, thanks for being such good friends this year. Hope 2008 brings us all a better year than 2007

Back in a few days xx

SG, have a good time, maybe getting a bit of space from H will be good for you. He does sound like he's wanting the best of both worlds for himself. Have fun with your LOs, he wont be having that, will he?

MOP, sorry youve been let down again. Your sister sounds very supportive though, which must help a bit.

Everyone else - happy boxing day!

Thanks fubsyinapeartree she is a star, dont know what i would do without my family.

sunshinegirl i really do hope he comes home to his family, and tells OW where to go!

I hope 2008 is a fresh start for us all

hi all - hope everyone is recovering ok??
Warning rant alert now even though I know it is my fault....
Yesterday was okish - H stayed xmas eve and we all got up opened pressies and played at "happy families" - DD was happy
To be fair to him he did slave in kitchen all morning and cooked a lovely dinner for us and his parents and the day was pleasant ..
He then buggered off to pub just at bath/bed time etc (usual behaviour before we split) and came home 3 hours later rather worse for wear...and very lovey dovey trying to talk (rather clumsily) about the future and OW baby - not really the time as my section booked for Fri and am already anxious...ended up upsetting me and he disappeared to make me hot drink and sandwich...
Bad nights sleep as he takes over bed when he is pissed ...DD is used to coming in with me but of course with rather large belly and unconscious H had to keep getting up to put her back in her bed...what did he say this morning "I kept him awake..WTF"
Today he has done bugger all to help - disappeared early this morning (??to see OW and baby - he says to do ironing in his flat??).....came back briefly at lunch time made him put all rubbish bags out for tomorrow and play game with DD (very briefly)...he then went off to pub ...and aprat from one text about 2 pm have heard nothing....so I have spent whole day entertaining DD (which I don't mind as is really our last day just me and her but I am shattered she is wound up from xmas and being cooped up and I would have liked to sort some final things out have quick clean up and a nap perhaps)....also we went out for a walk as she really needed some fresh air and I ended up having to lift her bike over style to get out of woods....
He had said he would come back here tonight have just sent him text saying not to bother as he won't be any help as will be pissed as a fart and we (me and DD) will get much better nights sleep WITHOUT him....I just remember how I used to seeth with resentment when he behaved like this before OW only now I realise I really don't have to put up with it...
I would have liked a bath and a break tonight and part of me (foolish girl) was hoping he would realise this and come back to help with DD but not even a response to my text - he is not going to be a help after LO is born more a hindrance and an annoyance ...am going to suggest he doesn't stay over but just comes to entertain DD for few hours every day....
Next year I am going to be strong and sort this out for good - am going to ask him for a divorce (really this time) I don't wantto live like this - it is my birthday in June - and will be 2 years since I found out about OW so that is my deadline!!!!!
AND just to make me absolutely sure - have had few comments about my weight/eating habits/fat feet (ummmm that'll be water retention then)...WTF is his problem I am 9 months pregnant and only just hit the weight I was a year ago (non pregnant) before I lost 4 stone ......so next bithday will be slim (well slimmer) and happier please god

. Macdoodle - what a pig. Good luck for Friday!
Our Christmas day was good, dp got me a lovely digital camera and an Ipod, but he got very pissed last night (no surprise there then) but I managed to keep away from him and got him to bed without any arguments.
This morning my friend was supposed to be coming over but she let me down at the last minute because she was too hungover (wtf!). I was really upset but dp had planned to go out with his mates before we arranged for her to come, so he went out with them anyway. He phoned me about 1 and I was so upset he came home. He's been trying to cheer me up all day but its not working.
Its not all his fault, I just feel shat on by everyone - dp, so-called friend and my stupid brother who lets his wife organise family get togethers and doesn't include me or my dc (but that's a whole other story!)
I'm off to are away tonight and I've got a bottle of gin in the cupboard so I'm going to live up to my MN name tonight .
I wish I could fast forward to 2008 when I can get back to normal life, working, school runs, boring everyday stuff - its what keeps me sane!

Sorry that made no sense:

I meant to say the boys are away tonight and I'm off to drown my sorrows

I haven't touched a drop yet either!!!

Hi everyone hope you all had a good Christmas, as good as could be

Keep smiling GUM. We all love you!

Macdoodle. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Sending you lots of love and a great big hug!

Love to everyone else too xxx

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Thanks TFM - I got things a bit out of proportion yesterday and feel better today(apart from a stinking cold!).
This morning dp's mother collapsed and is in hospital so he is really upset, poor thing. It put things into perspective and made me stop wallowing in self pity and count my blessings.
Just want to say Good Luck for tomorrow MacDoodle. I'll be thinking of you .
My friend bought her 5 week old baby girl round this afternoon and I had a lovely long cuddle - felt quite broody till she filled her nappy , then I gave her back to her Mummy!!!!
Glad you had a good Xmas Dior - enjoy the Baileys!!!

A flying visit ladies hope you all managed a good xmas but want to send extra special wishes and massive hugs to McDoodle for tom , will be thinking of you xx

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Good luck MacD - hope it all goes well!

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He just came back from pub - pissed again and told me would all be fine as OW recovered really quickly from her section...OH just fuck off (a) NOW is not the time to talk about her (b) I don't give a fuck (c) she lives in a one bed flat (all on one floor) with no other kids or responsibility and is 10 years younger than me - I have 3 floors a very boisterous demanding 6 year old and am still trying to juggle our finances and keep HIS business afloat
Then we managed to get into an argument about our DD - and I asked him to cut her some slack and not be so hard on her - she really is a very good grown up little girl and he snaps at her all the time - he said she was a brat how the fuck would he know he never spends any quality time with her ...
What a dick good timing shitface....

Oh No MacD, how horrible for you. I can't believe how tactless and insensitive he is being. I'm really for you. I hope all goes well with your c-section, despite him and his stupidity.
Well, last night I went to bed early with a cold and got woken up at 4 with dp very very drunk falling down the stairs and smashing a mirror, we had a huge row which ended up with him pinning me up against the wall. The final straw was when my poor little ds woke up and saw the whole thing, he was terrified.
Finally I threw him out into the street at 5 in the morning and he phoned this morning (from Witherspoons to apologise and I told him to sod off.
Its totally over now. I can't put my babies through this any more. I need him out of our lives for good.

In 2008 I will be single and happy without that horrible drunken shitbag dragging me and my dc down.

ginnedupudding how could he??

Men really don`t suprise me anymore!

I`m so glad you chucked him out even if it was 5 in the morning, your poor DS

I HATE the wetherspoons!!!!!!!! (its where my xp works lol)

I think you and your babies will be better off without him Good luck to you, {{{Hugs}}}

I hope your feeling a bit better now though?

Thanks MOAP (I've just posted on your other thread )
I'm totally shell shocked today. I just can't believe he went that far and even worse that he went straight to the pub this morning, if he'd come round to apologise in person I'd have thought a lot more of him.
I hate Wetherspoons too - why would a pub need to open at 9 in the morning ffs! It just encourages the alcoholics (not that (now ex)p needs any encouraging - he'd drink toilet cleaner if he thought it had alcohol in it!)
Its easy when I'm this angry with him. Its when I calm down that it will really hit me

I do really think that if he can do this infront of DS then he isn`t worthy to be with you.

I really feel for you right now, this is not what you need right after christmas, is your DS ok?

Me and xp was ok till he got a fecking job there, they even open on xmas day ffs!

Maybe he needs to show you that drink isnt just what matters to him, and he couldnt even come to your to apologise

Mind you men never really say sorry to us do they when there to pissed to really remember what they did