New Fab & Glam (Part 2 - happy endings?!)

[Baffy]

Lets hope this is the thread where we all find our happy endings

Oh Baffy what happened?? Sounds like a nightmare
Things odd here really - section booked for Fri - H being very "good" but also quite loving ...
But dropped DD at his for sleep over tonight and noticed make up mirror on his table - know OW uses it for contacts grrrrr and just couldn't help but wonder ....just left DD and came home though can't handle any confrontation at moment....
Day at a time girlies especially this time of year

Ok mate, hope ds is well

Sorry NM let you down, that's crap. Did he call you or have you heard from him?

I was just trying to catch up a bit on here with everyone & it struck me how this Xmas is going to be pretty weird for most of us. Some of us the first one alone with dc(s) and the first one with our H's with their new girlfriends. It's bloody hard isn't it.

It also struck me how many men separated from their families tell lies. I am starting to experience that now H has OW, as someone else said perhaps in their mind "protecting" us in some way but in reality just being blatant crap liars. My H is currently putting his NW of a few bloody weeks before his family (and at xmas)and can't seem to say no to her .

I wish I hadn't been feeling so down as to not even want to switch on the computer cos
as soon as I have I see how much support I've been missing.

I'm starting to become bitter & resentful which is something I NEVER wanted to be. I need a helping of your dignity Baffy & to rise above it but it's so hard when you feel cheated isn't it. I fully admire you all the more now for keeping your cool, it certainly doesn't help the situation being angry.

Baffy - what did NM do?

SG - are you still here? I am looking forward to seeing you when you are at your mum's.

McD - hope everything goes well x

Mac - great excitement at booked CS! Was that planned or has the baby not turned? at mirror in H's room though - I keep wondering when I will start to see "signs" of the new woman.

Sunshine Girl - lovely to have you back, but sorry things have been so bad.

Agree with everything Baffy says. make arrangements that suit you and the DCs. I made arrangements to suit XP on Xmas day, now he's spending most of the day with new woman, and DD and I will be alone for the rest of the day. Make sure nothing like that happens to you! Are your parents nearby? I would go to mine, but they live at the other end of the country, and its just not practical now.

Hope its good whatever you decide.

Hi Macd, hope all goes well Fri

Fubsy, have been catching up a bit here. sorry you are in a bad place too. Think things are a bit similar for us atm? Perhaps we should have xmas together, think we are quite close

IKWYM re plans. H was supposed to be here last Sat at midday to see dc's & turned up 2pm Sunday (after I'd contacted a mutual friend who knew where he was & got him out of bed with NW His phone was switched off out of battery, the whole time. DS was really upset & crying for him & I didn't know what to tell him. It was awful

Looking forward to seeing you too Dior

May be up sooner than planned...

Well, you know my mobile, so get in touch and I'll fit you in to my hectic diary .

lol, ok, I'll let you know. Thanks for chat other night too x

for you DS, SG.

Im off the whole fortnight, and am willing to venture into darkest Kernow now that I have new wheels! Send me a message via facebook if you want to meet up, as Ive lost my MSN link.

No problem. You would do/have done the same for me. Maybe a longer break with your mum would be for the best. Has your h said anything concrete about Christmas?

hey guys thanks for the welcome back. was a little upset yesterday after not hearing from NG/ boytoy - (as I think he's going to be really! lol at least for now while I work things out in my own mind) as it was the first time in ooh a month that we've not at least had one text, still we spoke today and he was the same as normal so things are good there.

baffy - sorry NG let you down - has he at least rang you? sorry to hear H is being a pain as well. big congrats to your friend on her arrival. deffo don't let them get you down, I think they want us to be moping about the hosue missing them - but we have to hold strong and show them (even if it's not true always) that we're strong.

SG - totally agree with baffy - we have to put ourselves first here - we all deserve some happiness. don't forget that. I do understand about H letting you down thou at the last minute. sorry to hear you're having a crap time of it. tbh if I were you i'd go to your mums I think - jsut going on your last few posts - can H visit you all there for a few hours while he does the pressies thing with them? that way if he doesn't come you will still have the support of your family around you.

macd - agree with you as well day at a time.

I can't beleive there's so many of us out there going thru the same thing. I honestly don't know how I will feel when I find out H has another woman - can't moan too much as I have my friend but it will still be horrid not so much thinking of him with someone else but that it will make everything so much more final - and also DS will have another female influence iycwim.

also keep thinking about the saying form the old thread that women are like tea bags - we're all strong t bags girls

Things are going from bad to worse tbh. We were supposed to be together for whole of xmas but things got worse today. I read H txts last night & realised things weren't exactly as he was telling me & he went mad. Feel crap for doing it but had to know. Says he will be here but after last wkend who knows. He used to be the kind of Dad who wouldn't miss a thing, now he can easily convince himself one day won't make a difference.

You know what really bugs me?

If Id just met a new man, and I knew he had young children, I would not be suggesting he spent X,mas with me, I would be wanting to know why he wasnt spending it with his children.

Or am I just a soft touch?

I'll FB you Fubsy, didn't know you had new wheels!! Can't remember whereabouts in D you are?

My parents 400m away so H can't just visit part of day sadly.

not at all fusby - I know NG/BT has a young DD - so was pissed off last week when I had a message from him - my reply was something along the lines of talk to you when you're not on a weekend with your little girl - go spend time with her. wasn't nasty but from a mums point of view if H was doing that when he was ment to be spending time with DS i'd be really pissed off.

sg - I think they do that as a way of making things right in their own heads if that makes sence. doesn't matter that we have to pick up the peices.

No Fubs, you are right.

Apparently H saw NW yesterday & told her that things at home had changed & he might have a possibility of working things out with his family so couldn't see her atm. Her response was that she could make him change his mind. I was thinking that if I was in that position esp after only knowing the bloke 5 mins, I would say well good luck to you, I hope it works out. I thought then maybe I was being a little hopeful but there you go..

DTM, sorry but can't place your name?

god what a bitch.

no way i'd say that to a man! FGS she needs to have some respect for one thing. silly woman.

(used to be munz but shhhh! lol) H was reading my posts under that name - idiot man!

(used to be munz but shhhh! lol) H was reading my posts under that name - idiot man!

I know but I don't know what is going on atm. I think he's telling the truth but am not sure. He went out with her to tell her that on Thurs but didn't manage to tell her until the morning after having dinner with her and her friends and sleeping on the floor . When I read his texts last night there was one from her saying how she got in trouble for being such a shagger but it was so worth it. I feel like he's pulling the wool over my eyes and taking me for an idiot

SG - Tamar Valley, moi luvurr!

went to panto in Plymouth today, lots of Swilley jokes, DD kept asking me why people were laughing!

Seriously though, I dont know what is going on in XPs head, whether he is trying to "protect" me or (more likely knowing him) he thinks keeping things separate will sort of wipe out the sadness of our failed relationship, like he can forget it ever happened.

its sad because Id like us to be friends; I really dont want him back, but we have to see a lot of eachother, so why not make it as best it can be?

Does anyone ever get real closure at the end of a relationship, or are there always unanswered questions hanging over you?

Men never learn do they, thanks for reminding me DTM!

What's the situation Fubsy? When did he meet her?