Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

[Heartbeats0708]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I too would absolutely love to go dancing @TheCatWithTheHat if a potential match expressed an interest I'd be all over it.
I've always wanted to learn a dance but never met anyone that would be remotely interested in it. Go for it!

MrPM date went very well indeed

@SpringlikeBunk

MrPM date went very well indeed

Oooh!!! Fab!!!

Excellent news @SpringlikeBunk I can't actually tell if that's a loo update or a very scant message!

Haha @Heartbeats0708 I thought about doing a loo update but no I’m safe back in bed (alone) now.

Conversation really good, cute, we had a cheeky kiss.

Was a bit cold sitting drinking outside and when he started providing the work anecdotes about launching rockets off the ship and told the waiter to keep his glass filled thought it best to keep it short and sweet and look forward to a next meet?

So hopefully he’s coming to see me in my city but waiting on his message (swoons)

Oh he’s messaged to say he’ll come visit me after his training course is over. Plus lots of general praise in a slightly methodical German way

Argh at two seriousish bloke situation potentially developing

I have had a date offer from a potential who keeps forgetting the last letter in my name. Some people spell it both ways with the same pronunciation but to me with the letter is a different pronunciation to without the letter.
Said no to Sunday as I'm not going on date 0 on my birthday and a tentative to Saturday as there were plans floating around for a drink with a few work friends but nothing confirmed

@SpringlikeBunk

MrPM date went very well indeed

Fantastic

@SpringlikeBunk

Good news all round from you!

MrDecorator has said "hopefully see you over the weekend". But not actually suggested anything. Twit.

Jus had a conversation with My mum about dating stuff, and she has just told me to 'talk to other people.' On Bumble as I'm not exclusive with Mr. Bookworm.

I suppose she has got a point, but I just haven't got the energy at the moment. Half the time all my conversations fizzle out anyway.

I'm just so tired and uncomfortable all the time as well, that it is sometimes a struggle for me to keep him interested, let alone anyone else.

I think it's also that I (stupidly) told her that he was 'not a fan' of getting married. (She was taking about him 'putting a ring on it.') This doesn't bother me as we get on brilliantly and can possibly see us having a good relationship with each other given time, but it seems to bother her as I think that she thinks I'll end up with nothing if I get with him and something happens to him.

[quote cravingthelook]@TheCatWithTheHat - I actually learnt to salsa in Puerto Rico (true story) so I could teach you 😊

5 of my 6 date zeros are done and only 1 I will see again.

In other news I got offered a very good job today!!!! I phoned Mr HT to tell him and he called me back and said he was chuffed for me and he did sound genuine but there was no let's go celebrate or anything 😞

So I bought myself a top, some flowers and scampi for tea [/quote]
Fantastic news about the job, @craving. Well done.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards haven't you only recently started talking to Mr Bookworm though? Personally if i like someone, i only really chat to them till im sure i don't like them if you know what i mean. Your mum probably just wants her daughter to be happy and not get hurt again. She wants you to have a happy ever after, like my family does with me. But they don't really understand how it is to navigate online dating and how sometimes it's hard to even find one decent chat let alone loads!!! I think enjoy your time with Mr Bookworm and meet him sooner rather than later. He seems lovely.

@cravingthelook congratulations on the job offer!! It definitely boosts the confidence so well done.

I have a OKCupid date tomorrow which will be a walk through town and my dilemma is my legs are my nice feature and im determined to wear a dress. But i can't bear the cold either. Clearly 1st world problems. We have been chatting a week and get on really well so i am meeting sooner rather than later. He's not my usual type in the sense not a super tall, left leaning nerd with issues, but he's confident, chatty and has his head screwed on. Im sure we will get on regardless of any physical attraction. However i still want to look super sexy as its the first date I've had in a while!

It’s nice to hear all these positive dates stories.

Mr Haircut did end up messaging finally two days after the date asking if I wanted something ‘casual’, so I just replied saying not looking for anything casual, all the best, which gave me an easy out. Mentally it also makes me feel better as I was feeling very unattractive but at least I wasn’t too bad then. Maybe I won’t dye my grey hair after all !
Maybe I need to put looking for a relationship on my profile?
@TheCatWithTheHat - Mr Haircut actually does salsa a couple of days a week (not currently due to Covid of course) , he really enjoys it and there are lots of women there. You could give it a go, you might love it

@Shayelle2009 We're just going for a drink and maybe a walk afterwards. Eeek! Tomorrow now 😬

@SpringlikeBunk

MrPM date went very well indeed

Ahhh lovely news spring!

@Eesha I'm not sure where in the country you are but the daytime here in the east are very warm but not sure I'd just wear a dress, what about black tights (i love 100 denier tights for showing off legs in winter/autumn) or leggings as he'll then be able to appreciate your fine legs still😁

Hope it goes well🤞

@Eesha

I agree with @SortingItOut

Tights boots short skirt with proper coat warm stuff on top - and that’s a great cold weather date look

@SortingItOut @SpringlikeBunk just picked up some thicker wool tights from Sainsbury's on your recs. Im in London and it's bitterly cold already!!!

@TheCatWithTheHat

I’m not sure what the exact discussion with the therapist was and of course if you want to try salsa then go salsa, but please don’t feel you’ve got to “change” yourself to get more attention or dates?

I mean if you’re having fun you’re having fun, if you’re not you’re not - you really don’t need to pretend to be this cheerful party animal if that’s not how you’re feeling or wired up?

If you can find a pleasant supportive activity group that would be great for your MH.

I agree Meetup can be good but also a lot of activity groups can be a little bit clichey and awkward and you feel lonelier attending than you do staying in alone !

so do “shop around” for something that suits you.

Well done on job @cravingthelook
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Maybe keep things private from your mum and try and get a meet in with MrBookworm sooner?

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I do agree it’s 100% nicer to just focus on one decent reliable match rather than all the flakes and weirdos.

I think a few years ago the advice was to “play the numbers game” but it can get quite overwhelming!

I’d say the main thing is really getting to the in-person meeting now.

Hi everyone,

Thanks so much to everyone who has messaged.

Me and Mr Bookworm have been talking for about a month, I'd say. We do get on really well.

We've discussed meeting up, but we haven't decided when and where yet. What makes it more difficult is that I'm going though a really bad patch with my CP so I don't want something like to overshadow that, if that makes sense?

He knows about my CP and is very supportive, but I don't want him to see it when it's really bad and I'm in pain.

Also we're both busy studying, so that doesn't help as well.

I'm just a bit annoyed my mum was taking about marriage, more than anything. I think it's a bit too early to be thinking about things like that, and it's not worth me worrying about it.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Hi everyone,

Thanks so much to everyone who has messaged.

Me and Mr Bookworm have been talking for about a month, I'd say. We do get on really well.

We've discussed meeting up, but we haven't decided when and where yet. What makes it more difficult is that I'm going though a really bad patch with my CP so I don't want something like to overshadow that, if that makes sense?

He knows about my CP and is very supportive, but I don't want him to see it when it's really bad and I'm in pain.

Also we're both busy studying, so that doesn't help as well.

I'm just a bit annoyed my mum was taking about marriage, more than anything. I think it's a bit too early to be thinking about things like that, and it's not worth me worrying about it.

Ah the Mums ... bless 'em ... they do generally have your best interests at heart but really, it's your life and your future. Sadly the intense pressure from my Mum around wanting grandchildren led to me making a very poor choice in marriage so I tend to keep my own counsel these days

Sorry to hear you have been poorly

Thank you @BelladiMamma. I can talk to Mr Bookworm about my disability, but I don't want to meet him when I'm like this ❤️