Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@countesskay

@SpringlikeBunk

Oh yes definitely want to meet in public, just love the thought of a man who wants to cook for me. He seems really laid back about "going for a drink" so I think I'll leave the planning to him, I just normally like everything laid out to a T as I'm a massively anal planner myself. God knows what I'll wear if it's wet, god knows what my hair will be doing 🥴

Today was interesting. Had to Google 'outie' as someone mentioned it as a preference in their profile - along with his requirement for a high sex drive 😐... He clarified that he was not referring to belly buttons. So I had to find out. Think lady garden 😐 and then wonder how this can be so important to another human being that they require that rather than, say, kindness or intelligence.

vangogh the gardener sounds a catch. And MrNK has completely overstepped the mark. It's all going on round your way!

@Bbub

That sounds good for a drink - the atmosphere where I am is really nice right now? All the cafes etc seem really happy to be back in business.

I guess you can go to his for a meal later if you hit it off (I agree it's often cheaper and more chilled out and I like the chance to see someone's place and home environment and check it out ) but just at first I'd meet out.

It has made dating harder and a lot more weather dependent. But it's doable if you're both chilled about it.

Haha @VanGoghsDog I know Mr NK is a handful but your village life does sound funny!! People can be nosey in villages can’t they?! All knowing each others business... it is a pity Mr Gardener’s not devastatingly hot! Think diet coke advert kind of man! 😬

@SpringlikeBunk... have you heard anything from Mr PM???

@WeWantTheFinestWines there’s so many weirdos out there isn’t there.

@Eesha never tried that one, let us know how it is if you subscribe?

@WeWantTheFinestWines - ooh I swiped on him too (swiped left for clarification ! But I had no idea what an outie was - still don’t as I didn’t google!!)

I’m SE by the way , and early fifties - are we in the same region? That’d be funny if we were , we can compare notes !!!

I can’t remember what site it was - I’m on tinder, bumble and hinge.

@WeWantTheFinestWines @GaraMedouar

We must be in the same region. I’m in Surrey and he’s swiped on me at least twice. I know exactly who you mean and no I didn’t google what an outie was either !

[quote Myfabby]**@WeWantTheFinestWines* @GaraMedouar*

We must be in the same region. I’m in Surrey and he’s swiped on me at least twice. I know exactly who you mean and no I didn’t google what an outie was either ![/quote]
I'm in the SE too and feel like switching my profile back in to see if I can find this guy 🤣

Haha @Myfabby - are you a similar age? I live in the far SE corner on the coast - so I cover the triangle from S London , over to E Kent and down to Brighton. Mainly East Sussex and Kent but I do extend up to the south of Surrey too, maybe Oxted and Lingfield - small world.

As I live quite rurally I have to have quite a large area and be prepared to travel up to an hour really. Also living on the coast means I have no one to the south of me unless they live in the Channel (although I am often given French matches!)

I googled !

@GaraMedouar

Haha *@Myfabby* - are you a similar age? I live in the far SE corner on the coast - so I cover the triangle from S London , over to E Kent and down to Brighton. Mainly East Sussex and Kent but I do extend up to the south of Surrey too, maybe Oxted and Lingfield - small world.

As I live quite rurally I have to have quite a large area and be prepared to travel up to an hour really. Also living on the coast means I have no one to the south of me unless they live in the Channel (although I am often given French matches!)

I've got similar area coverage as you! But I go up to London as I work there & it increases the quality!! Although won't go much north of Camden unless it's West Hampstead (Thameslink comes to my station!)

@GaraMedouar

I googled !

Have also googled. I mean, why? And how many of us would actually classify ourselves in this way!!! Ugh 🤦🏻‍♀️

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Today was interesting. Had to Google 'outie' as someone mentioned it as a preference in their profile - along with his requirement for a high sex drive 😐... He clarified that he was not referring to belly buttons. So I had to find out. Think lady garden 😐 and then wonder how this can be so important to another human being that they require that rather than, say, kindness or intelligence.

Have you ever come across Naked Attraction @WeWantTheFinestWines ?

An outie!? What the hell. I would've thought belly button too. Date number four tonight with Mr Impressions. I'm absolutely smitten and can't even deny it...find myself wondering if it's too good to be true as I've never met someone so open and honest but I'm forcing myself to stop writing people off because I'm scared to be hurt! How's everyone else?

I've not Googled but I can guess what it is, it's an odd thing to be so......er.......up front about so early on!!
I've never really considered which I am. I don't even care.

I didn't realise men had a preference!

@havecourage8bekind

I didn't realise men had a preference!

They're lucky to think they have the option to exercise such a preference!

Hi there can I join your tread ??

Quick back story. Found out 2 years ago hubby of 22 years was having an affair. My world ended etc etc. Fast forward to a few years ago and I joined the world of OLD . Thankfully I had read a few posts on here about and it took some of the shock away 🤣🤣
Anyway I have been chatting this guy for about a week . Seems nice and is open with conversation. We are meeting tomorrow for a coffee and walk as things here are not open yet . My thing is . I am sooo nervous about it . I don’t know what to expect or anything 🤷‍♀️ I am going casual dress . But what then ?? We chat away I hope as freely as we have been online but what about the end ?? Do we hug, peck on the check 🤷‍♀️ I know I am worried about nothing and I just have to go and see what happens. And don’t even get me started on the what if I really like him and he doesn’t like me bit.

@Rainandspirit

Hi there can I join your tread ??

Quick back story. Found out 2 years ago hubby of 22 years was having an affair. My world ended etc etc. Fast forward to a few years ago and I joined the world of OLD . Thankfully I had read a few posts on here about and it took some of the shock away 🤣🤣
Anyway I have been chatting this guy for about a week . Seems nice and is open with conversation. We are meeting tomorrow for a coffee and walk as things here are not open yet . My thing is . I am sooo nervous about it . I don’t know what to expect or anything 🤷‍♀️ I am going casual dress . But what then ?? We chat away I hope as freely as we have been online but what about the end ?? Do we hug, peck on the check 🤷‍♀️ I know I am worried about nothing and I just have to go and see what happens. And don’t even get me started on the what if I really like him and he doesn’t like me bit.

Didn't want to read and run - briefly, I found the idea of date zero a really useful one. Do you want to see this person again, after this zero date? Personally I'm not up for masses of physical contact eg hugs and kisses til dates 2 or 3 or 4...! In my heaD, I'm always checking for halitosis 🤪

Wasn’t looking at this a a date more a let’s see what ur like in person!! In my head we are going to get our coffee then depending on the weather either go for a walk or stay by the cars where there is shelter. And just chat. Who knows if there will be more 🤷‍♀️ Just don’t want to make a fooo out of myself . 🤣🤣

@Rainandspirit

Wasn’t looking at this a a date more a let’s see what ur like in person!! In my head we are going to get our coffee then depending on the weather either go for a walk or stay by the cars where there is shelter. And just chat. Who knows if there will be more 🤷‍♀️ Just don’t want to make a fooo out of myself . 🤣🤣

If you meet up with that spirit I am sure you'll be fine, he's probably just as nervous!

I guess it’s only the same as us having certain preferences for men’s lunchboxes! 😂 not sure i think about that before personality traits and looks though, let alone declaring it on an online dating profile. I wonder if he’s put the same statement on his LinkedIn?!?