Dating Thread 203- Love is in the air!

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@TheCatWithTheHat

Happy Birthday *@Dancerinthemoonlight*! I hope you've had a lovely day 🍾🥳

Glad you had another nice chat with Mr Bookwork @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards - fingers crossed you get to meet soon.

Commitment without cohabitation is the perfect way of describing it. I met a couple on a trip a few years ago, and it was such a touching story. They both dated when they were young, but drifted apart, met other people, got married, had kids etc... then both found themselves widowed in their 60s. They then somehow met up again, and started dating - 40 years after they first met. He sold his house to move down to be with her, but instead of moving in together he bought a house just up the road - and would cycle over to hers every morning.

@UtterSocks I think I'll add that to my profile actually! Although if anyone now sees "likes making terrariums" on a guy's profile it will probably be me

And I'll be tuning in to Line of Duty too! It's been such a good season, and I don't want it to finish!

Thank you @TheCatWithTheHat 🙂 I hope so too 🤞🏻❤️

@UtterSocks

Hi all, just checking in to see how you all are! Happy Birthday *@Dancerinthemoonlight* 🍰🍾🥳

I also had to Google Terrarium! You do seem to have a wide range of interests @TheCatWithTheHat. I’d totally go for that on a profile even if the interests didn’t exactly align with mine (I’m a known plant hazard for a start) as am so over people who like “going out and staying in” or who are so lazy they don’t even wrote a profile and say “just ask” (erm, no - you have nothing that has piqued my interest and obviously have the intellectual and emotional life of a spanner).

If I ever go back on the apps I should make a list of things I don’t like and keep it constantly updated 😂. I will probably swipe on about one in every 1000 people...

@SortingItOut I hear you on the house front. I always thought I could never live alone (I never have) and would rather join a cult for company than do so, but I’ve done a lot of work on myself this year and now I think I could. My teenage DD can be infuriatingly lazy around the house and when adult DS comes home from university he creates such chaos I could kill him, even though I love him to bits!

Nice to see people getting decent dates! Mr Bookworm sounds promising @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. How you get your Italian date sorted soon!

Things the same here. Had a lovely couple of weekends with Mr G but our problem still stands. He is so averse to confrontation he will do anything to avoid talking about his ex or why he doesn’t tell his kids about me, and I have actually caught him out in a lie about it (I should have been a solicitor, nothing gets past me ahaha) but we do have a lovely time together and he has basically spent the weekend cooking for me or taking me out for meals, he’s bought me a lovely bracelet, tells me he loves me all the time - but whether or not he does, he still doesn’t take control of his situation and I need to either accept we are treading water indefinitely or move on 🤷‍♀️

Then again I’m firmly in the “commitment without cohabitation” camp (great phrase @SortingItOut) so it’s not 100% a dealbreaker. Just annoying really. He keeps asking me to book a holiday with him but I have told him I won’t because how is he going to explain to his kids he is going for a fortnight in the sun with a woman who doesn’t exist?

Anyway my priority for this evening is Line of Duty! Is anyone else truly obsessed by it? I’m actually nervous about the finale!

Thanks so much @UtterSocks. I'm so pleased we've begun to put a plan together. 🤞🏻❤️

@SpringlikeBunk im not competitive either but when complimenting child like anime type girls on open forums, copying them in, it doesnt sit well.

Im just not sure whether im overly judgemental.

@UtterSocks LOD fan too.....

Thank you for all the birthday wishes. My day turned around and I ended up having a good day. Made plans with a work friend to go out next weekend to celebrate it.

I have a quandary though. My dad has called a few times ago and I have spoken with him. He has transferred some money into my account as a present but also told me he was going to anyway so I would talk to him. (I went low contact with him about 3 months ago and in the process of changing my surname)
Now I just see the money as blackmail money and feel like I should transfer it back but also the want to say fuck it and to spend the money on myself for once as rarely spend my own money on myself.

Happy birthday @Dancerinthemoonlight.

Great update @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I had my usual walk today, then went to MrWG flat for a cup of tea, and some cake. He seemed in good spirits and I think because I have mentally moved on from him (a bit!) I was a lot more relaxed. Felt bad though as it's a Covid breach - although, as I don't have anyone to bubble with, I could say he's my bubble.

I was there about four hours. Mo romantic progress.

MrDecorator walk tomorrow.

@VanGoghsDog

Happy birthday *@Dancerinthemoonlight*.

Great update @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

I had my usual walk today, then went to MrWG flat for a cup of tea, and some cake. He seemed in good spirits and I think because I have mentally moved on from him (a bit!) I was a lot more relaxed. Felt bad though as it's a Covid breach - although, as I don't have anyone to bubble with, I could say he's my bubble.

I was there about four hours. Mo romantic progress.

MrDecorator walk tomorrow.

Thank you @VanGogh. Good luck for your walk with Mr Decorator! ❤️

Anyway my priority for this evening is Line of Duty! Is anyone else truly obsessed by it? I’m actually nervous about the finale!

Yep, was genuinely worried MrWG would ask me to stay and I'd have to decide whether to miss LOD for him!!

@Dancerinthemoonlight

Been in that money situation, keep the money. He owes you and he can't actually make you do anything because of it.

Buy yourself something he would disapprove of :)

@Dancerinthemoonlight keep the money. He gave it of his own free will. Buy yourself something nice!

I’m so disappointed by the LoD ending! That’ll teach me to be less invested in television! I felt the same about Dexter

[quote UtterSocks]**@Dancerinthemoonlight keep the money. He gave it of his own free will. Buy yourself something nice!

I’m so disappointed by the LoD ending! That’ll teach me to be less invested in television! I felt the same about Dexter[/quote]
@Dancerinthemoonlight I agree with @UtterSocks. Treat yourself. You deserve it and don't feel bad about anything ❤️

LoD was a bit disappointing wasn't it! Although the biggest unanswered mystery to me is how does Steve get so many women into bed so quickly? Is it the waistcoats?

@Eesha Tights that don't fit are such a bane🙄
For your interview I would be going with either a skirt, tights, nice boots/shoes, nice top and a cardi or black trousers and nice top and cardi or if you've got skinny leg black trousers I like a smart shirt with it.
(When I say cardi I don't mean a grandma cardi, just a fitted cardi thats waist length🤣)

@UtterSocks I'm afraid I cannot take any credit for the 'commitment without cohabitation' phrase, that was @Clovertoast.
I'm so happy to hear you would live alone now, no one needs to live with someone just to stop them being alone.
I'm sorry Mr G has still not progressed, for me the lying would be a big deal but then lying makes me disproportionately angry because of my ex.
Its such a shame you can't have the full package with him, the cooking, yhe time together and the I love yous are good for your confidence but not so great with your head when you think about the fact you are still a secret.
I hope it gets resolved soon.

Not a LOD fan, currently watching Wentworth on Netflix, up to series 7 now....I'll be up with the times soon!!!

@TheCatWithTheHat it's the little boy lost look/act I suspect that has women falling at Steve's feet!

I joined hinge yesterday, slim pickings but have one match so we'll see. Another day to myself with nothing planned - is it sad that I'll be glad to get back to work tomorrow?!

God I'm so awful at keeping up to date with everyone on here! How are we all? I had meet number two with Mr Impressions this weekend. Although we'd spoken on the phone multiple times a day since our first meet. It seems we are both a bit smitten!? He came to my town and we had a lovely walk, went into a few shops, grabbed coffee, did a boat race at the local park (felt 14 again!) Then watched crap Tele, ate Chinese & just enjoyed his company. It was strange and we both mentioned it - it was like we were magnets!? We spent 24 hours together and were touching in some way for about 23.5 of them hours lol! Hand holding, hand on the leg, just some kind of touch. Feels very fast (but comfortable/natural). I've never experienced a connection like this - anyone else had this?? As amazing as it feels, I'm scared x

& yes to LoD being underwhelming! Ps Steve would get me into bed in 0.4 seconds I think haha!

@havecourage8bekind aww absolutely love that feeling! That's what me and MrM are like. I seen him at work a couple of weeks ago and felt very strange to not touch each other, but the electricity still seemed to buzz between us. Enjoy!

@frankiefirstyear wow really.. Ive never experienced anything like this before! We stayed up til 3am, then wide awake again at 6:30 talking some more. I've heard people talk about this kind of chemistry but I thought it was nonsense to be honest!! X

@havecourage8bekind

God I'm so awful at keeping up to date with everyone on here! How are we all? I had meet number two with Mr Impressions this weekend. Although we'd spoken on the phone multiple times a day since our first meet. It seems we are both a bit smitten!? He came to my town and we had a lovely walk, went into a few shops, grabbed coffee, did a boat race at the local park (felt 14 again!) Then watched crap Tele, ate Chinese & just enjoyed his company. It was strange and we both mentioned it - it was like we were magnets!? We spent 24 hours together and were touching in some way for about 23.5 of them hours lol! Hand holding, hand on the leg, just some kind of touch. Feels very fast (but comfortable/natural). I've never experienced a connection like this - anyone else had this?? As amazing as it feels, I'm scared x

Yes I had this with Mr Bear after date 3 and I'm still buzzing from it. We are going really well and we make time for each other and time to be together. We say nice things to each other and are very open about what we want out of the RS which so far is pretty much exactly the same. Hoping to meet his sisters soon but leaving the DC for a much much later date. I just don't think it's appropriate until you're a good few months into things.

So pleased you've got something positive going. I've had nothing but disasters the last year so it's so nice to hear of and to experience good things! ♥️

@bellaDiMamma aw I'm so pleased you've got the same feeling! It's almost that instant chemistry you read about in romance books and roll your eyes at, isn't it!? We've even spoken about a weekend away which blows my mind after only two dates (considering I saw Mr Feminine 5 times and never even thought about any of this stuff). Don't want to let myself get carried away but loving this feeling x

@belladimamma Fully agree about the DC aswell, me & Mr Impressions have agreed that if this does go the distance, 4-6 months from when we would have called it official (minimum) for us to involve the children. X

Nice to hear of success stories. My (only!) match is providing one sentence answers, no questions - do I have to literally say what do you want to know about me?! Or just abandon ship? He initiated the match, if that makes any difference

[quote havecourage8bekind]@bellaDiMamma aw I'm so pleased you've got the same feeling! It's almost that instant chemistry you read about in romance books and roll your eyes at, isn't it!? We've even spoken about a weekend away which blows my mind after only two dates (considering I saw Mr Feminine 5 times and never even thought about any of this stuff). Don't want to let myself get carried away but loving this feeling x[/quote]
I can honestly say the last time I had fireworks like this after a snog was on the number 19 bus with my first love and that lasted a long time & we are now best of friends 30 years later!

I'm sad I compromised with my ex h because I kept hoping it was going to happen and it just never did.

There is also a distinction between chemical reaction when you first DTD which can just be your body and not your mind, body and soul (will stop there in case I sound like a Barry White B side).

[quote havecourage8bekind]@belladimamma Fully agree about the DC aswell, me & Mr Impressions have agreed that if this does go the distance, 4-6 months from when we would have called it official (minimum) for us to involve the children. X[/quote]
Definitely? What age are yours? Ours range from 10 to 19. I figured with the older ones I might even put the ball in their court in a few months, eg I've met someone, I'd like to have them in the house sometimes, how would you feel most comfortable for this to happen? How many times would you like to meet them? Etc. This is partly because the only guy they met lost separation was very short lived and then stalked me. Yeah. Total shit show!!

@Misty9

Nice to hear of success stories. My (only!) match is providing one sentence answers, no questions - do I have to literally say what do you want to know about me?! Or just abandon ship? He initiated the match, if that makes any difference

How long have you been talking? Have you suggested a video chat? Could be a good filter. If he can't up his game when talking 1-1 probably time to unmatch. If you can do the video call through the app. Or just unmatch and save yourself the mental load x

@BelladiMamma only since this morning - not a great sign is it?!