Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

Also ...
Have you been saving your kisses all for me
Il hold your hand to keep you warm

Yup, I wouldn't be going on that date! Run!

Eugh!!!!

Ugh I would usually give the benefit of the doubt and do one date but he makes me feel... squeamish? I'd get bored of those messages very quickly. Why is he so obsessed with making sure you impress him?

He is massively giving me the ICK factor.
I feel like he is looking for a stepford wife.

I wouldn't bother going on this date. FUCK that. Not normal. All that impress me crap, he wasn't telling you what he was going to do to impress YOU. All about how it's your job to impress some guy you don't even know.

I'd be cancelling now. 'YOu know what I'm really not impressed with? A guy who thinks women exist for his benefit, like you, for example. So no date tomorrow. Or ever.

Gross

Ugh .... I couldn't be doing with that.
I presume this is OLD and you haven't met him yet?

Hmm. It's all a bit unattractive isn't it. Maybe he should be worrying how to impress you? He sounds inept. Grim.

Yes online dating.
I was looking forward to a nice night out but now I'm massively put off.
I don't think I could cope with him for even 2 hours.
My friend said he might be nervous.

Gosh he sounds grim. Don’t bother is my advice.

That's very weird. I would cancel if I was you. No-one in real life talks like that and has any friends... For good reason

Please sack him off!!

No way
Run far!

Fucking weirdo. No, of course you don't go!

Oh god I got the full body ick from those comments! Argh. Don't go, he's making you cringe already and it isn't the odd remark, it's a clear personality trait of being totally obsessed with how women look, how much they want him and how physical they will get quickly. Ugh. Sack it off.

My friend said he might be nervous.

Being nervous is not the same as being a twat though.

Gross, I have cancelled a date before for pertaining to me making an effort for him. He texted something along the lines of 'wear something sexy'. Turned me right off.

This is odd, the whole point is to meet and see whether you like each other. He does not get to set a dress code.

He sounds really creepy and immature... don't go

Oh god that sounds awful to me. Very cringe! Is he hot? If so you you could just look at him with earplugs in and not hear a word of that drivvle. Ask him what he's dressing up in! Why do women have to make all the effort when we are visual too.
Perhaps just have the meal, take your photos and call it a night? Whilst you may not have dated in years OP, you are clearly uncomfortable with his approach and it sounds like he has never dated at all!

Don't agree that he's nervous. And if he is, this is not a good way to handle nerves and make himself feel bigger, by telling you what to do and trying to make everything about you pleasing him.

@walkigonsuncc

He is massively giving me the ICK factor. I feel like he is looking for a stepford wife.

Just cut him loose. Anyone who does that, don't even get to that stage, bin blokes like this off.

Nope, move on.

Any creepy comments about sex/love.. move on.

@Yellowhighheels

Don't agree that he's nervous. And if he is, this is not a good way to handle nerves and make himself feel bigger, by telling you what to do and trying to make everything about you pleasing him.

Yep!

WHY oh why do women do this? The social conditioning among us is horrible. Second guessing this creepy arsehole who isn't giving you a second thought beyond your looks and his pervy one liners.

He's not nervous, he's a creep.