Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

[BlueDahlia69]

I would like a Up/Down arrow button too

[HoppingPavlova]

You couldn’t pay me to go on this date.

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

My response would have been along the lines that we didn’t seem compatible, will leave things there and I wish him luck moving forward.

[DontBeRidiculous]

He sounds annoying. He may think this is flirting, but he's not very good at it! If you're already turned off, there's no reason to worry whether or not it's a red flag.

[Sally2791]

Just don’t do it. He’s a massive creep.

[Nothingyet]

he's giving you an incel warning!

[Mummyoflittledragon]

@OldWomanSaysThis

He has a fantasy woman made up in his head and he is trying to mold you into that woman.

This is the comment I most agree with. He’s expecting you to wear this image like a costume.

I know a woman, who’s in a gilded cage. Rumour has it she has to dress a certain way, not allowed to put on weight, was made to have breast enhancement and isn’t allowed to go out with female friends.

I can imagine the man you are talking to being equally possessive.

[Workingfromhomeishell]

He sounds awful. For so many reasons. I'd cancel.

[KarmaNoMore]

Fuck that, no. I met someone like that once, unlike you, I didn’t have a chance to run before the date as he didn’t start being like that unltil the moment we met,

Jesus, he was so annoying I felt like punching him within minutes. Incidentally he looked 20 years older than in his photo, arrived late, had not made a booking so long wait for a table and looked as if he has been sleeping on his clothes. Stupidly, I felt it would be too nasty to walk out of the restaurant after we ordered the food and before it was put on the table. I wish I had, that bloody 60 minutes left me so put off and Icked with online dating I couldn’t face the idea of going into OLD again for months on end.

I didn’t feel threatened but mega annoyed and patronised. We left the restaurant and he insisted in walking with me for the whole 20 minutes it took to get out of the pedestrianised area, then he said, when are we meeting again? Jesus, I have never been so close to loose my rag in my life with someone than at that very second!

Don’t go.

[fearfulexchange]

@OppsUpsSide

My friend said he might be nervous.

Being nervous is not the same as being a twat though.

This 🤣🤣

@walkigonsuncc did you go on the date? How was it?

You're very brave to agree dinner on the first dates. It's always a drink for me, at least I know I can get out quickly if I need too 🙈

[swiftt]

I would nope the hell out of that one, OP. I’ve got the ick myself just reading that.

[LoveIsAllThereIs]

Too much pressure. It's like he doesn't realise that sometimes thoughts in your head are best left in there

[FrozenVag]

Cancel

You don’t owe him anything after a week

[Sooobooored]

Nope definitely not. He wants you to wear a dress. What if you want to wear jeans?

[Beachcomber]

He's making himself sound like a knob at best and a creepy weirdo at worst.

He seems uncharmingly lacking in self awareness and unaware that his remarks are really sexist and inappropriate.

You owe this man nothing.

[Beachcomber]

And he doesn't sound nervous. He sounds like an arrogant arsehole.

[Eddielzzard]

No nerves don't make you sound like you're looking for someone from the 50's. Next he'll be wanting you to greet him at the door with his slippers

[RachelRavenR0th]

He sounds awful, creepy and controlling.

So the question is, why do you even need to ask?

[Novelusername]

Honestly, it's not worth going on a date with this guy, don't ignore your gut instinct. I know how it is, I was once convinced to go on a date with this guy from OLD thinking 'nothing to lose', the weather has turned nice and I wanted to sit on a terrace etc. I went with no expectations but it was still really, really not worth it! His behaviour was so bad I sacked OLD off completely. There are plenty of fish in the sea, it's really not worth trying to make something happen with a man who's already acting like a knob. He sounds like he gets off on the idea of women competing with each other for his attention by undergoing time consuming beauty regimes.

[category12]

Gosh op, you really need to listen to your own reactions to the guy.

You're repulsed.
Trust yourself.
Do not override your own instinct.

He's pissing you off and grossing you out already (me too).

So just pull out of the date.

That's what dating is for, he's "interviewing" for you, not just a one way thing.

He's failed one of the early sifts.

[rwalker]

I don't get the drama with OLD it's not even about if people think it's right or wrong .
You don't like it sack him off.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

Sounds like a nitwit (at very best) to me. No way Jose would I bring washing my hair for this guy!!! Or going on any date with him!! Sounds creepy and weirdly anxious! Nooo! Don’t go, OP! You aren’t obliged.

[OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow]

“Are you wearing a dress?”
“No, are you?”

Mayday in Red Square time.

[Fieldsofstars]

Trust your instinct. I couldn’t go on a date with him, I bet he’ll be really judgemental and possessive.
He doesn’t seem to care about your feelings already, it’s all about what you can do for him and not the other way around.

[nancywhitehead]

As others have said.... Ugh! No.

[Fieldsofstars]

I’d send a message but don’t point out what he’s done wrong so other women can be alerted to his behaviour before meeting him too.