Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

I got the ick just reading this. Very unattractive.

Are you wearing a dress for me? Objectifying cunt.

Fuck. No.

He's WAY ahead of himself. Saving your kisses for him and holding your hand too keep you warm.. that's creepy as fuck from someone you've never met. Please don't go.

Ew. I wouldn’t react well to someone making it obvious that they had expectations of how I should look/dress for a date, even if it was something as minor as nail varnish. Maybe he is nervous but it would annoy me. I was chatting to someone recently who mentioned twice that I would need to be ‘ladylike’, and maybe I am whatever his definition of ladylike is, but it put me right off and I didn’t meet him.

Nope nope nope! It doesn't show any intelligence or reserve whatsoever!

He is massively giving me the ICK factor.
You gave yourself the best answer on here.

@walkigonsuncc

Yes online dating. I was looking forward to a nice night out but now I'm massively put off. I don't think I could cope with him for even 2 hours. My friend said he might be nervous.

And please, do not ever consult this friend about dates again. She's one of those hand-wringing apologists for crap men.

He sounds massively insecure and looking for validation and an ego boost.
Don't go on the date he sounds like he's got the whole red bunting out

Urghh fuck no.

Well unless he was really,really hot and I really,really wanted a shag with him.

But dating? Potential partner? Nope.

And I bet he turns nasty when you cancel as he will be the type that doesn't accept rejection

Just send him this.

Give the bloke a chance. It's just some food and drinks. Then make up your mind.

I will say it does sound a bit yuk though.

Nope, too much pressure, I'd rather stay in with a hot chocolate with no make up and unwashed hair.

No, he’s not nervous he’s a twat.
If he thinks women are put on this earth to impress their men why on earth would you want to meet him. (And he obviously does, because he’s texted you this bullshit)

“I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.....” 🤮🤢

Two options:

• bin him off and tell him why
• or, turn up looking like absolute shit. Obviously not in a dress. Filthy nails, no make-up, bed-hair, fake-blackened tooth just for good measure.

Eugghhh.

Ewwww! Gross, that makes me cringe so hard reading it. He sounds like a brainless ‘lad’ type who thinks women are no more than tits and lipstick. I’d block him. Or tell him that he sounds like he wants a mannequin rather than a woman and it’s really off putting and see what the reaction is...

Nope don’t go.

He sounds like a sleaze. He would spend all night eyeing you and every woman in the restraunt up🤢🤢🤢 I'd give it a miss.

I wouldn't waste my time meeting anybody in person who annoyed me this much over text. He sounds like a tedious pain in the arse who is well ahead of himself for even suggesting there would be any hand holding or kissing.

If you do decide go, out of curiosity, let us know how it goes.

He's a twat , maybe nervous but still clearly a twat.

The replies on this thread need a 'like' button. They have had me roaring in laughter. Love how fiercely protective of OP we all are! MNHQ can we please get a like button???

He sounds desperate, needy and shallow. I'm turned off on your behalf.

Tell him you love a man in a thing and white socks - then book a table, grab a friend and go in disguise - watch him squirm.

But then I am old and bitter!!

Thong. Obviously

Urgh. He is grim. Enjoy not having dinner with him OP.

Yuck!
Does he just talk about appearance or does he mention your personality at all?

It seems like he telling you that you have to make sure your hair and nails are nice, I either wouldn't go or turn up with messy hair no make up and dirty nails