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Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

376 replies

walkigonsuncc · 22/04/2021 23:20

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

OP posts:
chaosrabbitland · 23/04/2021 06:13

that date sounds as much hard work as scubbing a patio by hand !

Hotcuppatea · 23/04/2021 06:15

OMG. What a dick 😆

GiveMeTulipsfromAmsterdam · 23/04/2021 06:19

My partner was nervous when he met me for the first time. OLD too. However, he never said anything like that Confused. He just chatted about general things.

I think he sounds really odd. Run.

GiveMeTulipsfromAmsterdam · 23/04/2021 06:26

When you cancel your date, which you should, he will probably become aggressive. Leading me on, time wasted etc ignore and block, don't engage further when you have cancelled

isthismylifenow · 23/04/2021 06:28

He'd be getting a swift unmatch and block from me.

He does not sound nervous whatsoever, he sounds like an arsehole. By any chance did he have one of those bios with instructions on whether to swipe in him or not.

How old is he just out of interest.

And perhaps next time you arrange a meet up, just do a coffee/a drink so you can make a swift exit if you need to.

Shoxfordian · 23/04/2021 06:29

Dodge that bullet op!

Branleuse · 23/04/2021 06:33

Stop replying to him and block.

pictish · 23/04/2021 06:35

Ha ha...just no. The first comment about having nice hair and nails and looking your best for him is more than bad enough but the rest that follows simply confirms what a bellend he is.

Your friend thinks he’s maybe just shy? Your friend, who clearly does not understand the definition of shy, can go out on a date with him then can’t she? I’m sure she’s got a nice dress and low standards to impress him with.
Ffs.

GelfBride · 23/04/2021 06:37

Nothing would get me on that date.

No thing.

pictish · 23/04/2021 06:38

Sorry it was ‘nervous’ your friend said. He might be nervous. Ha ha...he sounds rather bold to me.

fedup078 · 23/04/2021 06:39

Yuck

Justri · 23/04/2021 06:41

Creepy..

diamondpony80 · 23/04/2021 06:42

No, no, no! He sounds absolutely awful and self obsessed and is far from nervous. Get away now while you can.

Frownette · 23/04/2021 06:44

I know this is so wrong of me but I thought of Ted Bundy when you mentioned the nail polish Blush

MargotMoon · 23/04/2021 06:47

This is one of the reasons I don't OLD any more. He is either an insecure creep or a vain creep. Either way he is 100% a timewaster. Tell him how unpleasant you find his comments, cancel the date and block him.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 23/04/2021 06:48

Do not meet him under any circumstances, he is Bad News.

Cancel and then block him from being able to further contact you. Your friend has appallingly low standards when it comes to men too, calling this man nervous indeed!.

zaffa · 23/04/2021 06:49

Urgh he sounds really hard work!

zaffa · 23/04/2021 06:50

Also what if you don't like him after the date - how is he going to take that given how full on he is now? If you do go, don't give him any personal details, like your surname or your address or anything so you can just block and move on

Trixie78 · 23/04/2021 06:51

Don't go, I'd have blocked him after this comment,

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.

uptooearly2 · 23/04/2021 06:52

Sounds familiar. Have the messages progressed to "Will you be wearing a sexy dress?"

It sounds like he wants something casual. It would be red flag time for me.

DoingItMyself · 23/04/2021 06:55

Urgh!
NO.

Monkeymilkshake · 23/04/2021 06:56

Did you ask him what he was going to do to impress you?

Ansjovis · 23/04/2021 07:02

At best he's completely lacking in anything remotely resembling social skills. At worst he's a creepy who would become completely obsessed and stalk you given half the chance. Of course there's a massive range in between those two extremes but do you want to find out where he sits? I would not.

Clarice99 · 23/04/2021 07:05

He sounds AWFUL!!!!

I definitely wouldn't be wasting my time going on a date with a creep like that.

It's a 'do not go and block' from me Grin

honeylulu · 23/04/2021 07:10

Oh dear. All the "for me/ for your man" stuff is a definite no-no. I like wearing makeup, nail polish and dresses but it's for ME, because I like it. It's not for my husband who couldn't care less.

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