Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

[GelfBride]

He's single for a reason sure enough.

[Ellenthegenerous]

Ewwwww, no way. Run! I’d rather stay in and watch paint dry

[Sparklfairy]

I’d send a message but don’t point out what he’s done wrong so other women can be alerted to his behaviour before meeting him too.

I agree. If he finds out exactly what put you off he will just hide that side of him. These men dont change, the misogyny is too deep rooted. He'll just wait a while until he lets the mask slip next time!

[doctorhamster]

Run. A. Mile

[KatherineJaneway]

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.

🤮

[emmetgirl]

Ugh. Run as fast as you can. He sounds gross.

[greenflamingo]

He sounds like he has the dating style of a 14 year old. RUN!

[TheJackieWeaver]

Ugh. No! Send him a simple “I’ve realised we’re not compatible” message then block and delete.

[Batshitkerazy]

Yep, get rid!!

[Snapbacktonormality]

I’d have gone along with this some years ago when I was needy but I’ve overcome that. I wanted to wear heels on the first date with my chap, left it to him to chose the venue and he chose a bar at the top of a steep hill. I joked about putting my heels in my bag and he said to wear whatever I wanted and was comfortable, so I’d enjoy myself and feel relaxed.

By contrast, my ex used to get shitty when I wore flats for the weekend supermarket run. He’d point out I’d wear skirts and heels for work (corporate expectations in those days) but didn’t want to impress him the same. God I hate myself for putting up with his shit for so long.

[Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep]

Please say you have cancelled!!

[cupoftea2021]

Go by gut instinct and your tolerance level
Maybe his sense of humour is not to great..
or he is best avoided.
All the questions about appearance would
Make me ask what his fascination is or is he shallow.

[Allwokedup]

He’s sounds irritating

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

That is one creepy bugger!

Cancel. Don't say why - it might stop him waving those red flags and some other poor woman won't get a chance to see them.

Just tell him an old flame* has come back into your life, or you have broken both your legs or something. Or you don't think you're good enough for him - he'll like that. He is out of your league and you couldn't bear the disappointment in his eyes . . .

*Do people still say "old flame"? Oh. Just me, then . . .

[BurbageBrook]

Absolute creep. Sounds extremely dense as well. No way would I go on that date.

[howmanyhats]

He's a manipulative arsehole. You are under no obligation to go, please just cancel.

You will likely have to meet a lot of arseholes online dating before meeting anyone sound. Don:t waste any time on them, bin him and on to the next one.

[CaesarsDream]

He sounds lovely 😂😂😂

[cupoftea2021]

Ps.. you will meet some interesting characters in the early days of dating online or however you choose to meet.
Do not rush or lower your standards.
No doubt you know this but do not go for the sake of the his interest.
Go talk to others too.

[RulesDontApply2Me]

Bet when you meet him, he will have a greasy hue to his skin & hair, wear a stiff rain coat and smell of sour milk.

Hmmm, milky, milky.

[oakleaffy]

Jeez.......

I'd rather be single.

He sounds awful.

[Standrewsschool]

He’s irritating you and you haven’t even been on a date yet!

One comment could be put down to nerves on banter, several are self absorbed.

[awesomekillick]

He's not relating to you as a person but as a body. A woman's body. Which is a bad start let's face it

[WeatherwaxOn]

Urgh.
Reminds me of a guy who wanted to ask me out when we were early 20s.
One day he said, "I don't like that outfit you're wearing"
I told him I only wore it to annoy him.
Apparently he liked girly girls with make up, long shiny hair and flowery dresses.
Whilst I did have long hair (and a flowery dress) I was not, not ever have been, a girly girl. CBA with make up.
We're both married now. To different people.

[BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand]

@walkigonsuncc

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

Christ he sounds like a dullard. I'd be legging it because he's clearly pretty uninteresting to talk to.

The comments about what he expects a woman to do in terms of personal grooming are definitely a red flag for me as well. He expects you to make an effort to impress him? Get to fuck.

[Frownette]

Ha, @WeatherwaxOn!

I had 2 men I dated ask me to bleach my hair and wear high heels. You just look at them incredulously and say "no, I don't think so" (not unless you want to! It's not them who have to go to the expense and effort)