DH comparing me to other women and families

[Rosieposie79]

Just out of the blue over the last few weeks my DH has started comparing us to other families and me to other women. He is looking at other people's social media posts and getting grumpy because we are not out camping or whatever everyone else is doing.

Also more hurtful he is starting to tell me I look old and fat. If I yawn in his presence suddenly I have 'a thick neck and too many chins and look like...[insert name of overweight 60+ yr old woman].

I also saw a photo of myself the other day and was surprised I looked okay. After all the criticism I was expecting a picture of a hefty, pot bellied old woman.

I thought I was doing okay for 42 with two young kids. I have lost weight this last year and am now back at size 10/12 and just 2kg off my target. I am not very high maintenance and can be scruffy sometimes, but I try to keep myself tidy. I am definitely no slob. I also thought me and DH were doing okay after the rollercoaster of the last year.

I was looking forward to the summer but now this. Suddenly I am watching my every step - always standing up straight, tummy in etc... I can't relax or I just get a pointed sideways look and when I ask what the matter is a cruel remark in reply.

I feel like I am suddenly not good enough and going down hill fast. He says things like 'I love you and want to stay married to you forever but you have to stop wearing that jumper/ get fitter/ make more effort' etc.

Where could this have come from? What should I do?

[KatherineofOregon]

@TatianaBis look, enough already.

Clearly this thread has rung some bells with you. Post your own thread .

[KatherineofOregon]

"@TatianaBis Some things can’t be resolved Oregon, like your marriage."

Yes, i was abused so i left.

[YouJustDoYou]

fucking dickhead.

[TatianaBis]

Not sure why my post was deleted. Suffice to say that’s not what you said in your previous post, Katherine, and OP is fielding a nasty attitude from DH herself.

[DrSbaitso]

[quote KatherineofOregon]"@DrSbaitso I'm not in the habit of sitting DOWN and having a nice adult discussion with people who blame me for everything they haven't got and tell me I'm fat at size 10, ugly, look 20 years older than I am and everything is my fault.

You do you."

Well that is not quite what OP said. Talking is how you resolve things.

I hope you resolve your own clear issues. [/quote]
Talking is how you resolve things that can be resolved. Emotional abuse is not up for resolution. Insults do not make you right, but you already knew you weren't right because you had to reach for insults.

As for you talking about others having issues when you hijacked a thread to tell us all about your own marriage and have taken up a campaign against another poster (for which I am reporting you), well, I'd invite you to look at the irony but if you could, you wouldn't be doing it.

[TatianaBis]

Right and not because you didn’t say straight off: I left my DH because he was abusive. But instead said it was because he was boring and made no effort - thus you ‘felt like’ OP’s DH.