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Excited for first date but is this typical?

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cremeegg56 · 20/04/2021 18:39

Hi! I have a first date tomorrow, going for food and drinks with a guy I met on hinge which is really exciting. We spoke quite a lot a few months and did a few video calls early on, but communication tailed off because we were in lockdown.
He reached out recently and we both agreed we wanted to wait until lockdown was over to speak and we both weren’t looking for a penpal!

He suggested meeting and instantly put forward a date and time which was great. We planned it, he ended the convo then we didn’t text for 8 days. I was wondering if the date would still go ahead but he texted first today asking if I was still free tomorrow :)

We finalised plans then he said “see you tomorrow” and ended the convo. All fine of course, and excited for tomorrow, but I’m supposed I’m used to chatting to people who text a lot in between meeting? Is this a typical communication style? I’m okay with it, as I do prefer chatting in person but yeah it’s just not what I’m used to I suppose!

Does anyone have any similar experience and it’s worked out for the best? :)

OP posts:
cremeegg56 · 12/05/2021 10:30

Updaaaate!

Date 2 yesterday and it’s so frustrating because it couldn’t have gone better. Convo was flowing, he was hilarious and seemed a bit more confident. Literally had the nicest time, quite flirty and bouncing off each other.
If I saw him a lot I’d have no issue but he’s not exactly down the road. Shame his texting is so terrible! 😣😣😣
He texted to say he had a great time again, no idea what will happen next

OP posts:
LaBellina · 12/05/2021 13:37

I would start looking at other options OP.
Don’t get too invested in him, find yourself some other guys to text and keep you busy and make sure you stay available.
Chances are that this guy isn’t for you in the long run so I would make very sure to keep my options open and not focus too much on him.

LaBellina · 12/05/2021 13:39

And by find other guys to text I mean find some more ‘potential partner material’, go on dates, etc. Distract yourself basically.

cremeegg56 · 16/05/2021 12:01

lol no reply since Wednesday. Think that’s my answer and I’m just gonna put this one on the back burner now!

Thanks all for your insights again xxx

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wanadu2022 · 16/05/2021 20:42

Not even back burner! Delete and block so he can't contact you randomly and reel you back in.

Since he's not even making the smallest effort to reply to messages, he's absolutely not bothered by you. Don't give him access to you anymore. This is a total dead end.

Very sorry but do block him so he doesn't try to Hoover you when bored! Thanks

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