Worried about moving in with my girlfriend and her kid.

[Worried198X]

Hi all,

I worried about moving in with my girlfriend and her kids

[Tomyoneandonly]

The children are teenagers. Theres not long to wait. That's what I would say. Do not move in. You will not like it there .

[JorisBonson]

OP has updated. I wish people would RTFT.

[BlueDahlia69]

@JorisBonson

OP has updated. I wish people would RTFT.

yes.. its so very frustrating 🌸

[notagainmummy]

Don't look back OP!

[Worried198X]

Thanks for all the advice. So many red flags over the few years, dunno how I out up with it for so long, Guess I just got used to it. I actually feel really sorry for my ex, I think she has some real problems and will really struggle with everything on her own. Never going back though, made that mistake previously with her, never again.

[BlueDahlia69]

@Worried198X

onwards and upwards for you.

you did the right thing.

[Watchingthetelly]

You definitely have done the right thing. Fair play for being brave and making the change. I hope things go well for you now and maybe you might even meet someone you’d be better suited to

[AdaColeman]

Well done @Worried198X, a tough decision for you, but the right one to make!

[Wanderlusto]

Definately the right move.
Purely on the basis of her calling you 'every name under the sun' it would have been bad enough. Healthy relationships don't involve name calling.
Good on you for walking away.

[Babygotblueyes]

The behaviour of the kids is an issue, but so is the fact that you cant talk to her without her 'calling you all the names under the sun'. This is so not a good basis for a relationship. You need to get out soon. Progress with someone who respects you.

[Newestname001]

My goodness @Worried198X. It's refreshing to see an OP ask for advice, take on board what people are saying, don't try to backtrack from their original post and actually take same positive action!

You sound a really nice, caring person and really do deserve better than this ex-relationship. Please, DO make sure you're not dragged back - Mute/block/delete as appropriate- and increase the privacy on your social media so she can't see how you are living your life from here onwards.

Good luck. 🌹

[MumofSpud]

@CervixHaver

Presses open? Sorry what on earth does that mean?!?!

My husband calls the airing cupboard the hot press as he's from Ireland and that's what it's called in CorkMaybe he means cupboard doors?

[BasiliskStare]

I wish you well @Worried198X

I think it is very difficult to move away from someone who has been a big part of your life. But sometimes it is the right thing to do.

[Maggiesfarm]

Well done Worried.

[Indifferentchickenwings]

Don’t move in !!!

and I hope you can continue the relationship

[gamerchick]

Tbf you shouldn't have even met her kid, never mind staying over weekends at 5 months in.

Maybe take it a bit slower next time.

[tuvamoodyson]

@HollowTalk

'Presses' is commonly used in Ireland. They're not 'changing the language' ffs!

In Scotland too!