Would this freak you out?

[Chickencuddle]

So I have a history of sexual abuse and very small things can trigger me so It might just be me.
Last night I woke in the night to my husband climbing on top of me and lying on top of me. He kept bringing his face close to my face like nose to nose and then bringing it away then doing the same thing again and lying on me. I just Froze. I lay there for a bit Jyst kind of frozen then after a few minutes I opened my eyes to see if he was awake or had been sleepwalking. When I opened my eyes he was next to me just staring right at me. I pretended I had just woken up and asked him to pass me the water. I had a drink and we both went back to sleep. But it totay freaked me out and I feel like I just don't want to be around him atm. I know I probably sound dramatic

I’d be freaked out by the fact he seemed to be carrying out actions while asleep, but wouldn’t be scared.

Yeah, that would seriously freak me out.

Was he trying to wake you up in a funny way?

Or do you think he was testing the water to see what he could get away with whilst you were asleep?

What is he like in general normally?

It would freak me out. Unless I knew he was a jokester. But if it was the later I would still address it. 'Please don't wake me up by lying on me in future, its mega creepy and intrusive'.

If you suspect it to be the former though, dont sleep near the guy ever again.

*rather if you suspect it's not that he is a jokester

He didn't say anything after in fact he was really serious and quiet. He doesn't know I felt it or was awake I didn't say anything.

Why didn't you ask him what he was doing?
That's very freaky but it makes a difference if he was awake or asleep. Either way he needs to explain.

He didn’t know you woke up? But that would wake anyone up, so that’s bollocks.

I would absolutely be freaked out. You need to ask him about it. You need to know if he was awake or not.

You need to talk to your DH about this, OP.

I have had that face thing happen as part of night terrors .

Aside from the fact that this was triggering for you which requires a conversation with him in itself... even without that I would be asking him WTF he was doing.

@MazekeenSmith

Why didn't you ask him what he was doing? That's very freaky but it makes a difference if he was awake or asleep. Either way he needs to explain.

Freeze flop response. OP, talk to him.

Not saying anything to him isnt good. Just say it to him that it's not on. I don't think he was asleep doing that if he was looking at you wide awake straight after.

That would freak the life out of me.

I have to say if he was awake and doing that I would be seriously reconsidering things especially if he knows about your history as a survivor of sexual assault.

Yes, it would freak me out.

It sounds like he was definitely awake (?)

Very very strange behaviour, avdbid find it quite threatening .. and I have no history of sexual abuse.

That would totally freak me out and I'd be furious. I thinks its an incredibly threatening and quite frankly very very weird way to behave.

If my husband did this I'd say 'what are you doing?' 😲 imagine that.

It would freak me out too! The only innocent explanation is that he wasn’t completely awake. My ex-H used to do that - he’d appear to wake from sleep and I’d be talking to him but then he’d really wake up and have no memory of the previous minute or so.

Definitely ask him what he was doing.

@BreatheAndFocus

It would freak me out too! The only innocent explanation is that he wasn’t completely awake. My ex-H used to do that - he’d appear to wake from sleep and I’d be talking to him but then he’d really wake up and have no memory of the previous minute or so.

Definitely ask him what he was doing.

I did once have a conversation with a boyfriend whilst I was asleep, I can remember it. He was really confused as I was talking to him in terms of what was happening in my dream so it made no sense to him. I can remember being really annoyed that he didn't know what I was talking about.

Hi chicken

I have followed your previous post a while ago and I'm glad to see your still here.

I hope you and your kids are doing well, I have no advice regarding the lying on top of you as the things he has previously done to you (I'll not mention as it's your business) would lead me to think he had sexual intentions.

Keep safe and take care

I've read your other thread

He is a rapist and sexual abuser, he knew what he was doing and so do you

Please get back in contact with Womens Aid

Absolutely chicken I followed both your threads and he is an outright rapist
You would have been better off staying in the shelter - he won’t ever stop.

He has been great recently with me and the kids. I can't fault him tbh. I'm wondering if it was in his sleep. I don't want to jump on him at any little thing as he felt guilty after I left and I felt bad. We are still trying to get back on track as although he is being great I don't quite trust him yet I'm still feeling like he could go back to how he was and that's why this has just thrown me.

Well that’s very weird isn’t it?!! I would have asked him this morning what the fuck was going on and gauge from his reaction whether he was awake or asleep. Do you feel like he was trying to initiate sex with you?