Would this freak you out?

[Chickencuddle]

So I have a history of sexual abuse and very small things can trigger me so It might just be me.
Last night I woke in the night to my husband climbing on top of me and lying on top of me. He kept bringing his face close to my face like nose to nose and then bringing it away then doing the same thing again and lying on me. I just Froze. I lay there for a bit Jyst kind of frozen then after a few minutes I opened my eyes to see if he was awake or had been sleepwalking. When I opened my eyes he was next to me just staring right at me. I pretended I had just woken up and asked him to pass me the water. I had a drink and we both went back to sleep. But it totay freaked me out and I feel like I just don't want to be around him atm. I know I probably sound dramatic

Oh @Chickencuddle...

I remember your threads.

What worries me most is that he is numbing your children to inappropriate sexual behaviour. What happens when he bores of assaulting you?

And before anyone jumps down my throat I do know a woman in my support group that this happened to. Her father abused her mother for years, and then he eventually moved on to her. Worst still her mother thought everything was suddenly better and he’d changed for good.

Thanks for concern but everything is fine. I. Have had to remind him a few times that no means no. But other than that he has been great and brilliant with the kids. Like a different person. I still have questions sometimes about how he could change so drastically and why he couldn't be like this before....but I guess he was angry and frustrated and the shock of us leaving has put all that behind him and he now knows I can leave.

@Chickencuddle

I think he could have done it in his sleep though.

Yet he was awake as staying at you seconds later. You know he wasn't asleep, stop making excuses for his behaviour. I suspect this pass event he did was sexually related too

OP I've just read your thread from October which says this man sexually touches you whilst you sleep. And sexually assaults you whilst your children are near.

You know that's what he is doing now.

You need to leave and not go back to him.

Yes it would. This really needs a trigger warning

That is very odd behaviour. Your boundaries have been so damaged by his abuse that you can't see it now but I promise it is. Please leave

@Chickencuddle

Thanks for concern but everything is fine. I. Have had to remind him a few times that no means no. But other than that he has been great and brilliant with the kids. Like a different person. I still have questions sometimes about how he could change so drastically and why he couldn't be like this before....but I guess he was angry and frustrated and the shock of us leaving has put all that behind him and he now knows I can leave.

Jesus. You should never have to remind him that no means no.

very small things can trigger me so It might just be me

And if it's 'just you' you think you need to dismiss your feelings? That's not the case. If you are very sensitive, your partner needs to deal with you very sensitively, not disregard your sensitivities.

You shouldn’t have to remind him no means no! He knows what he is doing, he is an abuser. How would you feel if your daughter was in a relationship like this when she is older?