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What would your DH do?

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Whattodo21 · 13/04/2021 19:34

Just curious as to what would happen in other people's houses.
You arrange to go for a meal with friends. You decide not to drive, so that you can have a drink, if you wish.
You over indulge and end up home later than you otherwise would have.
What would your DH do the next day?

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EnterFunnyNameHere · 13/04/2021 19:37

Ask me if I had a good time, some light hearted teasing of my hangover but also providing tea and paracetamol. That said, no kids so he wouldn't have been relying on me for anything!

I assume this was not the response of you DH?

bloodywhitecat · 13/04/2021 19:37

Depends, if he was due to go to work he'd go to work, if it was a day off he'd carry on with whatever plans he had, he might encourage me to have a lay in if we had no plans.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 13/04/2021 19:38

Nothing. What is he supposed to do?

Pogmaasal · 13/04/2021 19:38

If it was a once off and I hadnt poohed the bed or damaged anything while drunk, then probably roll his eyes and tell me to go back to sleep for a bit

sunshineandshowers40 · 13/04/2021 19:39

My DH wouldn't be surprised! He would probably encourage me to sleep it off and eat something. Our DCs are old enough to amuse themselves though.

Champagneandmonstermunch · 13/04/2021 19:40

Carry on as normal I'd imagine. I'd expect to get up and do whatever I needed to do though.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 13/04/2021 19:42

mine wouldnt do anything

user1493413286 · 13/04/2021 19:42

Ask if I had a good time. If I’m coming home later than expected I normally let him know as in the opposite scenario I like to know so I don’t worry but I’m not sure he’d be bothered unless it was really late, then he’d just say can I let him know next time

MsAwesomeDragon · 13/04/2021 19:42

Mine would laugh a LOT!!! I've never been drunk since we moved in together, so he's never seen it. He would leave me in bed til I slept it off, then spend the rest of the day teasing me about it.

What did your dh do? I'm assuming he didn't limit himself to some gentle teasing?

Livpool · 13/04/2021 19:44

Ask me if I had had a nice time

same as I would with him

Insomnia5 · 13/04/2021 19:45

He’d get up in the morning with the kids and let me sleep in on the assumption I’d have a hangover. If he had to go to work then he’d leave water and paracetamol on my bedside table.

MadMadMadamMim · 13/04/2021 19:46

He wouldn't do anything. He'd just let me lie in and ask if I'd had a good time when I finally got up.

What is he supposed to do?

Insomnia5 · 13/04/2021 19:46

What did yours do?

Understandingnotignorance · 13/04/2021 19:46

After having a go would stop talking to me for a few days.

nimbuscloud · 13/04/2021 19:46

Nothing.
When the kids were small he would do the morning stuff with them, just as I would if the situation was reversed.

junebirthdaygirl · 13/04/2021 19:47

He would offer to collect me no matter how late and be secretly delighted l was letting my hair down as l very rarely overindulge. If l had a hangover he would laugh and tell me to stay in bed

Forthisisnt · 13/04/2021 19:47

What insomnia5 said.

GCSEmum2024 · 13/04/2021 19:47

He'd have come to pick me up.

BrieAndChilli · 13/04/2021 19:48

DH would deal with the kids, and leave me to sleep it off. If he had work/plans he would still do that but our kids are now old enough to cope by themselves.

UnsolicitedDickPic · 13/04/2021 19:48

This has happened in the past. He's got the little one up, left me in bed to sleep it off then given me some good-natured shit about it. Possibly make me a bacon sandwich.

ScaryMimeker · 13/04/2021 19:49

Depends.

A) Did you get home at 3am paralytic, behave irresponsibly, put yourself in danger? Then lose the whole next day puking?

B) Or did you get home at 11 when you said it would be 10 feeling a bit tipsy and need a coffee and bacon butty in bed the next day?

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Whattodo21 · 13/04/2021 19:50

I wasn't really late, or really drunk, just got over excited to see a couple of my friends for food and drinks.
In fairness, I didn't message him, as I had genuinely just lost track of time and when I realised the time, assumed he would be asleep as he hadn't messaged me.
I didn't wake him any more than I normally would coming to bed (he often goes to bed before me, as early as 8pm).
I was also up at 5 this morning and it hasn't affected anything he has needed to do whatsoever. The only person he has looked after is himself. I've dealt with the kids.
He's not happy, is barely speaking to me and generally making me feel like I've done something really bad.

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AaSaat · 13/04/2021 19:52

The only person he has looked after is himself

Is normally the case?

HeddaGarbled · 13/04/2021 19:52

Actually, when we were first married, he’d have sulked. But he got pulled up on that sharpish, and now would ask me if I’d had a nice time.

Imnotbent · 13/04/2021 19:53

It depends how late and whether my actions were affecting his plans or work. So if I was too hungover to look after the DCs and he had to alter plans or not go to work he wouldn’t be happy. Or if I was too hungover to attend a planned event etc.

On the face of it if I went out and got pissed, came home late and laid in bed all day with a hangover that in itself is not an issue.

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