Dating Thread 202: Here's hoping the lockdown loneliness and longing eases up soon...

[SpringlikeBunk]

Come ye all!

@BelladiMamma how did your date with Mr Italian go? ❤️

So the walking date with Mr Italian went well. He's a really nice guy, definitely not a sex pest but ... owns a property here which is let out ... no fixed abode here. No signs of being a cocklodger but equally no way of progressing the relationship unless he's prepared to shell out for hotels as I'm not going to be hosting.

In Italy he still shares a house with his ex and their child but they try not to be there at the same time and she goes to see her parents etc when he's back.

It's not an obvious situation for me really and I get the impression he's testing the water to see who's out there dating wise. My part of the world is on his list of places he'd like to buy once his financial settlement is sorted but they're nowhere near that.

Hmmm. Back burner methinks.

[quote OnwardsEverStridingOnwards]@BelladiMamma how did your date with Mr Italian go? ❤️[/quote]
Great minds 😁 thanks for asking

I have also just sent him a message to apologise for my potty mouth. I'm very sweary when I get going and forget that it can be off putting 😬 and unexpected as otherwise obviously I'm really terribly refined

@UtterSocks, distilling out from everything that you have said, it appears at the moment that whilst MrG is lovely there is something missing. I would be tempted to hang on in there and see what happens in the next month or so- lockdown lifting, summer on the way etc. Nobody wants boiled potatoes very day but there's a lot to be said for someone with whom you have all of the positive things that you list. It depends whether you think you will find Mr Super Iron that so many of us crave.

Glad date with Mr Italian went well Belladi - so if he has no fixed abode where is he living? In a hotel?

@GaraMedouar

Glad date with Mr Italian went well Belladi - so if he has no fixed abode where is he living? In a hotel?

When he's here he stays with his parents ...

@BelladiMamma

I’d think along similar lines tbh - back burner as he may be a nice guy

but I’d be worried he was looking for instant crash space/home comforts etc?

So ok to stay in touch, and go out with but not have him round for long periods of time.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 uttersocks

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

I’d think along similar lines tbh - back burner as he may be a nice guy

but I’d be worried he was looking for instant crash space/home comforts etc?

So ok to stay in touch, and go out with but not have him round for long periods of time.[/quote]
Definitely. And I'm not hosting someone who can't reciprocate

“Cheeky chappy”

Why does that phrase wind me up so much when I see it on a profile?

Also “secret children”

Not sure if it’s me being an uptight twat as usual, but I wish people would put it clearly on their profile rather than get into a chat then mention it?

No need for photos just “plus one child” or “have great daughters” something basic like that,

It’s awkward as I prefer to date childfree just at this life stage (I am myself) .

then I feel bad about retreating when it comes up.

I have a question - semi serious...
Why does every other bumble profile say “oh and I am x foot, as that seems important on here”

The heights are in the basic info already?!

Haha @Invisiblewoman1

I think that some guys spend ages reading sexist internet blogs from the 90s saying women are 46% more likely to have sex with them if they say they are over 6 feet. So they try to draw attention to that

I personally prefer shorter stockier guys even if get interest from tall guys.

@Invisiblewoman1 Cut and pasted profile from Tinder where heights aren’t provided.

I don’t think it’s sexist internet blogs, straw poll on here that happens every so often shows a preference for ‘taller than me’ @SpringlikeBunk

And lots of women in online dating must also read those blogs as they are always talking about wanting to wear their heels and needing someone over 6ft as they don’t want to tower over a guy.

@HairyArsedMan

I don’t think it’s sexist internet blogs, straw poll on here that happens every so often shows a preference for ‘taller than me’ *@SpringlikeBunk*

And lots of women in online dating must also read those blogs as they are always talking about wanting to wear their heels and needing someone over 6ft as they don’t want to tower over a guy.

Not great is it? Given that we all want someone we can be close to and feel good about being with. However I'm 5'5 in heels so don't ever have that issue.

@HairyArsedMan how bloody lazy!! I had no idea... thank you. I was starting to think I was the only woman on bumble who didn’t instantly ask for a guys height

@SpringlikeBunk “cheeky chappy” is a no from me too. It actually turns my stomach- no idea why 😂

@Invisiblewoman1 lots of men seem hung up about height. Mr Bike was about 5’7” and it said in his profile 5’10”. He was a very mild mannered sort but when I remarked that he didn’t seem 5’10” because he definitely was smaller than my son who is 5’10” he got all huffy and asked if I was “one of those bloody Tinder women who only like men over 6 foot”. Turns out he had a right chip on his shoulder about it but he’s obviously been rejected on height grounds before.

Oddly I’m only 5ft and never wear heels, but I do really like tall men who work out. Mr G is 5’9” and pretty ripped abs he is attractive but I’d prefer him to be taller if I’m honest. I’m a total midget hypocrite!!!

Just off the phone with lovely surgeon bloke really chatty and he’s going to try to come to my city earlier to meet

Not going to hold my hopes out as the NHS is going to be his first wife right now

but just “one nice meet” to dress up and go out is fine with me

Love a midget with a chip on their (not very high) shoulder

they tend to be quite dominant in bed and try harder than the tall ones

#TeamMunchkin
#WouldShagNapolean

@SpringlikeBunk

Just off the phone with lovely surgeon bloke really chatty and he’s going to try to come to my city earlier to meet

Not going to hold my hopes out as the NHS is going to be his first wife right now

but just “one nice meet” to dress up and go out is fine with me

One nice meet 👍🏻 here with you for that 💗

Yeh I’m not going to stereotype here but all the medics I’ve dated have been very charming and done “good date”

but they’re incredibly busy, and they don’t really struggle to get new female attention so often it’s hard to sustain?

Still, one nice walk out is fine

@SpringlikeBunk

Yeh I’m not going to stereotype here but all the medics I’ve dated have been very charming and done “good date”

but they’re incredibly busy, and they don’t really struggle to get new female attention so often it’s hard to sustain?

Still, one nice walk out is fine

Oh god so true! Another excellent tip from the collected wisdom that is this thread ...!

Well my facetime with my shorter than me iron went well last night. We've now exchanged numbers and we've said we'd like to meet although nothing set yet so I won't name yet