@TheCatWithTheHat
Glad you had a nice night out at least -
It’s a tough one - I don’t think there’s any “one size fits all” format as everyone is so different
One tip I read once on a dating blog was to make sure you’re filtering so the people you meet and connect with are showing reciprocated interest
and you’re fishing from the pool of people who look at your photos and your profile and ALREADY have you down as someone very attractive - this applies to both genders.
This means your conversion rate from meets will be higher?
So maybe women who instigate chats, bring up the idea of meeting?....
Maybe I’m reading it wrong but I get the vibe you’re more on the “gentlemanly formal side” asking women out on dates
and that’s awesome I love that - but also I wonder if you’re getting women agreeing just for a social thing who are a bit lukewarm?
Like, say, I could probably message MrGorgeous who wanted me to Instagram link and might be able to talk him into meeting? If I arranged a good night out etc.
But he hasn’t really shown much enthusiasm so even if he turned up I’m not sure what he would think?
With my last meet MrSaw I already found his profile attractive, or with MrPM I already like his photos etc.
That’s why I’m doing instigating and contacting them?
I mean I’m not sending photos of me naked and begging but I’ve kept regular contact, easily agreed to meets and suggested them etc.
I think for both genders the goal is to meet people who would be keen and interested even if it’s just meeting for a boring cup of tea and no glamour or sex or big nights out?
And filtering out any contacts who are lukewarm or require chasing or persuading.